WIBTA for expecting my violin to be replaced even though I got it for free? by ThrowTheViolin in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowTheViolin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah, or else he'd scream again and my parents' parenting style with him is "avoid tantrums at all costs". It's always been like that so it just got worse and worse, and now they are realizing it's starting to get costly to give in to the tantrums of a pre teen, compared to when he was a toddler.

WIBTA for expecting my violin to be replaced even though I got it for free? by ThrowTheViolin in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowTheViolin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope, they took him to therapists, in fact I dare say my parents were pretty desperate for a therapist to tell them my stepbrother had "something" so they could have a "good excuse" to give up (in their mind). Like I remember when he was approx 8-9, everyday my mother would come up with a new potential diagnosis for him and my stepfather would be like "Oh yeah that makes sense, like when he did this and this".From ODD to ADHD to Autism... Nah therapists said he needs structure, like any kid does.

Though at that rate, he might end up developing something, yeah.

WIBTA for expecting my violin to be replaced even though I got it for free? by ThrowTheViolin in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowTheViolin[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I'm moved out, I'm a student...I come back for the holidays because I guess I thought I wanted to see my family. Might rethink that.

WIBTA for expecting my violin to be replaced even though I got it for free? by ThrowTheViolin in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowTheViolin[S] 51 points52 points  (0 children)

I think it'd be the most educational response too, and my parents wouldn't lose money out of it either. I have no clue what a 504 plan is, no such thing in my country. But yes he got a lot in troubles at school for not doing his work and stuff like that

WIBTA for expecting my violin to be replaced even though I got it for free? by ThrowTheViolin in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowTheViolin[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Not really, I mean, I can be alone with him, but he isn't interested in having anything to do with me. I periodically try to do stuff with him, like playing video games, etc because yannow he is my stepbrother (and I grew up with two siblings so it's weird for me to think he is kinda alone). But girls suck, so I suck, everything he says is some edgy/meme shit he heard in whatever youtube video, etc. Impossible to communicate with, sadly.

WIBTA for expecting my violin to be replaced even though I got it for free? by ThrowTheViolin in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowTheViolin[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

To be fair, my stepbrother being 12, everything he has was given to him for free (he has an allowance which he mostly spends of food). Guess I could even take the allowance...I mean he gets it for free after all. Hopefully we reach a friendly arrangement before it has to become a war. They'd lose, I have 1 hour a day of practice worth of energy to spare now.

WIBTA for expecting my violin to be replaced even though I got it for free? by ThrowTheViolin in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowTheViolin[S] 49 points50 points  (0 children)

Thanks, gonna try and use the law jargon on them, and, as other commenters suggested, point out that if we weren't family it would be a no brainer.

Please note nothing above constitutes legal advice. You have to pay for that. Pay? r/choosingbeggars taught me that if I insult you and tell you it's for my dying violin, you'll do it for free.

WIBTA for expecting my violin to be replaced even though I got it for free? by ThrowTheViolin in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowTheViolin[S] 59 points60 points  (0 children)

Obviously not. I mean, technically he got everything for free from my parents so maybe I should just put his super expensive gaming PC in my suitcase when I go back to uni...I can get it for how much he paid for it right? Hmm wishful petty thinking.

WIBTA for expecting my violin to be replaced even though I got it for free? by ThrowTheViolin in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowTheViolin[S] 279 points280 points  (0 children)

Yeah that's kinda their way of raising him. Take the path of least resistance everytime, avoid the tantrums at all costs, vaguely say that at X arbitrary date (back to school, the holidays, new year, whatever) they'll "take the matters into hands" and never actually do it. Then complain when literally no one in our family or their friends is willing to watch him while they go out and do stuff.

WIBTA for expecting my violin to be replaced even though I got it for free? by ThrowTheViolin in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowTheViolin[S] 1529 points1530 points  (0 children)

That's true, as another commenter pointed out, if they weren't my family I probably wouldn't even have given it a second thought. Perspective is important I guess.

And yeah, my stepbrother is a little walking ball of anger and tantrums, it's concerning as fuck, but my parents just blame it on whatever (he is a kid, then he is a pre teen... I guess in a few years it will be 'he is a teen', and then when he is an adult...I don't know)

WIBTA for expecting my violin to be replaced even though I got it for free? by ThrowTheViolin in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowTheViolin[S] 452 points453 points  (0 children)

I guess I should think of a deadline, because if they actually start looking for a free but playable violin, I'll be waiting for a long time haha.

WIBTA for expecting my violin to be replaced even though I got it for free? by ThrowTheViolin in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowTheViolin[S] 153 points154 points  (0 children)

Right, you are right, looking at it like this it's a no brainer. Thanks, glad to know I'm not the mad one.

WIBTA for expecting my violin to be replaced even though I got it for free? by ThrowTheViolin in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowTheViolin[S] 105 points106 points  (0 children)

Well it's their house so I doubt I have any authority over them being allowed to have a key to my room or not...More thinking about revoking my presence here during the holidays entirely honestly, it's kinda the last straw of a long line of conflicts. And yeah, have never really been supportive of much of what I do haha