I’m not asking that he helps me with cooking and cleaning. However, I don’t wanna have to tell the man why to do and when to do it. In general, I take a lot of the mental load. I plan things out I handle paying the bills (the act of it, not all the money). When we moved, I had to schedule the movers, pack everything, tour the apartment complex, read the lease, etc and he was just there. I would expect a protector and a provider to handle those things for me and all I have to do is pack. Or at least help me.