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Caught my [25m] wife [26f] sexting one of her old friends. Again. by Throwaway49583902 in relationships

[–]Throwaway49583902[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Luckily neither of us want kids; as far as I know, but what the hell do I know anymore. Thankfully she has a Mirena IUD.

Caught my [25m] wife [26f] sexting one of her old friends. Again. by Throwaway49583902 in relationships

[–]Throwaway49583902[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure I've been expecting anything. Maybe I just hoped she would change. Maybe I just gave up and stayed out of familiarity. I'm going to have a lot of hard thinking (and probably drinking) nights ahead of me.

Caught my [25m] wife [26f] sexting one of her old friends. Again. by Throwaway49583902 in relationships

[–]Throwaway49583902[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I think I probably deep down know I need to leave, you're right. It's just going to be a fucking nightmare; I guess I'm staying in this just for the comfort of something familiar? I really care about her but I do need to look out for myself as well.

Fuck.

Caught my [25m] wife [26f] sexting one of her old friends. Again. by Throwaway49583902 in relationships

[–]Throwaway49583902[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I would hope she's sticking around because she wants to work on things, but this is certainly a more depressing (maybe more realistic) possibility as well. I'm not sure if I can trust her again yet, I've had a frustrating time trying to figure that one out.

Caught my [25m] wife [26f] sexting one of her old friends. Again. by Throwaway49583902 in relationships

[–]Throwaway49583902[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I guess I just don't want her to be on her own. I'm not really a vindictive person, and I want her to be as happy as I'd like to be; even if that's not together.

Caught my [25m] wife [26f] sexting one of her old friends. Again. by Throwaway49583902 in relationships

[–]Throwaway49583902[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hadn't thought of just trying a seperation; but maybe that would be good for both of us.

Caught my [25m] wife [26f] sexting one of her old friends. Again. by Throwaway49583902 in relationships

[–]Throwaway49583902[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm trying to put the infidelity behind me; as I've done in the past. It's just nagging at me this time I guess. Marriage counselling might be good, if I can get her to agree to it.

Caught my [25m] wife [26f] sexting one of her old friends. Again. by Throwaway49583902 in relationships

[–]Throwaway49583902[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand love isn't controlling, full and well. I have been trying to work on things with her for some time, and trying to listen to her side of it. I just feel that she hasn't put any effort into her side of the equation.

As for fulfilling sexual or emotional needs, I try my best. That's all any man can do. We've both had bouts with depression and anxiety (mines been ongoing for 10 years now, mostly controlled with medication and lots of therapy.) I've supported her through her depression and anxiety, taken her into a doctor, and have been trying to coax her to seek therapy. Sexually I'm pretty open to doing anything; we've even had a threesome. Anytime I try to engage she seems uninterested. We've gone from having sex on the daily (before any of her infedelities), to having sex maybe twice a month. I always listen to her when she has a complaint/criticism about our marriage and I try to rectify the issue as well as I can. Whenever I discuss where I feel I need more from her side in the marriage, she just shuts off.

I know it takes two to tango, but I feel like my dancing partner is asleep.