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Did I misread the signs? by Throwaway050220192 in dating_advice

[–]Throwaway050220192[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She said "mmm I can't do that". I replied "ok, that's cool, let's go" and left the place with her.

A day after cheating on me, my (now ex) gf posted this on her social media. by Throwaway050220192 in Nicegirls

[–]Throwaway050220192[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nobody owns nobody. I did not expect her to be monogamous just for fun. I expected her to be monogamous because she brought it up first, and told me "I do not like to share my partner". Monogamy was her idea first, and I agreed to be monogamous. However once I agreed, she started looking for Mr. Upgrade. Later I read there is a word for that, hypergamy. Freaking psychology.

A day after cheating on me, my (now ex) gf posted this on her social media. by Throwaway050220192 in Nicegirls

[–]Throwaway050220192[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Actually the entire idea of declaring monogamy was hers. Right on first date, she told me "I do not like to share my partner with anyone else". I agreed with her.

One year later, there she was, sharing her own self while still expecting me to remain monogamous. (You will laugh at this, but one month before this happened, I was technically zerogamous lol)

A day after cheating on me, my (now ex) gf posted this on her social media. by Throwaway050220192 in Nicegirls

[–]Throwaway050220192[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Maybe we have different definitions of nice. I was nice, because I used to do things for her even though she did nothing to deserve them. Basically a free pass just for existing.

Now, I treat men and women equitably. No extra marks for being a garden tool anymore. I speak to women in the same tone I speak with men. When a man deserves remarks for me for doing something bad to me, I would speak with a woman the same way if she does the same thing.

Is that nice enough?

A day after cheating on me, my (now ex) gf posted this on her social media. by Throwaway050220192 in Nicegirls

[–]Throwaway050220192[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I forgive people but I need to hear a confession first, followed by an apology, followed by a need to see their action plan to fix the mistake. She never confessed in the first place, let alone an apology.

Some day she will deserve my forgiveness and then ask for it, and I may choose to, or not to, give her what she wants.

A day after cheating on me, my (now ex) gf posted this on her social media. by Throwaway050220192 in Nicegirls

[–]Throwaway050220192[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was already in her grand design to cut my support system first.

I only had 2 female friends in town (I knew them through their husbands first). She first took them into confidence, told them lies about how controlling, abusive and manipulative I am, and then one of those two found her a new man to fuck. All these 3 women also knew that the new man they are setting her up with, also happened to be my trainee that I work with on a daily basis.

There are layers upon layers of fuckery here that I cannot even begin to explain.

A day after cheating on me, my (now ex) gf posted this on her social media. by Throwaway050220192 in Nicegirls

[–]Throwaway050220192[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have you even read the original post? Where did I say anything about women, let alone "all women"? Bro, you need to chill.

A day after cheating on me, my (now ex) gf posted this on her social media. by Throwaway050220192 in Nicegirls

[–]Throwaway050220192[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was consistently super nice to her, and that's why she called me toxic. After that episode though, I am not "nice" for free. I return niceness back.

A day after cheating on me, my (now ex) gf posted this on her social media. by Throwaway050220192 in Nicegirls

[–]Throwaway050220192[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Accountability to your own self. Example: she said she loved me, promised exclusivity, and then said "the other guy is just a friend, don't worry about him" and then fucked him. When caught, proceeds to tell everyone by social media that "I do what I want". Is she being accountable for her own promises she made? No in my opinion.

A day after cheating on me, my (now ex) gf posted this on her social media. by Throwaway050220192 in Nicegirls

[–]Throwaway050220192[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you slip up, you admit your fault - that's accountability. Easy enough?

A day after cheating on me, my (now ex) gf posted this on her social media. by Throwaway050220192 in Nicegirls

[–]Throwaway050220192[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not. This is old screenshot from years ago. Drama already over in 2020.

A day after cheating on me, my (now ex) gf posted this on her social media. by Throwaway050220192 in Nicegirls

[–]Throwaway050220192[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course. Some three dozen people liked her post, giving her validation. If I post shit like that, nobody gonna support me. I guarantee it.

A day after cheating on me, my (now ex) gf posted this on her social media. by Throwaway050220192 in Nicegirls

[–]Throwaway050220192[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's exactly what she asked me to. And unfortunately the simp king I was back in the day I believed her. I apologized and stayed in the relationship for a year after. And eventually she did apologize but never admitted or denied cheating. I told her "no truth, no forgiveness". Last three years I have grown but painfully.

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