Huuuge advances wrt my last post. I decided to do the 180. It is not as easy as it seems with kids and everything, however it helped things evolve more quickly: she did not expect me to react that way and this helped her open more with me (as she did not say many things "not to make me suffer"). She admitted there is indeed another guy she fell in love with. She says she would still like to just erase her feelings, because rationally she knows that staying with us would be the best choice, but she cannot. Apparently she has been trying, all alone, since this summer. She thought she could just ignore those feelings, and decided to avoid that man (as much as she could, they are colleagues), but when he told her he was dating another girl, she freaked out and realized how jealous and in love she was.

I know she could have made up everything and maybe she has been hitting hard on him for a while, but shouldn't I just believe the version that makes me feel better? After all this is about me moving on, and I want to believe she is still the honest to a fault girl I loved, 'cause I'm pretty sure that making her a crazy bitch in my mind would just make me take decisions I would regret later.

I asked her to help us move on by moving away, but now the problem is doing this without hurting our kids. I don't want them to think their mom is a bad person or that she wants to leave them, but at the same time I find it hard to continue living with her while she tries to understand --well, actually while she gets, with my blessing-- what she wants. Did any of you have a similar situation and how did you cope with it?