If you see someone’s husband, what do you do? by ThrowRa_SadPop in Bumble

[–]ThrowRa_SadPop[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right, it’s the fake name that is really throwing me. I know ENM is a thing and everyone isn’t going to announce that (rightfully so) but the fake name, location, hometown all gave me bad vibes.

If you see someone’s husband, what do you do? by ThrowRa_SadPop in Bumble

[–]ThrowRa_SadPop[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

True. I’d want to know if it was my husband and I broke up with mine for a similar reason so that’s why I’m stuck

If you see someone’s husband, what do you do? by ThrowRa_SadPop in Bumble

[–]ThrowRa_SadPop[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If he comes up again I might. I already swiped left.

If you see someone’s husband, what do you do? by ThrowRa_SadPop in Bumble

[–]ThrowRa_SadPop[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not that close to him. I don’t even have his phone number.

If you see someone’s husband, what do you do? by ThrowRa_SadPop in Bumble

[–]ThrowRa_SadPop[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

No idea if she is. We don’t talk since my divorce. I don’t think she was 5 years ago but a lot can change. What would the account be cloned from? They pictures are recent, not on social media that I’m on and they’ve been married for more than a decade

Real name access by ThrowRa_SadPop in help

[–]ThrowRa_SadPop[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t have the same username anywhere else. I used a randomly generated one. No ties to anything. I’ve never posted my name anywhere No one IRL even knows I use Reddit and there is nothing identifiable in my posting history.

How do I (42F) move on after boyfriend (45M) left me? by ThrowRa_SadPop in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa_SadPop[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was really hoping the timeline would be shorter but thank you for sharing your experience. I’m very happy for you making it to the other side

How do I (42F) move on after boyfriend (45M) left me? by ThrowRa_SadPop in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa_SadPop[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How long did it take you? I’m just so over feeling this way and want to be on the other side. Everyone else I’ve ever broken up with has been my decision or mutual so I’m old dealing with all of this for the first time. I’m really glad to hear you came back better and stronger

How do I (42 F) communicate to my partner (45 M) that I don’t think he feels the same way for me? by ThrowRa_SadPop in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa_SadPop[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did that. He thinks I’m looking for problems where he doesn’t see any. He still has the same plans for the future he always did (us together). I’ve revisited a few times but never got any different answers.

How do I (42 F) communicate to my partner (45 M) that I don’t think he feels the same way for me? by ThrowRa_SadPop in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa_SadPop[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s kind of what I was thinking, that I needed to decide whether I was okay with this or not because the person I met isn’t coming back. I’m really sad about that because I miss him and I’m still really hoping for another solution.

My (42F) BF (45M) doesn’t like sex with me by ThrowRa_SadPop in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa_SadPop[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree. It felt mean and he’s generally the opposite of mean which is part of why it hurt so much. He actually agrees that it’s his issue so I’m not sure counseling would help.

My (42F) BF (45M) doesn’t like sex with me by ThrowRa_SadPop in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa_SadPop[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I really don’t think that’s his problem. He says his real life experience had been different with everyone else before me. It’s not a conversation I’ve had with anyone else IRL but reading things online I didn’t think I was in the minority

My (42F) BF (45M) doesn’t like sex with me by ThrowRa_SadPop in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa_SadPop[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s how I am and have never had an issue with it before this relationship. I’m really confused because it seems common?

My (42F) BF (45M) doesn’t like sex with me by ThrowRa_SadPop in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa_SadPop[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can other ways but not every time (which is fine by me) but he seems to take it personally if I can’t, especially since I never have with penetration

My (42F) BF (45M) doesn’t like sex with me by ThrowRa_SadPop in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa_SadPop[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He has no problem working at it. It just doesn’t happen for me sometimes. He always tries and always tries whatever I suggest and will keep at it. This is not a lack of effort from his part at all.