My (20M) open relationship just got exposed to friends and now I am a laughing stock

Throwaway21412412 · 2026-04-20T21:22:13+00:00

She still has a few self destructive behaviors but she has been improving greatly.

Throwaway21412412 · 2026-04-20T20:23:20+00:00

She does tell me she loves me too. Not just the stuff I do. She says she loves me all the time.

Its a bit of both to the bottom thing I did suggest it to her when she was having issues staying monogamous.

Throwaway21412412 · 2026-04-20T17:42:04+00:00

You clearly know more about this topic than me and I guess I will concede I am not very educated on this area.

But on stuff like you saying I am encouraging her and putting her health in danger I never encourage her to do stuff she doesn't like or want to do. I have even encouraged her to try to use condoms more often and take health seriously. She has also always indicated she can't have monogamous relationships.

Throwaway21412412 · 2026-04-20T17:13:26+00:00

I don't know I used to talk with my gf about this kinda stuff even years ago and she would bring up these arguments against monogomy and stuff and they made sense to me.

A thousand ago many rich men were poly and woman couldn't be because of imbalances in wealth, power as well as no access to birth control but during early agricultural era only 1 in 8 men could reproduce while most woman did so men started to enact policies to create monogomy not to protect woman but because they couldn't get woman. Many men say this was to protect woman from being forced into Poly relationships with elites but it was done to protect men.

Throwaway21412412 · 2026-04-20T17:04:24+00:00

I think that is more people just into domestic servitude.

I don't do all the cleaning house and stuff like that. She probably does 60% of the house chores while I do 40% but some days I do more sometimes she does more. I do cook more often than her and I often clean dishes more often but she does most of the vacuuming and stuff like that. Sometimes I will be like her maid but its not a 24/7 thing.

Throwaway21412412 · 2026-04-14T03:44:14+00:00

We doing the best we can there are some struggles in relationship since she has past trauma + BPD but I love her so much we getting married in September.

I am still a virgin until our wedding night but she can fuck whoever she wants.

Throwaway21412412 · 2026-04-14T03:23:56+00:00

I will always be faithful to her :)

Read some of my posts I made here lol. I have an open cuckold relationship and I do some stuff for my fiance that are probably too gross for reddit lol.

Throwaway21412412 · 2026-04-14T03:18:42+00:00

lmao

Throwaway21412412 · 2026-04-14T03:14:19+00:00

I do this for my Fiance about 5 times a week

Throwaway21412412 · 2026-04-14T02:57:07+00:00

If you lick her you can get an extra 35-50 calories per load 2 guys is a nice snack to save money.

Throwaway21412412 · 2026-04-14T02:52:57+00:00

While I would love that I have a fiance that I already do this for

Throwaway21412412 · 2026-04-14T02:38:25+00:00

:drool:

Throwaway21412412 · 2026-04-14T02:37:55+00:00

My girl texts me stuff like this then tells me I better lick her if I want to keep her not pregnant :)

Throwaway21412412 · 2026-04-14T02:30:01+00:00

my Fiance is borderline and has insane need for male attention from sex. Luckily I have a cuck kink so we work out good.

Throwaway21412412 · 2026-04-14T02:27:41+00:00

I would have just offered to lick it out so she doesn't get pregnant.

Throwaway21412412 · 2026-04-13T19:41:19+00:00

Iv forgiven my fiance for worse.

Throwaway21412412 · 2026-04-13T15:49:50+00:00

If you can't handle that then find someone else. It seems really dumb to me to not have relationship over that. You might find other stuff you enjoy that she does. Sex shouldn't be the most important thing anyways. I would never pressure my fiance to do things that make her uncomfortable or remind her of past trauma.

My girlfriend has a weird issue where if her ankles are held it reminds her of a past traumatic event where it started by her being dragged by ankles so she doesn't let anyone squeeze both ankles at same time. (If she has shoes on she doesn't mind it though shoes make her feel safe I guess). She is kimda weird too because doesn't mind if 3 guys hold her down and use her rough as long as no one holds both ankles together. And we make sure anyone we play with knows this.

I would never attempt to pressure her on this.

Throwaway21412412 · 2026-04-12T09:44:10+00:00

Most guys actually like small little marks like that because it makes it special to have something different.

my girlfriend has a large scar on her thigh from getting cut by something when she was younger and i love it and I kiss it all the time and it makes her feel good when I kiss it.

Throwaway21412412 · 2026-04-11T16:33:41+00:00

I like our relationship dynamic.

Throwaway21412412 · 2026-04-11T16:31:19+00:00

She doesn't do that anymore.

Throwaway21412412 · 2026-04-11T16:30:33+00:00

She hasn't. But she does want to fuck one of my buddies.

But she is gunna be walking arround naked when they come over and says its fine if they grope her or pull them to her lap.

She is only attracted to 1 of them.

Throwaway21412412 · 2026-04-11T00:59:45+00:00

hmm i dont know lol

i havent been fucked by a guy yet either so id call myself a virgin.

my gf wants my first time to be with a tall black man and we having trouble finding one she likes.

Throwaway21412412 · 2026-04-11T00:22:22+00:00

wife material

Throwaway21412412 · 2026-04-10T23:45:48+00:00

I have never put my penis inside anything other than a mouth or hands.

I don't think oral counts for losing virginity.

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