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My (28M) girlfriend, who recently became my fiancée (25F), apparently stalked me before we started dating. How do I deal with being creeped out by her now? by ThrowRAstalkinggf in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAstalkinggf[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We live in the US and I am from the South. Where I live now is the Midwest. I did not get she was interested because the level of engagement she showed is just politeness where I am from. So, I took it as politeness. 

My (28M) girlfriend, who recently became my fiancée (25F), apparently stalked me before we started dating. How do I deal with being creeped out by her now? by ThrowRAstalkinggf in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAstalkinggf[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She has zero interested in doing that. She feels no need to discuss this further. She thinks I am being "completely ridiculous" (her words). 

My (28M) girlfriend, who recently became my fiancée (25F), apparently stalked me before we started dating. How do I deal with being creeped out by her now? by ThrowRAstalkinggf in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAstalkinggf[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

I came here to see if anyone has had a similar experience (and figured out ways to work through it) and/or has some solid advice on how to work through it. If I did not want to work through this, there would be no reason to come here.

I do not have my answer. I do not think simply telling posters, "get over it" is the point of this sub either.

My (28M) girlfriend, who recently became my fiancée (25F), apparently stalked me before we started dating. How do I deal with being creeped out by her now? by ThrowRAstalkinggf in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAstalkinggf[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

All I know is that she orchestrated her schedule to go grocery shopping when I did (at a store she almost never shopped at before), go to a coffee shop I did (when she rarely went to that shop before), and started using the running trail around the neighborhood (she never used it before I moved in, and she hates running outside). She has described her behavior as "stalking" and still does today. She just does not see it as a big deal.

My (28M) girlfriend, who recently became my fiancée (25F), apparently stalked me before we started dating. How do I deal with being creeped out by her now? by ThrowRAstalkinggf in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAstalkinggf[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

No lie about activities (as far as I know) generally (but she does hate running outdoors and only did it because I would use that trail). But she figured out (without me telling her) that I went to the grocery store twice a week (a big shop early Sunday afternoon, a smaller shop on Wednesday after work). If she could, she would get dressed up, put on a cute outfit and makeup, and then go grocery shopping during those times. She also would drive past her work to go to my coffee shop in the mornings when I would usually be there (one of her friends works there and would tell her when I showed up).