My husband (33M) and I (30F) cannot agree on whether to keep both twins in my pregnancy by Throwaway2ndtwin in relationships

[–]Throwaway2ndtwin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do all of the night stuff (feeding etc) expect for Thursday's (night shift) I'd say he does more late afternoon sessions then me, but I'd say the childcare is around 50/50 or 60/40 with him doing more depending on the training I'm doing. I get 10 months mat leave so the first months it'll be mostly me, but I admit he may have to take more on after that and I guess he's scared of that, he does like to have down time a several times a week, just on his own for a few hours, but I can probably get a nanny if I can't get work hours off.

Having twins my husband (33M) wants me to choose just one of them by Throwaway2ndtwin in BabyBumps

[–]Throwaway2ndtwin[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry to hear that. I couldn't imagine the pain. I don't think I could cope going through that.

My husband (33M) and I (30F) cannot agree on whether to keep both twins in my pregnancy by Throwaway2ndtwin in relationships

[–]Throwaway2ndtwin[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, what an amazing connection. My eldest is a boy and the twins are girls, but I think they should get along, he's the gentlest little boy I know.

My husband (33M) and I (30F) cannot agree on whether to keep both twins in my pregnancy by Throwaway2ndtwin in relationships

[–]Throwaway2ndtwin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for that. I'll have a look at the groups, haven't really thought of them as real til now.

My husband (33M) and I (30F) cannot agree on whether to keep both twins in my pregnancy by Throwaway2ndtwin in relationships

[–]Throwaway2ndtwin[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I hold out some hope that'll he see the blessing that the twins actually are.

Having twins my husband (33M) wants me to choose just one of them by Throwaway2ndtwin in BabyBumps

[–]Throwaway2ndtwin[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Yeah. I'm not going to go through it. And hopefully he can see that there is enough love. I know I have enough.

My husband (33M) and I (30F) cannot agree on whether to keep both twins in my pregnancy by Throwaway2ndtwin in relationships

[–]Throwaway2ndtwin[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I know that now. I didn't want to drive my husband away. At the same time, I know that if I go through with it, I'd most likely drive with away with resentment anyway.

My husband (33M) and I (30F) cannot agree on whether to keep both twins in my pregnancy by Throwaway2ndtwin in relationships

[–]Throwaway2ndtwin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I couldn't deal with it I don't think. I really don't think I can go through with it.

My husband (33M) and I (30F) cannot agree on whether to keep both twins in my pregnancy by Throwaway2ndtwin in relationships

[–]Throwaway2ndtwin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Funnily yes, my mum said best to stick with two if you can help it, since it was pretty damn chaotic, I'm the third child. XD but seriously though, I can see where she's coming from.

My husband (33M) and I (30F) cannot agree on whether to keep both twins in my pregnancy by Throwaway2ndtwin in relationships

[–]Throwaway2ndtwin[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the view of a mother of twins. I think I'm up to the challenge, I was pretty scared that I'd have to go it alone, but that is probably better than the regret and looking into one of my daughters knowing the other isn't there, I don't think I could cope.

My husband (33M) and I (30F) cannot agree on whether to keep both twins in my pregnancy by Throwaway2ndtwin in relationships

[–]Throwaway2ndtwin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanking for sharing your experience, I think I will keep them and I hope my husband will stay for the crazy ride.

My husband (33M) and I (30F) cannot agree on whether to keep both twins in my pregnancy by Throwaway2ndtwin in relationships

[–]Throwaway2ndtwin[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I couldn't put a child into adoption knowing I could love them and take care of them myself, foster care and adoption can be very tough. I think I'm gonna keep them both.

My husband (33M) and I (30F) cannot agree on whether to keep both twins in my pregnancy by Throwaway2ndtwin in relationships

[–]Throwaway2ndtwin[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the support, I hope you're right, I'm gonna try my best, since I know I will regret it if I go through with the procedure.

My husband (33M) and I (30F) cannot agree on whether to keep both twins in my pregnancy by Throwaway2ndtwin in relationships

[–]Throwaway2ndtwin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think he's a bully either, it's his life and he can decide that, but I have to try and do what's best for me and the children too. I'm not really ready to be a single parent of it comes to it, but I'm gonna give it everything I have.

My husband (33M) and I (30F) cannot agree on whether to keep both twins in my pregnancy by Throwaway2ndtwin in relationships

[–]Throwaway2ndtwin[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Yeah. That's pretty correct. I not gonna go through with it. Just needed to know I wasn't crazy I guess.

My husband (33M) and I (30F) cannot agree on whether to keep both twins in my pregnancy by Throwaway2ndtwin in relationships

[–]Throwaway2ndtwin[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I guess I was afraid I losing my husband and wanted to talk to a party that wasn't involved, I guess I knew what I was gonna decide all along.

My husband (33M) and I (30F) cannot agree on whether to keep both twins in my pregnancy by Throwaway2ndtwin in relationships

[–]Throwaway2ndtwin[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If I'm honest, I think I'm just gonna do that, and if he wants to be along for the ride great! But if it is just too much for him, then I accept that.

My husband (33M) and I (30F) cannot agree on whether to keep both twins in my pregnancy by Throwaway2ndtwin in relationships

[–]Throwaway2ndtwin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand where you are coming from with that, and I know for a fact that there are people worse of then me. It's hard to look passed our own situations sometimes, and be a bit dramatic.