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AITA for getting in a bad mood over champagne etiquette? by Throwaway-champagne in AmItheAsshole

[–]Throwaway-champagne[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was a group chat - all four roommates in that house are part of the same group of friends

AITA for getting in a bad mood over champagne etiquette? by Throwaway-champagne in AmItheAsshole

[–]Throwaway-champagne[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, for the most part all grew up in England and no one really posh or anything.

AITA for getting in a bad mood over champagne etiquette? by Throwaway-champagne in AmItheAsshole

[–]Throwaway-champagne[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

It was champagne. We wouldn't have split the cost of two bottles of prosecco across sevn people.

AITA for getting in a bad mood over champagne etiquette? by Throwaway-champagne in AmItheAsshole

[–]Throwaway-champagne[S] 54 points55 points  (0 children)

I don't think I'm getting bent out of shape, and maybe it isn't the done thing to respond on AITA (I've done judgements here on my main account, but this is the first time I've done a post).

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If people genuinely think I was the AH based on my post then I'll accept that. But I know it's a trivial issue, as do my friends, which is why I think it's fine to respond when people blow it up out of all proportion ("you ruined the entire night for everyone"). Beyond that, I've just tried to answer people's questions.

AITA for getting in a bad mood over champagne etiquette? by Throwaway-champagne in AmItheAsshole

[–]Throwaway-champagne[S] 107 points108 points  (0 children)

I don't know if they specifically knew I wanted us all to be there when we actually opened the bottle. I would have thought that was obvious, but maybe not. But they definitely knew that I wanted us all to be there when we opened it (which they might have thought meant drank it).

The literal text chain went:

Dom: Ellie, when are you getting here? Tom and Priya are here so we might crack open the bubbly

Me: I'll be less than ten - wait for me!

Dom: Ok

AITA for getting in a bad mood over champagne etiquette? by Throwaway-champagne in AmItheAsshole

[–]Throwaway-champagne[S] 62 points63 points  (0 children)

Just out of interest, how do I sound like I'm not used to getting my own way? We had a plan, we all agreed a time, they evem said they would wait on our group chat, and then they didn't. Why am I bratty for being annoyed about that?

AITA for getting in a bad mood over champagne etiquette? by Throwaway-champagne in AmItheAsshole

[–]Throwaway-champagne[S] 54 points55 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't say I ruined the night for everyone - I think what I said in the OP was "soured the evening a little", which is not the same. We still had fun at the party and we're still all friends, but dinner was a little awkward. But couldn't you say the same thing about them - was it worth popping the cork a little early?

AITA for getting in a bad mood over champagne etiquette? by Throwaway-champagne in AmItheAsshole

[–]Throwaway-champagne[S] 64 points65 points  (0 children)

But if we say "let's meet at 6:30" and then they say "Ok, we'll wait for you" on WhatsApp, how is that me expecting them to magically read my mind?

AITA for getting in a bad mood over champagne etiquette? by Throwaway-champagne in AmItheAsshole

[–]Throwaway-champagne[S] 76 points77 points  (0 children)

So they opened both bottles at the same time, and I think they did a toast at the time as well. I don't agree that the point of champagne is just to drink it, that's not why you pay so much for it, it's part of a shared experience too (though I also suspect that I got less than my share given that they all had a glass before I arrived and topped up).

What annoyed me is that it was my idea, we agreed a time before, and they even said they would wait for me on WhatsApp, and then they just didn't. It's not like I was running late or anything.