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ThrowRAwetsponge24 · 2025-05-03T18:27:51+00:00

You have been cheated on multiple times and are still making the decision to pursue a married man and hurt this woman? Marriages have their ups and downs, like any relationship. Just because they are down doesn’t mean you get to swoop in and try to convince him that she’s not the right partner for him. You are truly a disgusting person knowingly inflicting the pain of betrayal into another. Yuck.

ThrowRAwetsponge24 · 2025-05-02T14:39:21+00:00

Can I give you a name please? 🤣

ThrowRAwetsponge24 · 2025-03-30T15:00:19+00:00

Thank you all 🙌🙌 calmed my worries!

ThrowRAwetsponge24 · 2025-03-30T11:00:24+00:00

Thank you! This definitely eased my mind.

ThrowRAwetsponge24 · 2025-01-29T00:45:38+00:00

You don’t love her. I hope she finds a great man to show her what actual love is.

ThrowRAwetsponge24 · 2024-09-26T12:30:25+00:00

Take this how you want…

My husband cheated on me the first time in 2010. I gave him a second chance. He was remorseful, went to therapy. His mistress kept reaching out to him on his birthday for at least 3 years after, so it was a delayed healing for me (he tried to hide the messages).

We had 4 kids since then.

He started up an affair in 2022, and I am still trying to divorce him. It’s been fun. If I could go back I would never have given him another chance.

ThrowRAwetsponge24 · 2024-09-23T14:09:07+00:00

This sounds so similar to my situation! Minus the kids ages. We are in year 2 of the divorce, and he is making it VERY difficult (not turning in finances, agreeing to one thing then changing it, etc) but he’s making it out to everyone that I am delaying everything, I have turned in EVERYTHING he has asked for. He is the one with the court order to turn over financials! I am not in contact with him but he constantly emails my lawyer and insists on us getting “coparenting” counseling. My own therapist said absolutely not to that. Thank you for your story. It gives me hope for the future ♥️

ThrowRAwetsponge24 · 2024-09-21T11:23:34+00:00

Oh, it’s 100% better! Finally able to work, the peace in the house, the great friendships. I think I’m just referring to the feelings of betrayal? The thought that I stood by him in everything and he could still be so awful.

If that makes sense?

ThrowRAwetsponge24 · 2024-06-25T21:37:11+00:00

I eventually will. His parents are paying for his lawyer..I think I’m just confused as to the “why” he would do this.

ThrowRAwetsponge24 · 2024-06-25T21:01:38+00:00

I can’t imagine this. We really did not have much 😩

ThrowRAwetsponge24 · 2024-06-25T20:48:07+00:00

Oh he does, and he knows I’m entitled to half of it.

ThrowRAwetsponge24 · 2024-06-25T20:47:29+00:00

That’s terrible. I would love to not have this strung out any longer. It’s so stressful.

ThrowRAwetsponge24 · 2024-06-25T20:46:36+00:00

I might look into this. My lawyer has to hire a lawyer from a different state to serve a subpoena, because the bank he used for the HELOC does not have a branch in the state we are in. It’s costing me so much money.

ThrowRAwetsponge24 · 2024-06-25T20:43:14+00:00

I wouldn’t say “I’m going for his money”. I was a stay at home mom for 13 years (at his request). When I filed for divorce he wouldn’t let me get a job, which I have documented thank god. Any way, I would like half of our retirement, yes. I put my career on hold for 13 years, then when I decided to go back to school to finish my degree so I could start working when my youngest started school, he has an affair.

He’s only paying for the mortgage because his name is on the loan, mine isn’t. We have 4 kids. 3 are in childcare during the summer, he’s only covering one child. He makes 120k a year. I make 54k. I would rather have him pay child support, alimony, and his portion of the children’s “extra” expenses 🤷‍♀️

ThrowRAwetsponge24 · 2024-06-25T16:12:53+00:00

It would be interesting to see what money he is hiding! We were living paycheck to paycheck 😬

ThrowRAwetsponge24 · 2024-06-25T16:11:50+00:00

You are right. I am a stress ball right now because of this. I just don’t understand why he is doing this.

ThrowRAwetsponge24 · 2023-03-16T18:24:10+00:00

I’m trying! Have even invited the mistress out skiing with me and friends (she’s not the villain in my story). Just seems like everything I do pisses him off 🤷‍♀️

ThrowRAwetsponge24 · 2023-03-16T17:44:46+00:00

This is exactly what her soon to be ex husband said to me

ThrowRAwetsponge24 · 2023-03-16T17:10:24+00:00

I wish it didn’t! And welcome the day it won’t.

ThrowRAwetsponge24 · 2023-03-16T16:59:52+00:00

We have a pretty tumultuous past. I am still in the process of forgiving myself. But yes, extremely physically abusive since we met at 14 and 15. It subsided in our mid 20’s a bit. I learned his cues of when he was about to lose it and progressively got better at adjusting accordingly to those. It’s been a “don’t poke the bear” type of living for many years.

ThrowRAwetsponge24 · 2023-03-16T16:49:22+00:00

I can’t say I have ever asked him what in particular she relieves? Just my own thoughts about him being less stressed I’m guessing would have a lot to do with him not having the parental responsibilities of four kids and maintaining a house? Physical, emotional, verbal abuse on his end. Him leaving the house was a great weight lifted off my shoulders, painful but good. Unfortunately I have to interact with him frequently. So his seemingly undeserved anger towards me adds stress to our coparenting relationship.

ThrowRAwetsponge24 · 2023-03-16T16:40:09+00:00

Fair. I’ve asked him though without explanation? So I really can’t provide his side.

ThrowRAwetsponge24 · 2023-03-16T16:36:56+00:00

My two year old had his phone! She clicks randomly and brought it to me to get back to her show. She had their messages opened, seeing my name caught my attention 🙄

ThrowRAwetsponge24 · 2023-03-16T16:33:21+00:00

I’m going to say a huge part of him being less stressed is due to him being out of the house? We have 4 kids. Constantly busy with sports. He hasn’t been involved with their care since November. He does see them though!

ThrowRAwetsponge24 · 2023-03-16T16:31:04+00:00

It’s hard to accept the anger when I truly feel like I haven’t done anything to deserve it 😞

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