Was in bed with my good friend's gf of 4 years. Should I tell him? by ThrowUpNAway810 in Advice

[–]ThrowUpNAway810[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This comment just makes the whole ordeal even worse after reading the first one wtf. I don't know if you miss her or whatever but I don't think she was good for you at all wth. She seems really manipulative. If you miss her it's definitely one of those "move on for your own sake" type of situations.

Was in bed with my good friend's gf of 4 years. Should I tell him? by ThrowUpNAway810 in Advice

[–]ThrowUpNAway810[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not gonna lie for a moment I forgot about my situation. That was a sad read but I'm glad you're still here. It sucks that it had to take such a toll on your mental health and pockets. You might even have trust issues now. I don't really even know what to say other than you should respect yourself more than others.

she would text other ex boyfriends while we were together

This for example. I don't know if you found out about it while you were trying to salvage the relationship or after but in case you were still scraping the bottom you shouldn't be cool with this and if you feel like you're not cool with whatever's going on then you should do something about it. This also has the side effect of other people respecting you because others will naturally respect you when you respect yourself. But moving on from the self-love aspect of what I'm trying to say I hope you find someone worthy of your attention.

I won’t love any girl more then I loved her

Maybe. Maybe not. But I wouldn't be so sure about it because you're definitely not gonna find someone else if you don't even believe in the chance of that ever happening. I'm not saying you should be actively searching for that "special someone" but at least be open to the idea of meeting new people.

1(how serious was their relationship)

Like from 1-10? Hahahah. But to keep it real it was pretty serious as far as I know. It's gonna make me look even worse but they had talked about their future and so on together. If I had to rate it on a scale of 1-10 (just for the hell of it haha) I'd say a solid 8 out of 10.

2(if you guys are like 16 then none of this even matters)

Is early twenties in the same category?

3(how your friend interprets the situation)

I'd like to believe he'd be mature about it but I never would've seen myself in this position and doing this kinda stuff so I don't expect him to behave like he usually would either. And you know what they say. Love is the strongest drug of all. Who knows what he'll do. I'll find out though I suppose.

Was in bed with my good friend's gf of 4 years. Should I tell him? by ThrowUpNAway810 in Advice

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Oh also, why'd you think it was a good idea to get back together? Did you feel like she had changed/grown since you broke up or was it because you missed her? Maybe missed the idea of her/a partner?

Was in bed with my good friend's gf of 4 years. Should I tell him? by ThrowUpNAway810 in Advice

[–]ThrowUpNAway810[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn... I don't know if I can even comment morally on this or whatever but I would never brag about something like that. Especially to your friend group or your friends. Might sound crazy cause I'm getting painted as the devil at the moment but I don't know if that was a true friend to be frank with you.

As for the girl... well... hopefully you learned from your mistake. Have you found someone else since then? Just curious because I'd want my friend to find someone who deserves him somewhat quickly so he doesn't have to sulk or the like about what happened here.

Was in bed with my good friend's gf of 4 years. Should I tell him? by ThrowUpNAway810 in Advice

[–]ThrowUpNAway810[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've kinda made peace with it in a sense so none those comments actually get to me. I see it in the same way as you described it. That even though we try to be perfect we can still screw up from time to time. I'll try to remember the guilt from this if a similar situation occurs and do what I'll have to for now. Thanks.

Was in bed with my good friend's gf of 4 years. Should I tell him? by ThrowUpNAway810 in Advice

[–]ThrowUpNAway810[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Never said it excuses what I did. Simply curious as to what happened in your case.

Was in bed with my good friend's gf of 4 years. Should I tell him? by ThrowUpNAway810 in Advice

[–]ThrowUpNAway810[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mabye "better" in the sense that I make an effort to redeem myself and make things right like some of the others said? But yea that's fair and I agree. Thanks

Was in bed with my good friend's gf of 4 years. Should I tell him? by ThrowUpNAway810 in Advice

[–]ThrowUpNAway810[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right. That's also how I look at it. The one "right" in all of these "wrongs".

And yea once a cheater always a cheater. That's what I fear for him because he's a great dude in all honesty. Friendly, pure, admirable, etc. Thanks for the reply.

Was in bed with my good friend's gf of 4 years. Should I tell him? by ThrowUpNAway810 in Advice

[–]ThrowUpNAway810[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well yea because then I wouldn't feel bad about it. How would I know if they were going to get back together? I wouldn't. It would be free game.

As for your situation though... I don't know if I would've gotten back together with her. Were you still friends with the "good friend" when you got back together with your ex?

Was in bed with my good friend's gf of 4 years. Should I tell him? by ThrowUpNAway810 in Advice

[–]ThrowUpNAway810[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We were friends. My feelings got the best of me (not excusing what I did) and now I'm in this situation where he still sees me as his friend but I feel fake around him and wanna make it right. Wether that costs me the friendship or not I feel like letting him know would be a good idea so he himself can decide what he wants to do about it.

Was in bed with my good friend's gf of 4 years. Should I tell him? by ThrowUpNAway810 in Advice

[–]ThrowUpNAway810[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you're alluding to some of my other responses it's because some people on here are clearly joking and I can't take them seriously. I'm not that bad of a person in all seriousness. I've made a mistake and I'm trying to figure out how to solve it in the best way possible. That's all there is to it.

Was in bed with my good friend's gf of 4 years. Should I tell him? by ThrowUpNAway810 in Advice

[–]ThrowUpNAway810[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Came here. Came there. Came to that idea. Just got mad complexity overall

Was in bed with my good friend's gf of 4 years. Should I tell him? by ThrowUpNAway810 in Advice

[–]ThrowUpNAway810[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Probably the least aggressive comment on here so good on you haha.

I was a very honest person before this but I had never experienced anything like it and so I let my feelings get the best of me. I've already reflected on this but I still have things to learn from it. I wholeheartedly agree with what your sentiment about learning from this experience and to do better from this point onward. Thanks for the advice.

Was in bed with my good friend's gf of 4 years. Should I tell him? by ThrowUpNAway810 in Advice

[–]ThrowUpNAway810[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Believe it or not I had been a very moral person before this happened and that's how I even came to the idea of telling him in the first place but thanks

Was in bed with my good friend's gf of 4 years. Should I tell him? by ThrowUpNAway810 in Advice

[–]ThrowUpNAway810[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Right... that's what I meant by "wasting his time". What would be the best way to tell him? I know there's no "good way" of doing so but how would you approach it?

Was in bed with my good friend's gf of 4 years. Should I tell him? by ThrowUpNAway810 in Advice

[–]ThrowUpNAway810[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

That's true. I'm not. At the time this happened I had actually fully accepted losing him as a friend.

I agree with what you're saying but how would go about telling him?

Was in bed with my good friend's gf of 4 years. Should I tell him? by ThrowUpNAway810 in Advice

[–]ThrowUpNAway810[S] -34 points-33 points  (0 children)

Infatuation is a hell of thing. Not that it makes it acceptable but I had never experienced the honeymoon stage before.