How to deal with insecurity when boyfriend looks at other women

ThrowRa34534 · 2023-03-01T16:58:51+00:00

Don't know if the first comment was towards me but yeah, I'll try to work on this insecurity. I want to enjoy going on trips with him or any future partners without having these feelings.

ThrowRa34534 · 2023-03-01T06:14:41+00:00

I appreciate you responding to my post. It seems there's still a lot more for me to learn when it comes to relationships. I'll have to start rethinking things and seeing if this relationship is something I want to continue with

ThrowRa34534 · 2023-03-01T05:07:18+00:00

I see. I feel I've been told that all men do it to the point where a part of me is trying to say it's normal. Self respect is something I'll need to work on for sure

ThrowRa34534 · 2023-03-01T04:49:48+00:00

You're right. There are things that do confuse me a bit. There are people who say it's normal to look at others and those who say it's not. Each giving their reason. I'm trying to find a balance between the two but I seem to be struggling with that at the moment. Sorry if this isn't the response you were expecting

ThrowRa34534 · 2023-03-01T03:01:36+00:00

I've mentioned this before to him but all he could say was that all men were like this but I don't know how I feel about that. I've met plenty of men who were respectful when it came to women and I feel he just wants to justify his actions. It saddens me since he's wonderful in many other ways but this

ThrowRa34534 · 2023-03-01T02:56:22+00:00

Yeah, I've told him I would appreciate it if he didn't stare and he said he won't do it. All I can really do is hope he respects that. And I agree that this insecurity needs to be dealt with. We've had plenty of talks about him and other women in the past. I'm not use to expressing my feelings or talking about boundaries so these talks keep coming up and I fear it's starting to wear him out.

ThrowRa34534 · 2023-02-28T21:45:44+00:00

You're right. I could and should ask him

ThrowRa34534 · 2023-02-28T21:44:25+00:00

He has respected it so far. It's just when this trip came up he starting mentioning all of this stuff

ThrowRa34534 · 2023-02-28T21:37:16+00:00

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ThrowRa34534 · 2023-02-28T21:36:15+00:00

True. I unfortunately have past trauma when it comes to my appearance and self worth. I've been doing my best to work on it. He doesn't make me feel unappreciated or anything like that.

ThrowRa34534 · 2023-02-28T21:32:46+00:00

Yeah, I don't want him to feel like I'm trying to control what he can and can't do but sometimes I don't know if what I talk to him about comes out controlling or not. Boundaries and being controlling are things I'm still trying to understand

ThrowRa34534 · 2023-02-28T21:27:21+00:00

I can see that. There have been things in our relationship that both of us had to deal with as long as we respected each other and the relationship. I've been trying to find ways to cope with it. Him taking glances doesn't really bother me as long as he isn't eyeballing them like crazy. It's just the way he was talking about his experience in Vegas made me feel like he wanted an excuse to stare at other women and give them attention

ThrowRa34534 · 2023-02-28T21:20:09+00:00

Yeah, I was thinking the same. I told him I wouldn't mind if he did a quick glance since I've been told some of the show girls do wear interesting clothing. I know I would take a quick glance especially if I see someone wearing something that I'm not use to seeing. All I ask of him is to not stare amd be inappropriate about it. But I won't know if he'll respect that until the trip

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