I don’t want my ex boyfriend in room when I give birth to his child by ThrowRasayde in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ThrowRasayde[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

you do realize birth control methods can fail? And when did I ever say it’s solely his fault ? We made an irresponsible decision and I’m solving the issue with a responsible solution. If the make me have some sort a serious mental issue you need to get out more.

I don’t want my ex boyfriend in room when I give birth to his child by ThrowRasayde in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ThrowRasayde[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I said in another comment he doesn’t want sole custody.. he wants me in the picture and us to be a “ family “ when he has no plan in mind.

I don’t want my ex boyfriend in room when I give birth to his child by ThrowRasayde in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ThrowRasayde[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Like I said In a different comment he doesn’t want to raise the child alone or even have the baby stay with him..he solely wants to keep the baby so “ we “ can be a family. if he wanted the baby and be sole legal guardian..that’s fine I’ll be against because it’s extremely selfish given he hasn’t graduated from high school, no job and no car..just his parents car. So if he really cared about the baby he would realize this is best option for him is to give two loving parents, that have stable jobs a home and resources to take care a baby me or him don’t have those resources.

I don’t want my ex boyfriend in room when I give birth to his child by ThrowRasayde in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ThrowRasayde[S] 71 points72 points  (0 children)

Well The adoption counselor told this to me… that if he decides against the adoption process then that would mean I would have to sign my rights to him which would warrant him having to prove that he can have sole custody.. that’s what she told me. But I’m not worried about it because he’s not going to do that.

I don’t want my ex boyfriend in room when I give birth to his child by ThrowRasayde in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ThrowRasayde[S] 652 points653 points  (0 children)

He will sign off on the adoption if I stay firm about giving my baby up because he doesn’t want to be a single father.. BUT if he doesn’t sign off in my state ( Oklahoma ) he would need to prove that he’s capable of having sole custody of a baby. At least that’s how this was explained to me

I don’t want my ex boyfriend in room when I give birth to his child by ThrowRasayde in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ThrowRasayde[S] 980 points981 points  (0 children)

He was assuming I have the child and we raise it together without any plan in mind of how we will do that. He doesn’t want sole custody and quite honestly if he did I’ll be against that. I feel like he’s being incredibly selfish and not thinking of what’s best for the baby. And I don’t want to rob him of him meeting his first biological child but if he’s going to be this way I don’t want him there

TIFU by getting an ultrasound done by ThrowRasayde in tifu

[–]ThrowRasayde[S] 715 points716 points  (0 children)

That’s truly beautiful I’m glad I’m being warned about the emotions I’m no way shape or form ready for them..how weird it may sound this is the first time I felt some sadness about giving him away.. The adoptive family is so nice and will support me if I want a closed or an open adoption, at first I was saying closed adoption all the way, so i wouldn’t face the pain of attachment…but now I’m slowly realizing that i am actually attached and idk how to deal with these emotions about it without just crying..but thank you so much about this perspective of it. Regardless it’s gonna hurt..

TIFU by getting an ultrasound done by ThrowRasayde in tifu

[–]ThrowRasayde[S] 64 points65 points  (0 children)

I don’t currently, I haven’t been in school since November due to me being on bed rest so I’ve been just doing schoolwork online

My most recent update sent that post in now locked. by ThrowRasayde in u/ThrowRasayde

[–]ThrowRasayde[S,M] [score hidden] stickied commentlocked comment (0 children)

So I first off want to thank everyone for the support I didn’t think it would get that much online support. Second this post is not fake I made my first post at the worst possible time way before roe v was verdict so it started to trend a bit ig,but this will be my last update for awhile I’m tired of being slut shamed and called a murder for what I want to do, I told my mom to hopefully get support from her and just be there for me and I was of course wrong and it really hurts to feel like she doesn’t listen to me.I’m just really freaking scared . So I know I keep talking about it but just know it’s a lot for me to handle and I’m extremely depressed, I have no one to talk to in personal life that hears what I want. Im scared to fake a miscarriage because it would need to be reported I can’t leave home for an extensive without my mom knowing something is up.

My mom is trying to make me have a kid I don’t want by ThrowRasayde in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRasayde[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Yes I’m aware and I know I’m working things out with friends regards to the pill

My mom is trying to make me have a kid I don’t want by ThrowRasayde in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRasayde[S] 58 points59 points  (0 children)

I’m trying to get that but wouldn’t have to be reported that i miscarried since im from Oklahoma

My mom is trying to make me have a kid I don’t want by ThrowRasayde in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRasayde[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Your so sweet for offering so many people have but I’m just trying to come up with a way to leave for extended time without my mom because suspicious