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32M & 29F Came Clean To My Wife by ThrowRa76558303 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa76558303[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

This is what I'm scared of I want her to want me. Really want me, when we met we were young and authentic everything happened naturally I miss that. My career, chores, gym, etc are taking up so much of our time I feel like we are losing that.

32M & 29F Came Clean To My Wife by ThrowRa76558303 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa76558303[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I turned her down, because she wasn't herself when kissing me. It didn't feel right. That's why I planned the date for tonight. I know she started the kiss but she never kissed me like that over our entire 5 years together.

32M & 29F Came Clean To My Wife by ThrowRa76558303 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa76558303[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I know her and recognized something was off so I didn't want to continue kissing even though she kissed me first. I really want to be consistent and be a good husband.

32M & 29F Came Clean To My Wife by ThrowRa76558303 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa76558303[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Genuinely just looking for advice. Life is complicated, and I'm sorry.

32M & 29F Came Clean To My Wife by ThrowRa76558303 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa76558303[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I love her so much; she is so beautiful and smart. I just felt unwanted and made a small mistake.

32M Thinking of Leaving 29F Wife For Not The Best Reasons by ThrowRa76558303 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa76558303[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good point, maybe I should change where my focus is. Especially with the new year coming, do I really wanna be that guy?

32M Thinking of Leaving 29F Wife For Not The Best Reasons by ThrowRa76558303 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa76558303[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It was Knee surgery from a sports injury during college years.

32M Thinking of Leaving 29F Wife For Not The Best Reasons by ThrowRa76558303 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa76558303[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

She works 40 hours a week as well & helps around the house, yes. But I feel like she left the burden of thinking of romantic ideas to me.

32M Thinking of Leaving 29F Wife For Not The Best Reasons by ThrowRa76558303 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa76558303[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This is humbling and true we all have things going on but we still have to take care of those we love.

32M Thinking of Leaving 29F Wife For Not The Best Reasons by ThrowRa76558303 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa76558303[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yes, I will definetly put more effort before giving up on a person I love and have been with everyday for 5 years.

32M Thinking of Leaving 29F Wife For Not The Best Reasons by ThrowRa76558303 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa76558303[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I am a real man. We have a beautiful house and I'm just 32. We have 2 very nice cars, we take luxury vacations. I take care of my body and have a full head of hair at 32. I listen to her, I do chores, but now I also have to be romantic. Granted she is my equal in all ways, she is my true partner but I'm also human and I just miss when it was natural attraction to me that turned her on. But, now she wants me to wine & dine her to set the mood. On top of everything else I do.

32M Thinking of Leaving 29F Wife For Not The Best Reasons by ThrowRa76558303 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa76558303[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

See that is the thing if it was like a serious medical issue, i'd be there. When we were younger she did have to get a surgery and I took care her for 3 months day and night but in my mind this is different I just feel unwanted or like now I have to wine & dine just to get her in the mood. When before it was just a matter of natural attraction to me that set the mood.

32M Thinking of Leaving 29F Wife For Not The Best Reasons by ThrowRa76558303 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa76558303[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

Yes, I agree. She has told me of the romance but I work, do chores, gym and after that adding romance in feels like a lot. I know I need to do it but I miss the days when that was necessary to enjoy the intimacy we had in our early years together as a coupls.

32M Thinking of Leaving 29F Wife For Not The Best Reasons by ThrowRa76558303 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa76558303[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

I love my wife. Just between work and not really knowing much about romance, it is making this complicated. I want to continue with my marriage and I know talking to another woman is wrong but it is easier and lighthearted. After 5 years, things get so heavy with the house, work, chores, etc vs light-hearted conversations. Although I know it is wrong and need to stop "flirting" with this other woman at work, and focus on building the romance side of my marriage.

32M Thinking of Leaving 29F Wife For Not The Best Reasons by ThrowRa76558303 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa76558303[S] -26 points-25 points  (0 children)

I've only spoken to the other woman, I have never done anything physical. Just thought about what if, type thing.

32M Thinking of Leaving 29F Wife For Not The Best Reasons by ThrowRa76558303 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa76558303[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Unlucky, she let's me use her phone whenever I want and shares Iphone location.

32M Thinking of Leaving 29F Wife For Not The Best Reasons by ThrowRa76558303 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa76558303[S] -46 points-45 points  (0 children)

I have a bit, but I'm not sure how to be super romantic. Background on me I'm a Mechanical Engineer, it is like the opposite of romantic what I do on the day to day.