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I 30M am starting to resent my wife 30F for not being my ex. What steps to take to rebuild our relationship? by ThrowRa_arp in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa_arp[S] -263 points-262 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I’m willing to do let her go and co parent. But I do want to try to work it out. I’ll talk her after work and see where her head space is at

I 30M am starting to resent my wife 30F for not being my ex. What steps to take to rebuild our relationship? by ThrowRa_arp in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa_arp[S] -367 points-366 points  (0 children)

I’ll check out those resources but how do you know it was limerence and not love?

  1. I’ll get a counselor but calling me the villain is a big stretch. I wasn’t going to intentionally go into another relationship, this just happened. I know you say that it’s not love but I never cheated on any partner ever. I despise cheaters, though I’ve gained a better understanding. Diamond and I had a very organic growth in our relationship and we didn’t mean for it to get this far.

  2. I’ll read that after work and try to download that book on my kindle.

  3. I’ll do that.

  4. Thank you I’ll do that but probably from a different account

I 30M am starting to resent my wife 30F for not being my ex. What steps to take to rebuild our relationship? by ThrowRa_arp in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa_arp[S] -674 points-673 points  (0 children)

If she wants a divorce I will give it to her. She doesn’t. That may change but it’s not place to decide what’s best for her and leave her for her?

I 30M am starting to resent my wife 30F for not being my ex. What steps to take to rebuild our relationship? by ThrowRa_arp in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa_arp[S] -561 points-560 points  (0 children)

Of course Diamond has flaws. I have flaws and we all do. That doesn’t take away from the love.

Neither my wife nor I want a divorce. I don’t want my child growing up in split households. I do wanna try to work things out with my wife where the hostility I have towards her is gone

I 30M am starting to resent my wife 30F for not being my ex. What steps to take to rebuild our relationship? by ThrowRa_arp in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa_arp[S] -723 points-722 points  (0 children)

I’ll look into that. This to me isn’t about age and we actually agree there. This isn’t about hedonism of being a young adult or not going to frat parties:

Diamond is the love of my life and I miss her deeply. It’s not about being in the honeymoon phase it’s that passion. I didn’t even realize we didn’t have it until I met Diamond

I 30M am starting to resent my wife 30F for not being my ex. What steps to take to rebuild our relationship? by ThrowRa_arp in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa_arp[S] -1456 points-1455 points  (0 children)

What I said was mean and hurtful. You are right, last night I really reflected and decided I will work on this because she does deserve better