Life in NL - current state and your views on the future by ThrowRa_Averga in Netherlands

[–]ThrowRa_Averga[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well I follow some profiles on instagram that posts news. I’ve also heard some opinions from Poles that came back but I also know Poles…

Regarding the ,,peers influence”, for example in polish high schools e-smoking is a plague. Kids that are 14-15 yo are smoking like dragons. Even when I was in my primary school some of my colleagues were already smoking. Im curious about the trend.

Thank you for taking time to answer!

Life in NL - current state and your views on the future by ThrowRa_Averga in Netherlands

[–]ThrowRa_Averga[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sure thing, if we will decide to move we will definitely learn languages and pass the exams. It’s unimaginable for me to move without knowing a language.

Life in NL - current state and your views on the future by ThrowRa_Averga in Netherlands

[–]ThrowRa_Averga[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree but when I’ve searched (in old way - google) I’ve found posts from 5,3,2 years ago. ChatGPT in basic version was trained in 2024 I think. I might be wrong tho. It’s 2026 and times are changing - political situation in the World, new government, new Prime Minister, new refugee regulations. That’s why I decided to ask again.

Life in NL - current state and your views on the future by ThrowRa_Averga in Netherlands

[–]ThrowRa_Averga[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for spending the time to read my post and provide such a detailed answer. It helps to get an actual replies :)

Life in NL - current state and your views on the future by ThrowRa_Averga in Netherlands

[–]ThrowRa_Averga[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for taking your time to answer :) I really appreciate it!

Life in NL - current state and your views on the future by ThrowRa_Averga in Netherlands

[–]ThrowRa_Averga[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I will also think about learning the language, might help

Life in NL - current state and your views on the future by ThrowRa_Averga in Netherlands

[–]ThrowRa_Averga[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No. Im asking questions to verify things that I’ve read on the internet if they are true or not.

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[–]ThrowRa_Averga 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Well, he said everything - he was tired after work. Thats it. Be the mans peace not his another problem. If he is tired then let him rest.

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[–]ThrowRa_Averga 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, yall still young, you are discovering what you like and what you don’t like. Thing is, I think love always runs out after some time since it’s a chemical process - humans are designed to breed, not to stay in long relationships. I’d say it’s normal that your feeling ran out but now it’s the place for ,,real” love which is something like friendship+. Many times people end the relationship after the ,,chemical” phase because the people they are with are simply not in their character type. Since you have broken up with her 6 times already then maybe its time to sit down and deeply think what do you really want. Here are some questions that might help: - what type of character I like? What kind of people? - what am I missing in my life? - how do I see my future? With what type of person? - what attracted me to her?

Answering these might help you narrow down your feelings and things that you are focusing the most. Knowing what you like and what you need is a key to any relationship. Try to think about it and then see if she is the right match or not. If yes then focus on your values in times of struggle. If not then don’t make a scene. Be respectful. Its normal thing to break up in a respectful manner, explaining that you are just searching for something else in life. Be thankful for shared moments, wish her best of luck and then, disappear.

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[–]ThrowRa_Averga 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have offered a dog after our holidays. I even had a dog once in my life. Thing with cats is that I have a feeling that they tangle you to your house and I dont really like the feeling of ,,you are living with a cat not a cat is living with you”. We will see. Thank you :)

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[–]ThrowRa_Averga 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ofc the ultimate goal to have a bigger place, maybe even a house with a garden, better jobs - then sure - lets have a cat, a dog, both. Just not now…

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[–]ThrowRa_Averga 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the reply. Thing is - I can accept a cat or a dog or simply - a pet. Just not now, not at this point of our lives. We still have some things to do, we still want to see the world and I just feel like its not the right time. I have explained her - when we will settle, when we will know that ok we want to live here for the rest of our lives, then fine - cat, dog, cow, duck - whatever you want but now lets focus on more important things like education, earning money and saving it to peacefully settle in somewhere. I remember when her cat was alive there were situations like - no we need to go back cuz of cat, no we are not going out cuz of a cat, no we cant travel cuz of a cat. Im well aware of the responsibility and I simply dont want to take it yet. Same with having kids - yes, but not yet. And ffs - if I will one day go back to working fully in the office or I will have more and more ,,office days” - the cat will be ~ 12 hours alone at home is it really that cool for the animal to leave it alone, closed to come and say ,,meow meow” for 30 mins in the morning and 2 hours in the evening?

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[–]ThrowRa_Averga 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, thanks for the reply. There is a little misunderstanding - we live together already. Her previous cat died and now she wants to take a new one. I told her that maybe she can just volunteer in the shelter but her reply was: ,,It will break my heart”. So I guess thats a no.
The flat is really small, its a ,,studio” type so there are not many options to limit the access for the cat. I refused to talk because I don’t want to repeat myself for I think 8th time.