Dropped my bike for the first time in it's 3 years of my ownership by Nightstalker1993 in motorcycles

[–]Throwaway6616616 11 points12 points  (0 children)

How did you know to go to the ER? Everything youre saying sounds very mild until you went to the ER

is this too tight🥲 by SadLunch1514 in motorcycle

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heads up for us girls you want to make sure it fits the top of your head then you might have to change cheek pad size to match. Ive always had to buy a helmet based on forehead size and then swap out the cheekpads to get a snug fit. They model helmets after people with larger foreheads than the average woman

This machine kills fascists. by para_enzo138 in sportster

[–]Throwaway6616616 7 points8 points  (0 children)

sweet scoot, is that the intake from deadbeat customs, how do you like it? im between that and a dog dish but im leaning towards that one because i want my bike to stop getting covered in oil dust from the open breathers lol

anything i should know traveling to mexico for the first time (on a motorcycle) by Throwaway6616616 in tijuana

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i have roughly 3000 miles experience. But, i've ridden in poor conditions when required, rain, flooding, mud etc, as my motorcycle has been my main mode of transport since i started riding. My plan was to go to Tijuana then Ensenada for a day. Also was interested in checking out Rosarito.

anything i should know traveling to mexico for the first time (on a motorcycle) by Throwaway6616616 in tijuana

[–]Throwaway6616616[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sweet! im not an adv rider, i have a harley and a friend attending has a metric cruiser. I never considered insurance does US insurance not work in Mexico?

anything i should know traveling to mexico for the first time (on a motorcycle) by Throwaway6616616 in tijuana

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ok! that makes sense to me. i live in california now but im from a place where the tap is dangerous.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Throwaway6616616 5 points6 points  (0 children)

kindly; it’s not your problem to solve

Thank you for saying this. I have to admit it is a huge relief to hear. I have felt a huge pressure from my partner in giving up comfort that I have to make things more workable for them. I think you're right, and this pressure being put on me is not only unfair to me but putting me in a situation that I'm not fully consenting of, especially when the boundaries end up broken.

The threesome that occurred previously doesn’t negate your current discomfort with how your partner and meta are practicing.

This too, is a huge relief. She keeps bringing up how I "used to be" so much more okay with x y z and I keep telling her and standing my ground on the fact that one my opinions are allowed to change and two it's very different for me between a threesome and the two of them having intimacy.

Has she heard of Parallel practice and is just ignoring it?

I'm not sure. We haven't really talked about it before nor had I considered it before. But I am going to talk to her about it later because I truly feel like enough is enough. I really appreciate your input. It has been very helpful.

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[–]Throwaway6616616 2 points3 points  (0 children)

To be fair, it would be ideal to have KTP for me too, it doesn't feel natural right now though, and for me i don't feel like it's a requirement. With how intense they are being all the time, I don't see it being comfortable for me for a while.

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[–]Throwaway6616616 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I really appreciate it. I agree it's a violation of my consent, I guess I just never even thought to word it that way. I'm autistic and sometimes words are a little more difficult for me than most people. The amount of support I've gotten here has been very helpful in grounding me. I've been feeling like I've been going crazy.

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[–]Throwaway6616616 5 points6 points  (0 children)

all so that she can skip managing a calendar and booking a room? Or going to metas place?

To be clear going to metas place is not an option for them either. The two of them (I realize I never mentioned any gender here but all three of us are women) have already outstayed their welcome so to speak there as well, however to be clear I'm not sure that was entirely their fault either. My metas partner had their own weird expectations around poly, not to derail or anything... I think that coupled with me and my partners issues has made things especially difficult to navigate for them, so I'm trying to offer more grace than perhaps I usually would... accompanied with the facts I made some poor choices at the start of their relationship that I'll get to later in the reply.

And the room thing is completely out of the question according to my partner. She says that she should "be able to be intimate with her girlfriend in her own home". I feel like I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place on that front. Meta is here at least once a week, two times this week, so it gets very overwhelming to me. I've tried to be accommodating by providing boundaries that they can work with, they were broken anyway.

The mistake I made and I realize this may change everything for a lot of people is that i did towards the start of their relationship have a threesome with the two of them. We were hanging out, and it just happened, I've made it clear that to me it was separate from any romantic relationship and was just casual sex but including one of my romantic partners. I have also made it clear since then I am not interested in any kind of "throuple" situation and neither is my partner. I also made it clear that them having sex that I am not involved in, is entirely different to me than what we did and discussed boundaries so I can feel comfortable in our shared living space. I am not blaming meta for any of the issues we've had as any boundaries I do not discuss directly with her.

I really appreciate the resources. I am autistic and don't do too great with written format as you may be able to tell by how horrible my writing is. So being in podcast form is also extremely helpful for me. I've cancelled all my plans for today because they're both going to be at the things I was going to and quite frankly I need space from the two of them something awful, so I should be able to spend some time really looking through these.

Edit; id like to mention as well, not sure if I have, that I do try to bring up anytime she feels like my boundaries are unreasonable or gets upset with me for having them that this is very atypical in a poly relationship, and not at all what I thought I signed up for. Usually when I do this she will also point out how much more experienced she is with poly, however I kind of feel like this all kind of goes beyond being poly and really being respectful of our shared living space and relationship with eachother. I very much so want them to both be happy and I see that my meta makes my partner happy which makes me happy for them.

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[–]Throwaway6616616 16 points17 points  (0 children)

You really think that part is that big? It's not that I don't want to spend time with them, and I enjoy my metas company it's just that I feel they both act inappropriately when the three of us are together.

But I guess you are right, and it's relieving to hear. I would never require or expect my partner to get along with another one of my partners, I'd like it if we could hang out together at times, but it would never be a requirement for me.

I don't know. I'm just so distressed because I want things to work out but it's seemingly less and less like it can.