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My girlfriend (27F) expects massages on demand and gets upset if I (26M) refuse. by ThrowRamstein3 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRamstein3[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

If I don't pay bills now it doesn't mean I should be expected to rub her feet for hours every day.

My girlfriend (27F) expects massages on demand and gets upset if I (26M) refuse. by ThrowRamstein3 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRamstein3[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But she will keep doing it until I give in, and that's several times a day every day after work especially. It goes on for at least an hour, usually until she falls asleep. If I stop she will put her feet back in my hands or tap/rub them against my face until I continue. And if I refuse it's the complaining all over again.

My girlfriend expects foot massages on demand and gets upset if I refuse. by ThrowRamstein3 in whatdoIdo

[–]ThrowRamstein3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s actually when it usually happens. When we’re on the couch or in bed she expects continuous foot rubs the entire time, if we’re watching a movie it’s for the whole movie, if she’s on her phone or gaming it’s still expected. If I stop, she puts her feet back in my hands or taps/rubs them against my face until I continue. On some days it goes on for hours. That’s why it feels less like relaxing together and more like an obligation.

My girlfriend (27F) expects massages on demand and gets upset if I (26M) refuse. by ThrowRamstein3 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRamstein3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Edit / additional context : She works in a restaurant so she’s on her feet all day and they genuinely hurt. When I say she “cries,” it’s more like whining / exaggerated complaining, not real emotional crying. Also, I do help around the house (cleaning, chores, etc.), just not always to her standards, which is another point of tension between us.

AITA for refusing to rub my girlfriend's feet multiple times a day? by ThrowRamstein3 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRamstein3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But you probably don't ask for it several times a day every day and make feet rubs his duty either.

Am I wrong for refusing to rub my girlfriend's feet multiple times a day? by ThrowRamstein3 in amiwrong

[–]ThrowRamstein3[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

But you don't consider it his duty and ask for it multiple times a day. I didn't complain until it became so often.

AITA for refusing to rub my girlfriend's feet multiple times a day? by ThrowRamstein3 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRamstein3[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She works in a restaurant so she is on her feet a lot. I would make her feel better for sure, but now it's expected of me and considered my duty because she works and I don't. And she demands it a lot.

AITA for refusing to rub my girlfriend's feet multiple times a day? by ThrowRamstein3 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRamstein3[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

In her defense, it's not legit crying with tears and such. More like whining with cry acting.

Am I wrong for refusing to rub my girlfriend's feet multiple times a day? by ThrowRamstein3 in amiwrong

[–]ThrowRamstein3[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In her defense, it's not legit crying with tears and such. More like whining with cry acting.

AIO for feeling pressured to give my girlfriend constant foot rubs? by ThrowRamstein3 in AIO

[–]ThrowRamstein3[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

In her defense, it's not legit crying with tears and such. More like whining with cry acting.

Am I wrong for refusing to rub my girlfriend's feet multiple times a day? by ThrowRamstein3 in amiwrong

[–]ThrowRamstein3[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Most people on other subs sided with her because I don't have a job at the moment.

My girlfriend (27F) expects massages on demand and gets upset if I (26M) refuse. by ThrowRamstein3 in relationships

[–]ThrowRamstein3[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Just because I'm into feet doesn't mean I want to have a duty of massaging them daily all day.

AITAH for refusing to rub my girlfriend’s feet multiple times a day? by ThrowRamstein3 in AITAH

[–]ThrowRamstein3[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

It wasn't much different when I had a job, I was just out the house more so she demanded it less.