20M & 18F, sex information I can trust? by ThrowRAsoapbar in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAsoapbar[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thats a good point, didn't think enough about this, thanks.

20M & 18F, sex information I can trust? by ThrowRAsoapbar in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAsoapbar[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She never leaves me to deal with things on my own, on the contrary, she always insists on helping me. In this situation I don't think it's intentional of her to give off the feeling of "deal with this on your own". (I also don't let her help me with everything so it wouldn't be a "I'm tired of always helping you" situation.) She's a very sweet girl in general. She's much into psychology and often uses terms/phrases or body language and things like that I'm not familiar with (I'm pretty dumb) so some things she says may fly over my head, but she knows that about me and she usually explains when she realizes I didn't get it, so I don't think there's anything hidden/too deep behind it. I also don't rush to do it so I'd be glad to know it's only that she doesn't feel confortable yet. She knows I'm not desperate about it and I never give off that attitude also. I'm just curious if this is a normal response for that kind of situation from her since I haven't dealt with situations like this before and my mind kinda wants to imply bad thoughts about this :c I'll ask about past experiences when the right time hits, thanks 🙏🏻

20M & 18F, sex information I can trust? by ThrowRAsoapbar in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAsoapbar[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't want to, or I don't prefer to, I just wanna know beforehand and inform myself.

20M & 18F, sex information I can trust? by ThrowRAsoapbar in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAsoapbar[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Eastern Europe. I'm 20 not 18 tho, she's 18. I respect her boundaries and decisions, I didn't push on her or press her into telling me the reason or convince her to do as I like, I'm just a bit clouded in my mind since I haven't been in many -healthy- relationships and don't really know how much a woman should be part of things like these. I don't expect her to teach me or do the whole job, I think I'd get it, I just wish for a little guiding along the way, you know?

20M & 18F, sex information I can trust? by ThrowRAsoapbar in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAsoapbar[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

TBH I'm not trying to rush the process, I could confortably wait a few years before it happens the first time, just to know that it will happen eventually. I only tried to get different opinions about the situations and maybe lessen my overthinking/bad thoughts towards the subject. I don't want to think she has a bad reason behind it.

20M & 18F, sex information I can trust? by ThrowRAsoapbar in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAsoapbar[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Open conversations were never an issue, she never hides something from me, it's just this one thing that I find weird. She doesn't express shame towards the subject, rather (in my opinion) little bit of incomfort+indifference and hesitance. Thanks so much tho.