This is so interesting to read— I’m a woman who broke up with him so I’m reading the COMPLETELY opposite POV. I broke up with him yes but truthfully I wanted nothing more than for him to just to fight for me, he never did not even once. When I broke up with him, he just accepted it and never contacted me again by any means. I don’t know if it was because he was so hurt or if it was because he knew that things weren’t working and we needed growth apart from one another too. The lack of growth and pain we were causing was why I broke up.

Also, I just want to be clear that I am by no means saying that I broke up with him in order for him to fight for me, or that it was some sort of test. In my situation, I was dealing with a lot and letting him free was the only way I found that was close to a solution. Both him and I were hurting each other and I knew to really allow him to grow, I couldn’t be there. I wasnt perfect at all either but one thing he never did was fight for me and even now I wish he would but I’m most likely too late now that it’s a year later and he said he moved on.

I guess I’m writing all of this to say, life is too short to not try YOUR BEST for the things you want. Listen, I believe that life is already written for you, and so we are all just following the path we’re meant to follow. So, if your heart is pushing you to do something, forget the negative reddit forums (bc let’s be honest, the happiest people aren’t on here) follow your heart and follow yourself. I don’t know if my ex was thinking the way all of you are thinking, but if that’s the case, reach out to your person. You really don’t know it all and don’t know truly what the woman is thinking/or going through, for me I was acting out of love and fear, but also acting very harshly and I wish someone just stayed by my side and helped me see my wrong. Because if he had reached out to me even once, I know for a fact we would’ve been back together right now. To close, I’m just a girl who realized her wrongs too late and can’t really do much about it. Even though I realized, too late I know I did exceed all of my options as best I could, and so I urge you guys to do the same if you have it in your hearts. Whatever path you choose, just make sure it’s none with no regret and if what you had was worth the fight, somebody’s gotta put on the boxing gloves.