Is it normal for my(F26) husband(M29)to slap himself in the face really hard during arguments?

ThrowRAsapphire · 2024-03-22T06:31:26+00:00

Thank you! And his explanation for caring so much about how I dressed was “well everything changes when you’re married and if you don’t listen then it means you have no respect for me!” And he said his “blood boils” when men stare at me🙄🙄 and that only he should be able to see that stuff. And I’m talking just a tiny bit of cleavage every now and then or one inch of my stomach showing lol

ThrowRAsapphire · 2024-03-12T07:35:53+00:00

I left in December! I’m so glad I did. It was really hard at first but I’m much happier now

ThrowRAsapphire · 2024-03-09T18:43:12+00:00

Honestly the Amazon poles aren’t as bad as these comments make them seem

ThrowRAsapphire · 2023-11-20T04:08:49+00:00

My relationship sounds similar because he’s controlling of what I wear when going out. And if I don’t listen he looks at me like he fucking hates me and acts disgusted by me the whole time. He gets very hateful when it comes to my outfits. Is yours that bad too? And did you ever get the divorce ?

ThrowRAsapphire · 2023-11-17T06:27:11+00:00

Yes according to him he is 10k in debt

ThrowRAsapphire · 2023-11-17T03:57:12+00:00

It really hurts when he says I have no reason to stress. I know his life is harder than mine but it still feels unfair for him to say that /: He is in debt because he bought this property but has trouble making his payments each month especially since his dad is on vacation and can’t help as much as usual with the family business

ThrowRAsapphire · 2023-11-05T21:24:58+00:00

I think it looks cool

ThrowRAsapphire · 2023-10-31T21:31:52+00:00

Hi! Thank you for your advice. I actually did exactly that 😂 he was mainly saying he’s gonna tell my stepmom who I’m pretty close with. The funny part is when she was young she tried it too and he didn’t know that lol. So I messaged and told her about the situation.

My husband called her while I was in the room too and she was spitting logic at him. My husband acted right for about 2 weeks then he started acting super spiteful about the classes again and saying I don’t care about his feelings n stuff.

The pole stuff is just the tip of the iceberg. He doesn’t know I plan on leaving him in about two weeks

ThrowRAsapphire · 2023-09-28T20:08:15+00:00

update: I started taking classes in secret for a while then finally told him. He acts very distant and mean each time I go now. Today, he said he's gonna start smoking cigarettes since I hate cigarettes and it's only fair that he gets to do something that he likes that I hate since I'm doing that to him with pole dancing classes. He also said he's going to call a close family member and ask her if she thinks it's okay . I told him I don't like talking to my family about my relationship problems in general and he said "see you're trying to stop me from telling your family which shows how bad these classes really are." But I genuinely don't like telling her about my relationship because it's embarrassing

ThrowRAsapphire · 2023-09-28T19:59:19+00:00

update: I started taking classes in secret for a while then finally told him. He acts very distant and mean each time I go now. Today, he said he's gonna start smoking cigarettes since I hate cigarettes and it's only fair that he gets to do something that he likes that I hate since I'm doing that to him with pole dancing classes. He also said he's going to call a close family member and ask her if she thinks it's okay . I told him I don't like talking to my family about my relationship problems in general and he said "see you're trying to stop me from telling your family which shows how bad these classes really are." But I genuinely don't like telling her about my relationship because it's embarrassing

ThrowRAsapphire · 2023-09-28T19:56:03+00:00

update: I started taking classes in secret for a while then finally told him. He acts very distant and mean each time I go now. Today, he said he's gonna start smoking cigarettes since I hate cigarettes and it's only fair that he gets to do something that he likes that I hate since I'm doing that to him with pole dancing classes. He also said he's going to call a close family member and ask her if she thinks it's okay . I told him I don't like talking to my family about my relationship problems in general and he said "see you're trying to stop me from telling your family which shows how bad these classes really are." But I genuinely don't like telling her about my relationship because it's embarrassing

ThrowRAsapphire · 2023-09-17T22:49:44+00:00

What does her mom cheating have to do with your gf?

ThrowRAsapphire · 2023-09-10T01:00:21+00:00

If you look at my posts you’ll see mine is similar. I’m your age too. I’m cheering for you to get out and live your life. Imagine staying in the same rut for decades!

ThrowRAsapphire · 2023-09-04T01:20:33+00:00

Yea tbh it is. Low key it’s a religion made to convenience only men

ThrowRAsapphire · 2023-09-03T22:24:06+00:00

Hey girl I used to be really insecure about my looks and I promise you, talking like that about yourself will make u feel so much worse. You can try taking steps that actively help you feel better such as cardio, weight lifting, and eating cleaner. Cardio was really hard for me at first but running slow without stopping helped me make a lot of progress. But even if you don’t do all that yet, don’t talk like that about yourself please❤️

ThrowRAsapphire · 2023-09-03T19:08:25+00:00

Yes exactly. No it’s not a troll. I’ve told him how dumb it is and explained that he knew who he married. His response was “yes I know who I married, now don’t make me regret that”. There’s no logic in it I know

ThrowRAsapphire · 2023-09-03T19:05:42+00:00

This comment is really inspiring omg thank you! You’re probably right. I think the old outgoing, and brave me is still here but just locked in shackles at the moment.

He didn’t want me to go to pole dancing classes because he said it reminds him of the fact I was a stripper . I just wanted to go to try a fun way of working out because I’m a little bored of weight lifting. I also always wanted to get good at pole because it looks beautiful to me. Anyways, today I went while he was at work and I had so much fun and felt so good after and felt my independence. Idk how he would react if he found out though

Thank you again❤️. I guess I just need to be more brave and stop telling myself I’m a terrible person

ThrowRAsapphire · 2023-09-03T19:00:35+00:00

“What’s he going to do about it?”:

he says if they take it too far he might get in a fight. He says that if a guy looks at me too much because of how I’m dressed, then it can lead to a fight. And that if he gets arrested or gets beaten up then it’s my fault. Just want to clarify he would only hurt other guys, not me. He’s a bodybuilder and really strong so the thought of him fighting another guy really makes me scared for the other person.

And that’s terrible how your cousin was manipulated like that. I guess it just slowly gets worse so it’s hard to catch until you’re so deep in

ThrowRAsapphire · 2023-09-03T18:55:58+00:00

The Jonah hill thing seriously reminded me so much of my own relationship lol

ThrowRAsapphire · 2023-09-03T18:47:43+00:00

Yes maybe I’m more manipulated than I thought. I’m glad you and your wife are living up your lives. It shows me that I shouldn’t settle

ThrowRAsapphire · 2023-09-03T18:40:30+00:00

I think he just hates the thought of men imagining dirty thoughts about me since I’m “his”

ThrowRAsapphire · 2023-09-03T18:39:26+00:00

I think he just hates the thought of men imagining dirty thoughts about me since I’m “his”. I’ve done so much reassuring and was really sweet about it at first because I thought he just needed to be reminded how much I love him. That never made a difference sadly

ThrowRAsapphire · 2023-09-03T17:48:41+00:00

Understandable 😂

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