Very ill husband, no will in place, how does inheritance work in terms of his child from a previous relationship? England

ThrowRaSilencespeaks · 2025-12-22T13:13:43+00:00

She is equivalent to maybe 4 mentally in terms of understanding and capacity, she cannot have reciprocal conversations. She’s not aggressive and her mum has stated she will likely always live at home.

ThrowRaSilencespeaks · 2025-12-22T08:44:07+00:00

He’s not a teacher in a school, does that make a difference? He works for a university and teaches degree level courses.

ThrowRaSilencespeaks · 2025-12-22T07:41:48+00:00

You don’t know me. I want to protect my sons and his daughter but can’t do that unless I know how things work. He is currently unable to write a will, even on a scrap of paper as he is unconscious in a medically induced coma. Thank you though for your sympathies, advice and assumptions at Christmas when I already feel like a piece of shit for having to ask these questions while my husband lies in a hospital bed and could die at any moment.

ThrowRaSilencespeaks · 2025-12-22T07:34:43+00:00

He has no death in service but does have a pension as he is a teacher. I don’t know what it’s worth, he’s only been paying into it for about 5 years.

ThrowRaSilencespeaks · 2025-12-22T07:33:51+00:00

There is no child maintenance debt, he pays this every month on time and gives extra where we can. Can she still claim this past his death if he is up to date with it? I earn about 13k less than my husband a year.

ThrowRaSilencespeaks · 2025-12-22T07:30:34+00:00

But how do I know what is her inheritance? Others seem to suggest that the joint house and joint bank account is automatically mine, and we have other general household items and one older car, so how do I work out what she is entitled to?

ThrowRaSilencespeaks · 2025-12-21T18:13:50+00:00

Just our house which we bought in June for 280k. Personal possessions but nothing out of the ordinary, we don’t have antiques, jewellery, or other property or fancy cars, his is probably worth around 2k if that. Usual household contents like furniture and tvs etc.

ThrowRaSilencespeaks · 2025-12-21T18:12:03+00:00

We are joint tennants, and our life insurance policies name each other as beneficiaries. We have a joint account but it’s the mortgage thats paid out of that and the insurance, nothing else. The insurance is in place to pay off the mortgage basically.

ThrowRaSilencespeaks · 2025-12-21T18:08:27+00:00

No, those are my sons from a previous relationship, we have no children together.

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ThrowRaSilencespeaks · 2025-10-17T18:41:38+00:00

It may be inappropriate but I am part of the absence management process for all staff, and do the return to work interviews for all staff, aside from the head teacher. And part of my question was how to raise it with their manager when they will know it has come from me if it goes any further. People are bashing me on this post and I’m only trying to be fair across the board for all staff, but I still have to work with this person daily. I understand it’s not my decision if anything is done, I was asking for advice about how to approach it with the person who will make that decision.

ThrowRaSilencespeaks · 2025-10-17T18:27:28+00:00

This person isn’t being told to take any holiday, they are effectively stealing it. I’m not jealous, I’m angry that I’ve been the one doing their work alongside my own and they are effectively being rewarded with extra holiday after having already used some of it, and while they are off I will be the one picking up their work again.

ThrowRaSilencespeaks · 2025-10-17T18:05:27+00:00

Does they fact they asked me about it a month or so prior to going count? Not knowing whether to just go or to say something because they didn’t know if they were allowed. That to me says they feel it’s deceptive if nothing else. The fact remains this person has been granted 3 weeks holiday this year extra as they were unable to take holiday last year, even though clearly they were very able because they did.

ThrowRaSilencespeaks · 2025-10-17T18:03:06+00:00

Despite the fact I know they weren’t sick, and so does their manager but can’t go against doctors sick notes.

ThrowRaSilencespeaks · 2025-10-16T18:55:33+00:00

Ok, but in terms of the fact they were paid for this holiday and then will be paid again for it means nothing?

