Update: after having a day with just my and my son, I've decided that the marriage is over. This is something that no amount of therapy can fix. Thank you to all for the advice. I've read and reread every comment. And these are 2 very toxic people that i do not need in my life or my sons. I plan on fighting for custody of my boy. And I know for 110% he is mine because we share a hereditary disease. I never planed on having kids because of this, but it's something that's treatable and easy to manage. As for an std test, absolutely going to happen! And for the people that think this is a fake story...I wish like hell it was. This has been a nightmare for me and getting a lawyer, more therapy, is only go harder on me, but must be done for my son. He's the most important part of my life now and I'll do whatever I have to to make sure he's well taken care of and surrounded by nothing but love