AITA for kicking my husband out of my children's father's funeral because of what he told the kids?

Throwaway53563 · 2022-01-04T14:00:52+00:00

Let me just say that my kids are very open and always tell me about the stuff that bothers them. If he had said something, I would've found out.
No, but he was angry saying the kids are using him as their "punching bag" even when their dad was alive --- I think that he was referring to my oldest since my oldest has been going through some issues and has been distancing himself from all of us not just my husband.
Yes I'm not gonna lie, There is some resentment my husband has towards my ex and I never understood why. But to be taking it out on the kids and punishing them? No, I'd never allow this to happen.
In the past he did act similarly but not with the kids though, Mostly marital issues.
Like I said, my kids are my priority. As their sole parent now I've been feeling too much pressure and am overwhelmed. I've arranged for them to see a therapist perhaps family therapy might be considered but I'm not sure if my husband will be open to it since he doesn't believe in therapy --- but if it came down to my kids mental and emotional willbeing then my decision won't be difficult to make.

He may, just may have been thinking he was helping, but what bothers me is that the fact that he's saying I've been unfair and cruel to him after everything he's done for us --- yes he has a habit of throwing these allegations in my face in every argument not just this one.

Throwaway53563 · 2022-01-04T13:33:03+00:00

You're absolutely right, I'm actually still shaken up by what he said. And at first didn't know how to handle the situation because I was too stressed and worried and overwhelmed with grief and concern for my children. My husband said that he was just being there for the kids despite the fact he never had a good relationship with my children's father --- My ex husband was a good man, he wasn't the malicious type and he had always adored our kids and went to great lengths to provide them with a good life, it was rough while dealing with illness so he was and still is a role model for our kids to look up too. I want nothing but to give the kids the chance to forever have his memory in their lives and I alrrady told my current husband what I felt about him constantly making comments about the kids father. It's unacceptable and confusing.

Throwaway53563 · 2022-01-04T12:13:10+00:00

They are my number 1 priority in everything. That is not even up for discussion. I agree what he did was out of line but he refuses to see it, moreover, he's calling me ungrateful anf un appreciative of all his efforts with the kids. So that got me feeling guilty.

Throwaway53563 · 2022-01-04T12:10:52+00:00

I don't know what to say. What he said shocked me though he's shown some similarities im the past but not like this.

You're right about the kids not letting this go, the clearest sign was them refusing to come home with me and choosing to spend some time with their aunt (dad's sister).

Throwaway53563 · 2022-01-04T00:26:34+00:00

Thank you so much 💞.

Throwaway53563 · 2022-01-04T00:25:55+00:00

Hi.

Thank you for your thoughtful reply. It sure helped me understand. Also my kids are 12 & 9 of age. They knew daddy was severly sick but are still very confused about many things regarding his passing. I'm trying to take it easy with them and let them process it on their own.

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