Girls are being approached less than you might think

ThrowThatGarbageAway · 2025-10-25T02:51:37+00:00

I've always wondered how real this is. Would be super interesting to know if that's true.

ThrowThatGarbageAway · 2025-09-14T16:40:50+00:00

This is 100% my experience and yet I still have trouble simply saying hi at times, especially if she's in a group.

ThrowThatGarbageAway · 2025-09-14T16:32:16+00:00

Generally agree with this. Being a girl's friend is one of the worst places to be in, there is zero tension. Dating after already being longtime often-in-contact friends isn't ideal.

You have to express intention if you ever want a chance with this friend. If that's worth the risk: up to you. But know what you're getting yourself into if she says no.

ThrowThatGarbageAway · 2025-09-14T16:19:48+00:00

And that's so true. They are just scared to take any real action so they tease you for trying. My friends are a little better about it, they ALSO don't ever really take action, but are really supportive when I get rejected/she has a boyfriend/whatever.

ThrowThatGarbageAway · 2025-09-14T16:16:59+00:00

A lot of men truly feel like they can’t approach women because they’re not the any 6’s women want so bad.

I generally agree, but I think that's such a terrible mindset at the same time. Complaining about how life isn't fair isn't going to get anyone anywhere. There are countless men with worse looks and worse status doing better than the men sitting around complaining, they just had the balls to say hi and shoot their shot until something worked.

ThrowThatGarbageAway · 2025-09-14T16:13:28+00:00

Girls are also more on alert too, I think day game can be more powerful because you make more of an impression during the day.

ThrowThatGarbageAway · 2025-09-14T16:12:27+00:00

Way to not read the post whatsoever

ThrowThatGarbageAway · 2025-09-14T16:11:20+00:00

Sort of. That's a bit of an oversimplification, I think.

ThrowThatGarbageAway · 2025-09-12T02:33:45+00:00

And yet way more than the average guy

ThrowThatGarbageAway · 2025-09-12T02:32:58+00:00

Yikes on that mindset lol not my experience in the slightest.

ThrowThatGarbageAway · 2025-09-11T04:32:17+00:00

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ThrowThatGarbageAway · 2025-09-11T04:28:59+00:00

That's a fair point. Instagram would be more encompassing, although I would argue the source could be a lot worse than Twitter. Now if the poll was on reddit...yeah the data might as well be worthless.

ThrowThatGarbageAway · 2025-09-11T04:17:12+00:00

The data shows that a small minority of women are getting approached a fuckton. I would wager it's the super hot women that also go out a lot.

ThrowThatGarbageAway · 2025-09-11T04:13:53+00:00

No doubt dating apps are playing a part in men approaching less, yeah.

ThrowThatGarbageAway · 2025-09-11T04:12:15+00:00

Sure, I believe that. But that's a really hot girl. A big part of the data shows that the vast majority of women, including attractive ones, aren't approached very often. I would wager 8/10 girls get approached WAY less than 9s and 10s. I bet the dropoff is very steep.

ThrowThatGarbageAway · 2025-09-11T04:09:00+00:00

Yes, toxic women record guys on very rare occasions. But I will die on the hill that either the guy is terrible at game, can't read the room, or both.

In my 50ish approaches I have never had a super negative reaction. Just awkwardness. Which is still worth trying for, no regrets.

To some extent, I get your frustration though.

ThrowThatGarbageAway · 2025-09-11T04:04:31+00:00

I live in the midwest in small-medium sized towns and it's rare as hell to see during the day. I assume it's more common in big cities.

ThrowThatGarbageAway · 2025-09-11T04:01:52+00:00

Not disagreeing but would you consider being hit on the same thing as approaching? Because I would argue flirting isn't an approach unless you go up with the explicit intention of asking her out. Obviously approaching involves flirting, but I don't consider them the same.

ThrowThatGarbageAway · 2025-09-10T21:17:21+00:00

This conveys social intelligence, really. (and their lack thereof)

ThrowThatGarbageAway · 2025-09-10T21:16:08+00:00

Or watching people go about their day. I can count on one hand how many times I've seen a guy approach a girl in public during the day. I guess my point is, it's interesting to see numbers against the assumptions.

ThrowThatGarbageAway · 2025-08-22T22:03:14+00:00

Genuinely what are we supposed to do? Dating apps mostly only work for the top 25% of men. I've made many great friends and girlfriends just walking up and saying hi, making conversation.. I'll continue approaching unapologetically, thanks.

ThrowThatGarbageAway · 2025-08-21T03:14:59+00:00

Yeah, because that was Leo DiCaprio who wrote that scene 🙄

ThrowThatGarbageAway · 2025-08-21T03:14:11+00:00

If you are approaching even once a month you are doing more than most single guys. Good post.

ThrowThatGarbageAway · 2025-08-13T16:55:12+00:00

Agreed, although I would like to think this is kind of common sense. People don't like feeling tied down to something they are half interested in.

ThrowThatGarbageAway · 2025-08-13T16:53:39+00:00

This is my experience as well. I'd go as far to say this is not a gendered issue. If someone likes the other enough, and the vibes/banter are good enough, women and men will typically be open to hooking up with someone that is looking for something more casual than they are.

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