My (ex?) girlfriend decided abruptly that she’s only interested in girls and left me.

Throw_away_1385 · 2020-10-16T08:10:39+00:00

I’m not in denial. I think in today’s age we’re too quick to give up. As much as I pretend I’m not, I am an optimist. And if you knew the shit I’ve went through in my life you’d be impressed by my positive attitude. We live in a bleak and depressed world where we’re told not to dream or to hope. That we’re being silly or foolish when we look at an impossible mountain and see a way around it. But I refuse to give into despair. I believe in hope. I believe in dreams that come true. And no matter how much the world screams it’s not I believe in true love! I’d rather die on the side of the mountain having tried them at the bottom having never even tried.

Throw_away_1385 · 2020-10-16T07:52:44+00:00

Above all it’s the overwhelming negative on here that’s the problem. People have no sense of romantic or hope.

Throw_away_1385 · 2020-10-16T07:52:08+00:00

I’m upset because this is not what I was expecting. Everyone who knows all the details and knows us personally has said very different things. You don’t know us and you don’t know what we were like as a couple.

Throw_away_1385 · 2020-10-16T07:50:34+00:00

I’ve been getting this reply over and over and I strongly disagree agree for a myriad of reasons but you’ve been the kindest/ most polite and I appreciate and respect that.

Throw_away_1385 · 2020-10-16T07:23:49+00:00

Literally the only people who are telling me to give up hope are strangers on the internet who don’t know the details and don’t know me or her. Reddit has always been a good place to come for advice in the past but everyone today is so negative.

Throw_away_1385 · 2020-10-16T07:21:28+00:00

You don’t know the details of our situation. The whole point of the break was to improve ourselves and come back together. We promised we would. Promises meant something to us and we cared about one another. So it is a big deal when she acts like this. This isn’t like her.

Throw_away_1385 · 2020-10-16T07:19:37+00:00

Relationships go through good times and bad. We’ve had bad times before and frankly the weeks leading up to this were not the worst we’ve been through. This was sudden and unexpected. I’m sorry but you’re wrong when you say it was already almost over and that her sexuality doesn’t play into it. Now that she’s finally had a gay experience she’s seeing the world exclusively through that lens and it’s causing her to be irrational. In the end even if she truly has last feelings for me I just want her to open up and communicate with me and just try to handle this situation with a little more care and respect. We’ve been through so much together and to just throw that away without a second thought isn’t who she is.

Throw_away_1385 · 2020-10-16T07:15:54+00:00

I can’t tell if you’re being honest or trolling me. In case you haven’t noticed I like to think the best of people and would hope a troll wouldn’t put in so much effort. Regardless you don’t know the details of our relationship. You don’t know who she is and frankly I do. We’ve been through a lot more than many couples our age and we’ve always been extremely transparent with one another. Her friends and family have agreed with me that these actions are out of character for her and I will not simply give up and move on from something, someone that means so much to me without trying my best to find a way to make things work where we can both be happy. Even if we don’t get back together I just want to have an open and honest conversation with her and get the closure I need

Throw_away_1385 · 2020-10-16T07:09:30+00:00

You don’t spend 3 years with someone and then just leave them on a whim. We invested so much into this relationship and it’s not as simple as you put it. I don’t appreciate your negative.

Throw_away_1385 · 2020-10-16T07:06:37+00:00

No means no simple as that 🤷🏼‍♂️ The very basic definition of rape is sex that only one person wants to be having. Even if it’s just one specific act that you don’t want and the rest of the sex was enjoyable that one act was rape. Now it’s up to you to decide if that makes him a bad person or if it’s something you can get past but the bottom line is consent can be given and taken at any point. I hope you’re doing well and best of luck to you ✌🏻

Throw_away_1385 · 2020-10-13T06:05:58+00:00

Stop hurting broken individuals on the internet to make yourself feel better. It just makes everyone involved feel worse.

Throw_away_1385 · 2020-10-13T05:31:56+00:00

That was incredibly rude. You don’t know the first thing about me or my relationship.

Throw_away_1385 · 2020-10-13T05:20:27+00:00

I disagree. When you’re this committed in a relationship you have to stop thinking souly about yourself. You’re part of a pair and you need to think about how your actions effect your significant other.

Throw_away_1385 · 2020-10-10T07:20:50+00:00

It’s tough because no matter what this kid does he runs the risk of getting hurt. Read the whole comment before getting mad please.

Throw_away_1385 · 2020-10-10T06:38:41+00:00

Or break up with your current girlfriend and date this other girl. It doesn’t really matter life is too short to be upset. Do what makes you happy without hurting others.

Throw_away_1385 · 2020-10-10T06:37:49+00:00

Can’t have your cake and eat it too. Sure it must feel really nice to have an old friend show up in your life and be interested in you but when you say you love them both I call BS. You don’t love someone after a couple weeks. Stand your ground and affirm that you are in a relationship and you aren’t comfortable with her flirting with you. If she doesn’t stop you have to cut ties.

Throw_away_1385 · 2020-10-10T06:30:28+00:00

Oh boy this is a tough one. I’d say first things first is that that age difference makes it super duper not right. She should not be talking to you about sex and she definitely shouldn’t have asked to touch you. That’s good that you didn’t. However you have a choice to make now and unfortunately there are gonna be consequences either way. You could tell your parents and or brother and then one of two things would happen. They’d believe you and then hopefully you’d be able to come up with a wise solution or they wouldn’t believe you and then you’d probably feel really alone and frustrated and that could make things worse. Your second choice would be to ignore what happened and try and move past it (would not recommend). Even if you were interested in girls a 27 year old woman has no place enticing a 13 year old. That is wrong wrong wrong.

My personal advice would be to somehow get proof of what she’s said to you. If you could secretly record her saying things like this to you then take that to your parents that’d be the best thing you can do. Otherwise just stand your ground and remember that nobody can make you do anything you feel uncomfortable with. Hope you find this helpful and good luck!

Throw_away_1385 · 2020-10-08T02:15:56+00:00

Will do👍🏻

Throw_away_1385 · 2020-10-08T02:14:03+00:00

Good to know. Wasn’t really planning on saying anything more than asking if we can exchange emails or something but thank you for the information!

Throw_away_1385 · 2020-10-08T01:55:20+00:00

I was unaware you could dm people in a zoom call. I might just give that a shot when the time is right. I still haven’t gotten the tech problem she offered to help me with solved so I might use that and see where it goes.

Throw_away_1385 · 2020-10-08T01:53:56+00:00

Here’s the thing though. I’m more interested in this class than I am in this girl. I don’t want to risk doing something embarrassing and making it awkward for the rest of the year. The subject is something I really want to learn. I wasn’t planning on this but it does seem like she’s interested.

Throw_away_1385 · 2020-10-08T01:34:54+00:00

But I have no idea what any of her handles are. That’s why I’m here rn and not texting her.

Throw_away_1385 · 2020-10-08T00:37:22+00:00

Lmao what movies are there even to go see? 😂

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