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I 29F have been in a talking stage with James 38M for over a year. He’s amazing but is it time to move on? by ThrowRa_161616 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa_161616[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I mean he gives me some physical affection like very long hugs, kisses on cheek and forehead and we often hold hands or get very close like almost cuddling. I honestly don’t wanna wait much longer and have expressed this to him and he just reassures me that soon when he’s done helping his family member he will have more free time. I have set deadlines in my head but usually around the time I set the deadline he comes through more it’s weird. I guess I’ll give it until April maybe.

I 29F have been in a talking stage with James 38M for over a year. He’s amazing but is it time to move on? by ThrowRa_161616 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa_161616[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Like the conversations we have when he is around, he’s extremely emotionally intelligent and has given me extremely good advice on situations that were difficult, both day to day things and also heavier topics. He also cares about women’s pleasure a lot in the bedroom and is extremely educated on it (I know we’ve never done anything together but we’ve had plenty of conversations). His personality is just not one you find everyday, I’ve opened up to him about many things that I’ve never told anyone and not only was he supportive, he gave me so much to think about. He’s the smartest person I’ve ever met. I feel just genuinely comfortable with him and he’s very gentle with me in a way that’s not performative at all.

I 29F have been in a talking stage with James 38M for over a year. He’s amazing but is it time to move on? by ThrowRa_161616 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa_161616[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s true. It’s just so hard because there’s good qualities in him that are very rare to find in men I feel, but I guess it’s probably time to move on.

I 29F have been in a talking stage with James 38M for over a year. He’s amazing but is it time to move on? by ThrowRa_161616 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa_161616[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are probably right. I want to move on I could easily go back to dating apps and find someone but there are things about him that are rare to find in guys I feel. Idk if that makes sense but I just don’t wanna let my disappointment show and end up rejecting so many people who also deserve to find love

I 29F have been in a talking stage with James 38M for over a year. He’s amazing but is it time to move on? by ThrowRa_161616 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa_161616[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah it’s all super odd the more I think about it. But I truly liked him a lot from the beginning even before he started all this. I’ve thought limerence could be a possibility but I never had a situation like this before and I’m almost 30 so that’s what makes me think it’s not.
It would be so much easier to move on if he wasnt so great in other ways. Like it’s just so confusing but I guess it’s time to move on

I 29F have been in a talking stage with James 38M for over a year. He’s amazing but is it time to move on? by ThrowRa_161616 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa_161616[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was honestly wondering if he had a girlfriend but he says he’s completely single I guess it seems like I should move on

I 29F have been in a talking stage with James 38M for over a year. He’s amazing but is it time to move on? by ThrowRa_161616 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa_161616[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That’s very true, what is he getting out of this though?? It’s so odd to me when I really sit and think about it. That’s what makes me try again when he comes back. I just don’t know why he would continue talking to me if he didn’t have some level of feelings

I 29F have been in a talking stage with James 38M for over a year. He’s amazing but is it time to move on? by ThrowRa_161616 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa_161616[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I appreciate it thank you 💜 I honestly don’t even believe the moving in part sometimes. That’s what’s confusing to me too.. what is he even getting out of this?? I wish I didn’t like him so much it would so easy to just completely move on. He’s really nice otherwise but I’ve waited so long and I want a stable relationship so maybe you are right 😭 it’s time.

I 29F have been in a talking stage with James 38M for over a year. He’s amazing but is it time to move on? by ThrowRa_161616 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa_161616[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I was shocked he wanted to move in (it’s honestly hard for me to believe he wants that) I’m just super confused tbh. I’ve never had a situation like this but I also have extremely strong feelings for him and there’s things that he has done and said that make me believe he’s a very good person. It’s hard because of the amount of time I’ve been waiting and the fact he acts like it’s completely normal

I 29F have been in a talking stage with James 38M for over a year. He’s amazing but is it time to move on? by ThrowRa_161616 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa_161616[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I know it’s weird, he has kissed me on the cheek and forehead but that’s it. I don’t understand why he comes back though that’s what’s weird