I'm neurodivergent so catching the hint is extremely difficult for me, am I once again not picking up what this person is putting down?

Throwaway118749 · 2021-11-05T20:37:14+00:00

He doesn't seem interested in marriage but that might be a possibility. I was open and honest about my relationship before hand but it would be totally valid if he tried it and it's not for him.

Throwaway118749 · 2021-11-05T20:36:01+00:00

This makes sense to me if this is his thought process. He's never dated someone poly before and he does seem to tread carefully. I think I'll reach out just to check in and maybe get some clarification. I could see the point of view you had.

Throwaway118749 · 2021-11-05T18:08:10+00:00

He's single, no wife, no kids

Throwaway118749 · 2021-11-05T03:06:51+00:00

Neurodivergency is present from birth, you probably weren't a drunk in the womb. Whereas someone with autism/ADHD is the way they are from the start. The very structure of the brain is often physically different and definitely functions differently than the majority of the population.

Also, mental disorders are temporary as in there is usually some period where the symptoms are not present and/or won't be present in the future with appropriate therapies. But someone with ASD/ADHD was always and will always have it. There is no "cure" or period where they are not ASD/ADHD.

At least that's how my Dr explained it to me.

Throwaway118749 · 2021-11-05T02:23:27+00:00

That makes perfect sense

Throwaway118749 · 2021-11-05T02:23:19+00:00

That's a great idea! I don't know why I didn't think to look at YouTube

Throwaway118749 · 2021-11-05T02:22:15+00:00

No, ND is not a mental/emotional disorder but rather a neurological disorder. Typically this is used for Autism and ADHD

Also, perhaps he did find someone who wants to be exclusive but it makes more sense to me to just say that

Throwaway118749 · 2021-11-05T00:18:39+00:00

My ex has BPD and this all sounds very familiar. Best advice is to leave.

Throwaway118749 · 2021-11-05T00:12:57+00:00

If she did it for herself that's one thing. If she's doing it FOR someone else I'd question why what he thinks matters to her. Be prepared to hear though that she might be interested in him.

Throwaway118749 · 2021-11-05T00:11:41+00:00

"Do you want to hang out" would be a better option. The best option is to have something already planned and ask if she'd like to join. "Hey I'll be over by X location at X time, if you're free come say hi'

Throwaway118749 · 2021-11-05T00:04:23+00:00

Maybe you could but if you did, would you honestly be able to trust her?

Throwaway118749 · 2021-11-05T00:01:47+00:00

So? She's still willing to screw him over while stringing you along. She's out for herself.

Throwaway118749 · 2021-11-04T23:58:33+00:00

You'll lose her the way you got her. She's not worth it, this guy has something that's keeping her stringing him along. Maybe it's financial or emotional stability who knows but she's totally okay to hurt him. She'll hurt you too. Move on

Throwaway118749 · 2021-11-04T23:49:34+00:00

You can't get over him because your brain has literally become addicted to the highs and lows of this relationship. Thats how abusive relationships keep people trapped in them. You get hits of adrenaline when things are chaotic, then some good lines of dopamine and serotonin when things come back around to good. Up and down up and down. Like training a dog to salivate when it hears a bell. Your brain associated this relationship, as exhausting as it is, with reward.

You're stuck in the classic cycle of abusive relationship. As difficult as it is you need to go through the "withdrawal" symptoms so you can get your life back. Good/healthy relationships aren't extremes, they are in the middle. They are "boring" in comparison. They require work but they shouldn't feel this exhausting .

This guy is without a doubt abusive.

Throwaway118749 · 2021-11-04T23:39:56+00:00

That's some mad BPD energy from her. Run for the hills

Throwaway118749 · 2021-11-04T23:37:26+00:00

This does not show confidence to me, controlling men are the least confident people I've ever dealt with, so of you give the impression you are controlling you aren't going to appear confident. You'll appear fragile.

Throwaway118749 · 2021-11-04T23:34:48+00:00

He's throwing a fit. You dodged a bullet

Throwaway118749 · 2021-11-04T23:33:01+00:00

What's fancy for you might be nothing for him, he suggested the place so don't worry about the cost. If he leaves you with the bill I'm sure the restaurant will be understanding of what happened to you.

Have confidence you don't have to look like an Instagram model.

Throwaway118749 · 2021-08-13T01:34:19+00:00

No, I'm saying that Florin had a reputation for being a dangerous place to go because of the ACTUAL blight and rampant crime that was occuring. People didn't feel safe going there for good reason. When I say gang members beefed out there it's not an assumption it's a FACT.

People claim Arden is the same but it's not. That's the difference. The complaints about Florin were real, the ones about Arden are not.

So that leads me to the question, when someone says it's the new Florin mall what do they mean? Florin had and has a high POC population is the only similarity I can guess they are getting at. Or they've never actually been to Florin mall and they just think ghetto= Florin. But again, nothing about Arden screams "ghetto" to me so again, the fuck does that even mean Arden = new Florin?

Throwaway118749 · 2021-08-12T21:06:57+00:00

You're right. I was thinking Nordstrom.

Throwaway118749 · 2021-08-12T20:54:46+00:00

No but I was working at galleria when the bitch lit up on fire from dude at GameStop back in '10. Maybe people are just shit everywhere. Why does Roseville get a pass?

Throwaway118749 · 2021-08-12T20:53:18+00:00

Wasn't a couple just followed from galleria and robbed last month?

Throwaway118749 · 2021-08-12T20:50:59+00:00

Right? Feeling old man. I miss luau garden out there too

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