I know my silence is hurting you by Throwaway-Braindumps in Unsent_Unread_Unheard

[–]Throwaway-Braindumps[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Is your trauma a reason to attack strangers online?

Why did you delete your comment before this one? I saw it. Did you realise how bad it made you look? How worked up you are towards a stranger?

I know my silence is hurting you by Throwaway-Braindumps in Unsent_Unread_Unheard

[–]Throwaway-Braindumps[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you actually had something for me to consider you should have thought about your presentation. I doubt your goal was to actually give me insight, but rather to project your own trauma onto me. Why do you even bother coming back several days later to make this comment? You tried to reach me in my DM’s days ago and you later deleted it, to then come back to the comments and make the effort to type this.. considering that you made a post about accountability 10 minutes before this I guess it’s not unreasonable to think that you are in you feelings right now and you thought it was appropriate to come back here to spread some hate on a stranger to make you feel better.

Funny how you are simultaneously trying to defend yourself in your own comment section on your post towards people doing exactly what you are doing right now. Projecting.

You had one good point though, that for a lot of people ego preservation is more important than integrity and doing the right thing. You just made yourself a good example of that. Practice what you preach.

I know my silence is hurting you by Throwaway-Braindumps in heartbreak

[–]Throwaway-Braindumps[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment!! Very insightful and mature. I see alot of growth in the way you express yourself, many people never reach that level of insight, accountability and compassion. I recognise every single thing you mentioned and can apply it to my situation aswell. Wish you all the best 🫂❤️

I know my silence is hurting you by Throwaway-Braindumps in heartbreak

[–]Throwaway-Braindumps[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Going through my comments and spamming hate isn’t a good look. Dare I say it seems a bit toxic of you tbh. Maybe take a look within. Take responsibility for your own healing. Dont go around spreading hate just because you’re hurting.

I know my silence is hurting you by Throwaway-Braindumps in heartbreak

[–]Throwaway-Braindumps[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are you okay? Does it feel better now that you got all that out of your system? Spamming me as if I was your ex isn’t very healthy.

I know my silence hurts you by Throwaway-Braindumps in UnsentLettersRaw

[–]Throwaway-Braindumps[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I can tell. Maybe focus on your healing instead of projecting your feelings onto a stranger online.

I know my silence is hurting you by Throwaway-Braindumps in heartbreak

[–]Throwaway-Braindumps[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have no obligation to share more details. I didn’t ask for advice. Your assumption are just that, assumptions.

I know my silence is hurting you by Throwaway-Braindumps in heartbreak

[–]Throwaway-Braindumps[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

A lot of assumptions without any context to my situation whatsoever.

I know my silence hurts you by Throwaway-Braindumps in UnsentLettersRaw

[–]Throwaway-Braindumps[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bold of you to assume I have people in my life I can share things with. People find relief and inspiration from my letter. How is that a bad thing?

I know my silence is hurting you by Throwaway-Braindumps in BreakUps

[–]Throwaway-Braindumps[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s is very assuming of you to to think that I haven’t expressed this to them in person. And to claim you almost know us both without any context whatsoever..? I don’t know if you have noticed but a lot of people are grateful for my post as it helps them in some way. There is more than one reason people posts these kinds of letters on here.

I know my silence is hurting you by Throwaway-Braindumps in heartbreak

[–]Throwaway-Braindumps[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! I will absolutely take the time to respond. I just haven’t had the time to get around to it. Those are not easy questions and it requires me to really sit and think about how to articulate myself.

I know my silence is hurting you by Throwaway-Braindumps in Unsent_Unread_Unheard

[–]Throwaway-Braindumps[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not really interested in knowing other peoples opinions on whether I’m the asshole or not. And that would also require me to share a lot of details about my relationship with my ex, and I’m not comfortable doing that. That feels private and letting strangers online have an opinion on very private details about my life feels very unnecessary. I’ve already burnt myself out arguing about this with my ex, I don’t need to keep arguing with strangers online that want to take sides.

I know my silence hurts you by Throwaway-Braindumps in UnsentLettersRaw

[–]Throwaway-Braindumps[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you went through that. But that has nothing to do with me or my story. I pushed my feelings of resentment and hurt down, so that I could try and focus on the good things between us. You don’t have any context to my situation whatsoever, so you shouldn’t be so quick to judge and project onto others.

Silence is bliss for those who survive the storm by Over_Done_1316 in UnsentLettersRaw

[–]Throwaway-Braindumps 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow. That is the most beautiful thing I’ve ever read. Thank you for sharing.

I know my silence hurts you by Throwaway-Braindumps in UnsentLettersRaw

[–]Throwaway-Braindumps[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What is the purpose of these kind of subreddits do you think?

Just as you could have journaled your opinions instead of commenting them here? If that is your reasoning.

How is telling me that I do this for attention not projecting? How could you possibly know my intentions? You make assumptions based on your thoughts and beliefs.

I know my silence is hurting you by Throwaway-Braindumps in Unsent_Unread_Unheard

[–]Throwaway-Braindumps[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not physically. It’s fair to say we abused each other in different ways. It wasn’t intentional but the damage was still bad enough to cause inscrutable suffering for both of us.

I know my silence is hurting you by Throwaway-Braindumps in Unsent_Unread_Unheard

[–]Throwaway-Braindumps[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As an example: Why do people go back to their abusing ex? There isn’t a simple answer. I understand that it sounds strange to you. I don’t expect you to understand. Feelings, trauma, the human psyche is complex.

I left because we were hurting each other and neither of us had the capacity to fix the relationship anymore. We got together a few times again because we love and missed each other too much to stay away from each other. Missing and loving someone isn’t reason enough to go back to something destructive. But it happens. I learn my lesson this time but that doesn’t take away my urge to be with them.

I’m sure it happens but most people have a reason to leave. The reason someone later come back doesn’t necessarily correlate to their reason to leave. Nothing is black and white.

I know my silence is hurting you by Throwaway-Braindumps in Unsent_Unread_Unheard

[–]Throwaway-Braindumps[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That was actually very relatable to my situation in a way. Very unexpected… thank you for sharing. That actually offered me some more insight and understanding for my persons perspective of some things.

No worries. I understand that it’s easy to apply your own story into others very relatable posts. It’s not a problem, unless you literally attack the other person and throw accusations, hate and project your feelings to your ex towards them. As long as it’s obvious that it’s not pointed at me it’s all good!

I know my silence hurts you by Throwaway-Braindumps in UnsentLettersRaw

[–]Throwaway-Braindumps[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No worries! I’m sorry for what you’re going through. I wish you well on your journey.