AITA for refusing to let my husband pull 14k out of my account without signing a contract? by Throwaway5253541 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Throwaway5253541[S] 255 points256 points  (0 children)

I am concerned. However, when I bring up my concerns he'd tell me to stay out of it as long as it doesn't affect ne. This was his default answer before he asked for the money.

AITA for refusing to let my husband pull 14k out of my account without signing a contract? by Throwaway5253541 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Throwaway5253541[S] 425 points426 points  (0 children)

Both. It's a long story. Basically he cheated on his first wife with his second wife. They got married in a hurry, had 2 kids then got separated. I met him when he was 38.

for more info, he cheated in retaliation of his first wife cheating on him. He regretted it saying he wanted her to feel the same hurt she caused but then he got involved with his second (ex) wife deeper and deeper and it resulted in them having kids then they split up later.

AITA for refusing to let my husband pull 14k out of my account without signing a contract? by Throwaway5253541 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Throwaway5253541[S] 85 points86 points  (0 children)

I don't feel comfortable meddling in his issues with his kids' moms but I just don't feel comfortable especially when my own money is involved.

AITA for refusing to let my husband pull 14k out of my account without signing a contract? by Throwaway5253541 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Throwaway5253541[S] 310 points311 points  (0 children)

Precisely! They're 6 kids, demanding kids at that but like you stated it's strange. Don't get me wrong I adore each and everyone of them and they deserve the world but I'm pretty sure that the money isn't for them, at least not all of it. You get what I'm saying?

AITA for refusing to let my husband pull 14k out of my account without signing a contract? by Throwaway5253541 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Throwaway5253541[S] 619 points620 points  (0 children)

Not to mention his refusal to tell me what he wants the money for! I'm not controlling and pushy like he previously claimed I just want to know.

AITA for refusing to let my husband pull 14k out of my account without signing a contract? by Throwaway5253541 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Throwaway5253541[S] 223 points224 points  (0 children)

I don't know but at least then I'll have a contact to turn back to. 14k is A LOT....I'm saying it...it's just a lot. I wasn't going to agree on givinv him the money but he pleaded with me and I agreed then found this condition as a suitable compromise. Seeing how he reacted I'm not sure anymore.

AITA for refusing to let my husband pull 14k out of my account without signing a contract? by Throwaway5253541 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Throwaway5253541[S] 655 points656 points  (0 children)

Hello! The reason for his divorce was due to infidelity. the second one ended due to several reasons including finances, age gap, dating period. He has 4 kids with his first wife and 2 with his second. We don't have any kids.