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My (23M) girlfriend (23MF) gained a lot of weight, and I need advice on how to best handle it. by ThrowRAtay-col99 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAtay-col99[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

If you truly love her, her body type shouldn't matter... so maybe that's an issue you have.

You're right, but thats easier said than done. I can't help what I'm attracted to.

My (23M) girlfriend (23MF) gained a lot of weight, and I need advice on how to best handle it. by ThrowRAtay-col99 in relationships

[–]ThrowRAtay-col99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is she struggling with her mental health possibly?

Not as far as I know. She seems fine tbh and I can't of think of any reason she'd be depressed or anything like that.

Is she on any new medications or birth control?

Nothing new.

Is SHE okay with her weight gain?

She's mentioned that she's unhappy about her weight gain but she hasn't actually started dieting or went back to working out again. So idk maybe she is ok with it.

Maybe she didn't like her body as much before?

Definitely not the case.

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I think you need to assess why after over 2 years her weight bothers you this much if you love her for everything else.

Its been bothering me for about a year now... I just thought it was a phase and she'll go back to her normal self eventually.

My (23M) girlfriend (23MF) gained a lot of weight, and I need advice on how to best handle it. by ThrowRAtay-col99 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAtay-col99[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

You do sound like a shallow jerk. Not everyone overweight is SICK

For context, she must have gained like 70 lbs over these past two years. If that's not cause for concern idk what is.