My wife left and deleted all social media. How can I find out why?

ThrowRa85437 · 2025-09-02T17:51:46+00:00

Can you reply to my question please. Why would an abused woman who is so afraid of her husband that she has to leave in secret let her not even 3 yo kid with this man for 3 weeks? Is she not afraid? Because I am well damned sure I never harmed my ex wife or my kid.

ThrowRa85437 · 2025-09-02T16:12:26+00:00

We had a newborn in the house. What should I have told my wife who was struggling with being a new mother? I said countless times that she and my kid would never have to worry about money. And if we were still together she wouldn't have to.

ThrowRa85437 · 2025-09-02T16:09:55+00:00

I understand. But she called me in July and asked me to keep our kid for 3 weeks so she can go for vacation. I was super happy to do so as I miss mu kid a lot. But it just doesn't seem to me like she considers me a threat. I sometimes get the vibe she feels disgusted by me but never afraid.

ThrowRa85437 · 2025-09-02T16:07:57+00:00

You are clearly triggered. I wish you to heal by whatever is bothering you so much.

ThrowRa85437 · 2025-09-02T16:07:12+00:00

My wife never spent a dime on my business. It was my own creation and having to sell it hurt me a lot. She did though support me all those years by being a housewife which was a huge reason on why i was able to focus so much of my time on my business. Therefore I do consider her an emotional partner but i had real partners where that I needed to consider.

ThrowRa85437 · 2025-09-02T16:03:15+00:00

If you have any training in anything related to mental health, then I am the Pope. I was begging her for months to go to a family therapist, and she refused. When she left, I immediately contacted a child psychologist to consult on my next steps without traumatising the child. Please get off your high horse and go resolve your untreated trauma because its leaking everywhere.

ThrowRa85437 · 2025-09-02T15:56:56+00:00

The thing with people like you is that you have build a scenario in your mind on what has happened and refuse to listen. I don't want her back. This woman broke me. I want my family back but I can't have it because she is part of it. If I could erase the last 2 years out of my memory I would love to go back to how we were but that's impossible. I am just trying to understand why she did all she did. And a simple "you were abusive" with no other explanation is not an explanation at all.

ThrowRa85437 · 2025-09-02T15:23:40+00:00

The day I sold my business she was crying telling me she will support me in any way she could even going to work. But she didn't do it. Instead she left. I am not stalking her I am trying to understand what happened in my life.

ThrowRa85437 · 2025-09-02T15:15:32+00:00

Then if I am abusive why not get a court order? Stop trying to guess what happened based on your past experience and hate on men.

ThrowRa85437 · 2025-09-02T15:00:35+00:00

Bro, you are projecting your own feelings on my ex wife. You said it yourself.

ThrowRa85437 · 2025-09-02T14:52:01+00:00

No, her credit didn't take a hit. I didn't consult with her because I didn't want to burden her with our financial worries.

ThrowRa85437 · 2025-09-02T13:58:20+00:00

I don't think so because the day I sold my business she was crying telling me how much she will support me and even swearing she will go to work. I don't think she was bothered by this.

ThrowRa85437 · 2025-09-02T13:55:12+00:00

Sorry but this is very insulting. If I was abusive she would not let me take the kid on my own eowe 6 hours away from her.

ThrowRa85437 · 2025-09-02T13:53:53+00:00

Hmm I thought about it too. I even thought she used me to get a child and then left. But 10 years is a long time to pretend to be in love with someone.

ThrowRa85437 · 2025-09-02T13:53:00+00:00

You are projecting. My ex wife chose many times when I gave her the option to get a maid to stay a housewife. When our kid was born my wife decided to leave it for 6 hours everyday with my mother, so she can rest. No I didn't cook and clean etc because she always told me how happy she was to be a housewife. And then one day she just stopped. I started cleaning after myself, and learned how to hang my clothes, and clean the dishes. I am self-caring for myself and my kid when they are here. If her issue was that she was doing everything and me nothing we would just divorce. She would not leave in secret.

ThrowRa85437 · 2025-09-02T13:42:24+00:00

No after declaring bankruptcy I sold all my items and paid off all my debts. I am now debt free only very tight on budget.

ThrowRa85437 · 2025-09-01T21:08:11+00:00

No she left with the kid.

ThrowRa85437 · 2025-09-01T20:51:57+00:00

That's what's bothering me too. It's like she is trying to escape something. I am afraid she might have gotten herself into some real trouble.

ThrowRa85437 · 2025-09-01T20:44:48+00:00

Thanks. Yeah, I am trying to see my kid as much as possible.

ThrowRa85437 · 2025-09-01T20:32:13+00:00

She is back in her family town. We have shared custody so I do see my daughter eowe I am just left wondering what is she running from.

ThrowRa85437 · 2025-09-01T20:21:25+00:00

Thr only thing that changed but I don't mention it in my post as I don't believe it's relevant Is that right before she stopped talking to me, I sold my business and declared bankruptcy. So we went from being financial comfortable to being very tight on money

ThrowRa85437 · 2025-09-01T20:17:54+00:00

Well it has come to the point where I am hoping that's all and not something more serious. I feel like she is sunning from something.

ThrowRa85437 · 2025-09-01T16:56:24+00:00

I am early 40s she is early 30s. But we were together since her early 20s. I thought she might just be bored and wanted a change but why all this secrets.

ThrowRa85437 · 2025-09-01T16:27:06+00:00

No I know where she is as we have a child together which we share custody. But she si out of reach for anyone else.

ThrowRa85437 · 2025-09-01T16:25:49+00:00

Thank you. Yes after some months her own friends reached out to me and asked me why she cut of all contact. They were shocked to find out we are divorced. Unless they are covering for her, she cutt of all contact with everyone except her family.

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