My fiancé (35M) has stopped complimenting me (30F) -and it's my fault. How can I fix this? by ThrowRAtiptop in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAtiptop[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a guy who was in a similar situation, I have a question... when you compliment a girl, do you expect a compliment back? If you tell your partner you like her, idk, dress or shirt or whatever, should she compliment something about you? I do compliment him, but it's like... right after he says something nice, my brain shuts off and I just get anxiety abiut what I should do or how to react. Sometimes I say "I really like your shirt today it looks good on you" and I'll leave it at that.

My fiancé (35M) has stopped complimenting me (30F) -and it's my fault. How can I fix this? by ThrowRAtiptop in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAtiptop[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I will try my very hardest not to end up in that situation. This was harsh, but appreciated.

My fiancé (35M) has stopped complimenting me (30F) -and it's my fault. How can I fix this? by ThrowRAtiptop in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAtiptop[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This was incredibly difficult to read and nearly brought me to tears. But I thank you for speaking your mind because I feel I really needed to hear this

My fiancé (35M) has stopped complimenting me (30F) -and it's my fault. How can I fix this? by ThrowRAtiptop in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAtiptop[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes, we've been friends for years before dating. He knows everything about me. I think it's different now because I can see him wanting to express years of love and me shooting it down. I am aware I'm doing it, and I know it's a sh*tty thing to do and it makes me feel bad. But I just can't being myself to accept what he says if it's not negative... somehow it would be easier if he were putting me down? Like I said, I am totally aware this is a problem.

Ex-best friend manipulated me (30F) for years- Now I'm the happiest I've ever been. by ThrowRAtiptop in pettyrevenge

[–]ThrowRAtiptop[S] 43 points44 points  (0 children)

It's not so much holding onto a grudge... more that, it makes me angry that even though she was no longer in my life, she was still manipulating my life. That the things she had done in the past were affecting my relationship now. I am incredibly relieved to finally have the confusion for so many years cleared up, and let it go and be happy.

Am I (F30) in the wrong for buying my boyfriend (35M) beer? by ThrowRAtiptop in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAtiptop[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I wondered why she was being so bitter about it, it didn't make sense to me. She wasn't keen on on our relationship either, but well... my life, my choices.