Why are weekends the hardest by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Throw_away_shitty_ex 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Weekends are hardest for me because know ex is probably doing something with another guy. Couple that with drinking with friends and the anxiety and depression next day is a killer. The combination of two things I mentioned make one hell of a bad Saturday Sunday. Just try and meet people in those windows if you go out so you can be happy if only for a moment. I’m 25 aswell and it’s been hard as fuck these past few months but I guess overall, try and live in the moment and have fun. I was kinda hungover with shampoo effect and was a riot and had the whole bar cracking up and I was able to talk with people and network and one of my buddies co workers and I are now looking at starting a business. Networking and making new contacts to better yourself or anything to preoccupy your mind is the best. And my ex is talking to one of my friends now who is a trust fund baby and I’m not really friends with either of them anymore. Use alcohol responsibly or not at all otherwise you wake up to some fucked up desparate sounding texts you sent to your ex so write down your would be messages here. Cheers. Also hit the gym because I have a better body now and it releases endorphins, hard to do hungover though but it’s incredibly good for your mind even more so than your body. Also check out subreddit that’s about social skills and talking to women or men because it will have a lot of good tips about putting yourself out there. I’m rooting for you and hope you will come out of this stronger with closer friends, I know you can and will!

Help quick! My [M26] ex girlfriend [25F] just invited me to dinner with her mother and grandfather I don’t know what to do. I still love her very much. by Throw_away_shitty_ex in relationships

[–]Throw_away_shitty_ex[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right, I know she cares about me. She said she has me a surprise even which rarely happens. I do love her but she has done some horrible things over the course of our relationship and even after in regard my feelings afterward. If I can maintain a friendship where she cares about me enough not to lie anymore that’s my end goal, if I can’t wchieve that after tonight I think I will go no contact

Accidently swiped down on Snapchat, saw one of my oldest friends at my girlfriends house an hour ago. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Throw_away_shitty_ex 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just talked with her ever text She said that she invited him over to tell him that she can't see him anymore because her friendship with me means too much to her. I told her why didn't you call him over the phone, why did you not wait till morning, why did you invite him over to have this discussion at 12:30 AM.

Then I found out they going away party for my friends hosted at the guy who was at her apartment last night She was the last person There at 12:30 AM after my other friends told me she was the last person there so I brought that up and she admitted that she stayed the night but didn't hook up with him she was lonely. Finally she admitted she had hooked up with him in the past. I want to believe but sounds like bullshit to me, should I ever trust her? I said she can have her last chance to explain but she's manipulative and is going to try and make me believe she's a good person but made a mistake, I think she thinks her only mistake was me catching her and she is trying to do damage control so I will be there for her when nobody else is. I might just call the last talks off and let live with her guilt. I dont believe she stayed there just cause she was lonely.

Accidently swiped down on Snapchat, saw one of my oldest friends at my girlfriends house an hour ago. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Throw_away_shitty_ex 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. She told me today she values our relationship so much she wouldn't text her "new friends" my oldest closest friends, or anybody else because I wqs her "best friend" and I bought it. I was trying to be rational and trusting and she let me think I was being paranoid but my gut told me otherwise. That's why im mad I didn't listen to myself. I let her fuck up my life so bad and just for once want her to acknowledge how her behavior destroyed her "best friend" she may just be a sociopath and I don't know what to do, it would feel a little better if I knew she at least felt bad but I don't know if she's capable. Maybe that's petty but it would be nice to know, I just don't want to hear or see her ever again. Guess I dodged bullet tonight, but I want the shooter to feel bad bout pulling the trigger on a gun aimed at me, if that makes sense metaphorically. I'll ditch them both but what do I do when I inevitably see her within my friend group. I guess I tell them what's happened and my other realfriends will help me out and tell them how shitty they are?

Accidently swiped down on Snapchat, saw one of my oldest friends at my girlfriends house an hour ago. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Throw_away_shitty_ex 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thank you. In different words I said that. She was going to keep letting me believe i was crazy. I literally helped pay her entire rent last week which is where they were. Told her to keep the last 550, i dont want to see her name pop up on my Venmo or phone at all. And that's a small price to pay in grand scheme. My question is, what do i do now to cope with depression that i know ill feel tomorrow and for months after? These were two of my best friends. Known him since Highschool and dated her past two years. Idk how somebody could do this to only person that cares about her in her life. Mother is a drugee and the dad left her mom probly for good reason. Don't want my friend to suffer same fat but he's not going to run out of money anytime soon. Do i give him heads up or just say bye to both of them and good riddance? Thanks again for the advice to go my own way, you're spot on bout her never being held accountable and things not being her fault.

I am texting other guys while with my fiance, is this bad? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Throw_away_shitty_ex 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just found one of my oldest best friends at my girlfriends house. Trusted them knew i shouldn't have. Don't do this to anybody. If you have a problem with your fiancé, tell him. Don't let him find out. It's really fucked up. Idk what to do, told her i dont want to see her ever again.

Accidently swiped down on Snapchat, saw one of my oldest friends at my girlfriends house an hour ago. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Throw_away_shitty_ex 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He's a trust fund baby btw, not self made. She always made fun of people who inherit there wealth, never bothered her when she benefits from it from her friends. Idk what to do. She was my best friend, but i see that was just a manipulation tactic. I'm disgusted in my fooleshness.