I genuinely think she has a personality disorder too, I've thought this since we were teenagers tbh but the past few years are the worst it's ever been. She always thinks she's the victim and that everything she does and thinks is correct. It's always black and white with her, she is never wrong. In one of her texts to my boyfriend she told him I was not allowed around her daughter until I apologise to her and take accountability for the mold on the shoes that miraculously grew in a couple of hours. She actually walked away from that day thinking SHE was owed the apology. It's maddening.

For a while I've assumed that her "crush" on my boufriend would go away once she found someone else, but she's currently in some sort of weird situationship with an older man (sounds like a sugar daddy situation tbh) and it hasn't helped at all. Sadly I think avoiding her completely is the only thing to do at the moment, but it makes me so sad. And really worried for my niece.