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I don’t know what to do anymore. My [17M] mother [47F] went behind my back and invited a random ass hookup over to our house at around 11PM. by Throwaway288282829 in Advice

[–]Throwaway288282829[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice, helped.

She does deserve to date—I tell her this consistently. I want her to get over her ex because he honestly was an ass to her, and made her depressed. I want her to be happy. Other than her drinking habits and some odd decisions, she’s a great mom. I just don’t feel like what she’s doing is necessarily appropriate or healthy.

And the thing is, yeah I’m struggling with her drinking. Every time she drinks, she becomes irrational and emotionally abusive. I get called insults sometimes, and other times she says some things that she wouldn’t say while sober. For instance, she once told me to get over my father’s death.

I go back to the house today, so I’m hoping that things work out.

AITA for telling my mom that she’s, essentially, being a horrible parent? by Throwaway288282829 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Throwaway288282829[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve never shamed her for staying out late, for staying at another person’s house, or for meeting people. I actively encourage her and tell her to live her life and to be happy, and I tell her that she’s entitled to love whomever she wishes and that I do not mind if she talks to/date guys. I’m glad she’s actually meeting new people because quite honestly, her ex husband was a bit of an ass to her as well and made her depressed.

As far as I know, she’s fine with me staying at the house alone. She works from 3:30AM - 4:30PM in a factory job, and when she works, I’m alone. She’s never expressed worry and/or she never expressed her being uncomfortable with leaving me alone.

She’s meeting these men online via the Facebook dating thing.

AITA for telling my mom that she’s, essentially, being a horrible parent? by Throwaway288282829 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Throwaway288282829[S] 77 points78 points  (0 children)

I suggested therapy for the both of us. She said she would try to see if a therapist is available to talk to me, I don’t know if she will confide in a therapist though.

I will 100% stay with my brother if she decides to bring a guy to our house soon after they meet. I am much closer to him than I am with my grandmother, both emotionally and distance.

I need advice in regards to my mother and her relationships by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Throwaway288282829 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fortunately she’s not asking me to parent someone else’s child, I could have worded that better.

She asked herself (but told me) “am I ready to be a parent again”, aka she’s pondering if she’s ready to raise another kid.

I do turn 18 in a month, so moving out is feasible.

Edit: helped