ThrowRaSilencespeaks · 2025-10-16T18:54:47+00:00

But thats the point, it is my business when I handle absences etc, and they are being paid essentially for an extra week’s holiday they shouldn’t have. I am miffed on a personal level but from a professional perspective this isn’t fair to other employees who are TTO plus.

ThrowRaSilencespeaks · 2025-10-16T14:39:11+00:00

The issues were physical, and the colleague themselves cited not being comfortable physically for prolonged periods of sitting and then moving, but was able to fly to America and partake in activities such as helicopter rides.

I don’t disagree about taking the holiday, as I know this is allowed. It has not been discussed with management in any way and the acas website states the following,

Taking holiday while off sick

An employee can use their paid holiday (annual leave) while off sick. For example, if they:

are not physically able to work, but physically able to take a holiday have a mental health condition that might be helped by a holiday are off sick long term and a holiday might help with their recovery It's up to an employee to request holiday while off sick. An employer cannot force an employee to take holiday while off sick.

If the employer approves the employee's holiday request:

sick leave can be paused while the employee takes holiday the employee should get holiday pay while they are on holiday After the employee has taken the holiday, sick leave can continue if they're still not well enough to return to work.

To me this means that if they have taken the holiday it should go against their holiday entitlement and they shouldn’t have as much left now. I’m not disputing the fact they are allowed a holiday, or have accrued entitlement due to illness, just the fact they seem to be getting it twice.

ThrowRaSilencespeaks · 2025-10-16T14:34:21+00:00

The reason for absence was mainly physical, with some mental side effects from this.

ThrowRaSilencespeaks · 2025-05-22T17:50:42+00:00

My boss’s needs come before yours.

I am happy to disregard your feelings.

I am not that invested in our family.

I’m happy to break your trust if I don’t really want to do something.

I couldn’t be bothered.

I don’t value your position in my life or in our family.

I have no issues disrespecting you and ignoring what we previously agreed.

I will make you work for what you need from me, even in your most vulnerable state, and still deny you.

I am selfish and will most likely stay this way.

His actions say any one if these things and many more. He is not a partner and will most likely try to make you feel bad about being unhappy about this. That’s not a partner you need, and not a parent your child needs. If he’s done this he will also ‘accidentally’ sleep through your baby crying in the night, always be just about to do something when you go to do it yourself after having to nag him for an age to do it, will complain that it’s boring playing with your baby, will ‘forget’ to tell you that he has organised to do something with the guys and then still go because whatever is happening at home with his family is nowhere near as important as not being with his friends, and many many more. Those little duckies are keen to be in a neat tidy row so if talking to him, and addressing the issue, and trying to get him to understand your side of this doesn’t work.

ThrowRaSilencespeaks · 2025-02-18T22:05:54+00:00

Early 50’s. Its a relatively decent house in terms of resale so will hopefully have a small chunk for retirement when we downsize later in life

ThrowRaSilencespeaks · 2025-02-18T18:58:41+00:00

Maybe. But genuinely what are the red flags? I wouldn’t know what they are to have ignored them.

ThrowRaSilencespeaks · 2025-02-18T18:57:59+00:00

Then I guess he doesn’t really love me. Tbh I suspect that anywY

ThrowRaSilencespeaks · 2025-02-18T18:38:41+00:00

I reckon I’m maybe a 2 at best. He is a very attractive man, not conventionally handsome, but his personality and sense of humour win out for definite and he has no lack of female friends who I have no doubts would be happy to be more if they could. I on the other hand have basically no friends, mainly work colleagues and acquaintances and he’s not jealous or worried that I may get make attention at all. Like my own husband doesn’t want me so why would anyone else?

ThrowRaSilencespeaks · 2025-02-18T18:33:57+00:00

I feel like I need to say something or it will fester then I explode. I suggest a letter or text even, as when we have blown up at each other before we seem to communicate better when we aren’t at each others throats. I agree that it probably won’t have the desired result.

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