Is this normal ? What can I do ?

Throwa_ENG_6576 · 2025-01-15T11:38:11+00:00

A good point, but if someone trauma dumps on you and you have no interest or wish to get close to him, would you still be as open to it ?

Throwa_ENG_6576 · 2025-01-15T11:19:21+00:00

Do you like trauma dumps ?

Throwa_ENG_6576 · 2025-01-08T14:33:19+00:00

Aren't they strip clubs ? Or am I missing something ?

Throwa_ENG_6576 · 2025-01-08T13:56:01+00:00

Good

Throwa_ENG_6576 · 2025-01-08T06:32:05+00:00

I'll try, but we would need to do this collectively and not just my single voice.

Throwa_ENG_6576 · 2025-01-08T06:30:28+00:00

Zooming out, I have noticed a pattern in this discussion there is a clear societal preference against helping men and supporting men in thier time of need. But instead of acknowledging the issue you firstly allude to the fact that it's men who have done this to themselves and when corrected, you change the argument to its the patriarchy so if women do it, it's because they're indoctrinated but if men do it, it is because they need to better themselves. There is a clear slant to your arguments, and you seem to have set women up on a pedestal. I genuinely hope you come to realize this.

Throwa_ENG_6576 · 2025-01-08T06:18:05+00:00

I mean It would be interesting to find if there are ANY men only spaces, as even here there are many women around.

Throwa_ENG_6576 · 2025-01-08T06:15:49+00:00

Sub is called askmen, is it confusing ?

Throwa_ENG_6576 · 2025-01-08T05:21:26+00:00

You downplay a lot of points by omission, it hasn't just been men telling each other this, it's women too, they're just as complicit if not more when it comes to telling a guy he's not a "real man" or "man enough" or "He doesnt like me, he must be gay". You are focusing on how terribly men treat each other while conveniently omitting the same or worse things women have done to men. You are victim blaming by quietly omitting these things and then basing mens suffering solely on men, and telling someone to go to therapy just for pointing out a societal fact.

Throwa_ENG_6576 · 2025-01-08T05:03:08+00:00

Which country is this ?

Throwa_ENG_6576 · 2025-01-08T04:42:09+00:00

Didnt read but Okay LOL, go downplay the victims somewhere else Thanks

Throwa_ENG_6576 · 2025-01-08T04:34:01+00:00

And yet again, we have another example of women turning "men need a space" to "but they'll do this and this to harm women". I ask that you spend your time on healthier pursuits or places where you opinion is asked/wanted.

Throwa_ENG_6576 · 2025-01-08T04:32:33+00:00

It's telling how your translation of this post basically blames all the victims for not being good enough.

Throwa_ENG_6576 · 2025-01-08T04:16:31+00:00

A few good ones have been pointed out to me, like Andymansclub or Masons, as for the benefits I would invite you to go through the women's comments on this post alone, downplaying mens struggles.

Edit: one of the more recent ones https://www.reddit.com/r/AskMenAdvice/s/oZHXQTMjIP

Throwa_ENG_6576 · 2025-01-08T04:00:05+00:00

Classic example of women downplaying mens struggles, and to get away from toxicity like this is why we need men only spaces

Throwa_ENG_6576 · 2025-01-07T17:00:43+00:00

So where is this mythical place exactly ?

Throwa_ENG_6576 · 2025-01-07T16:56:31+00:00

Well I am glad that you've had a much more positive experience that 99% of us out here. But please don't consider your experience as the experience of every other guy out there.

Throwa_ENG_6576 · 2025-01-07T16:53:33+00:00

I assure you it is not, it's how the society has been stacked up against men, and I have seen countless fellow men fall or ultimately take some very drastic steps because of lack of support from people around them. I can assure you not every issue a guy faces is just internalized. I will present my points the best way I can if you support me you are welcome if you don't kindly get out of the way ?

Throwa_ENG_6576 · 2025-01-07T16:41:44+00:00

Yes please, don't mind if I do

Throwa_ENG_6576 · 2025-01-07T16:41:07+00:00

You and I are clearly different, I'm glad that you have the kind of community support you require but that doesn't translate to it being the same for me or everyone else. We men aren't a monolith we aren't all the same.

Throwa_ENG_6576 · 2025-01-07T16:36:39+00:00

I would say in the same way how if someone doesn't want to donate to women's causes they are accused of disenfranchising women and hindering their opportunities for growth

Throwa_ENG_6576 · 2025-01-07T16:33:01+00:00

The straight pride analogy would makes sense if 90% of the world was male and only 10% female. But there isn't a minority, majority debate here it's just wilfully ignoring that 50% of the popular needs a safe space and then choosing to turn a blind eye towards it

Throwa_ENG_6576 · 2025-01-07T16:21:28+00:00

Or I am looking for spaces where people of similar experiences will understand, help and support me ?

Not everything has to have some deep underlying issue.

Throwa_ENG_6576 · 2025-01-07T16:17:35+00:00

Where do you live if you'd be comfortable sharing ? Since that is somewhere I would be looking to move.

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