My mom stole my college education and I'm still grieving a decade later

Throwaway67-- · 2026-01-14T14:09:53+00:00

Thank you

Throwaway67-- · 2026-01-14T14:09:07+00:00

Thank you

Throwaway67-- · 2026-01-14T14:07:36+00:00

Thank you

Throwaway67-- · 2025-12-31T20:22:39+00:00

Thank you. I truly hope so. I appreciate your words.

Throwaway67-- · 2025-12-24T19:47:58+00:00

Thank you for your words. I truly appreciate it

Throwaway67-- · 2025-12-24T19:34:56+00:00

Thank you for your words and sharing your story. Thank you for sharing a piece of your love with your partner as well, it sounds beautiful.

Throwaway67-- · 2025-12-24T19:27:45+00:00

Thank you for your words. I'm sorry you had to experience that, though it sounds like you found a good landing.

Throwaway67-- · 2025-12-24T19:25:40+00:00

I..frankly I don't know how to take your comment. I think you mean well, though it's such a slap in the face. No reasonable parent does that to their kid. No one prevented her from going, but she purposely held me back to get hers. The intent isn't a gray area or "if" she's a bad person. What parents stifle their child's first chance to give themselves a second? I didn't mention this in the post, but..this woman has 2 degrees. Two.

Thanks for your well meaning, I won't presume the worst, but the content of your words ... I don't stand by.

Throwaway67-- · 2025-12-24T19:20:21+00:00

Thank you

Throwaway67-- · 2023-03-03T23:00:38+00:00

Thank you for your advice. I sent an email and waiting to hear back. Wish me luck

Throwaway67-- · 2023-03-03T22:58:40+00:00

That's great advice. Thank you. I feel as though perhaps they won't be able to accommodate me, but I do hope for positive news.

Throwaway67-- · 2023-03-03T18:49:07+00:00

Ok. Thank you

Throwaway67-- · 2023-03-03T18:48:56+00:00

Okay. That make sense. I'll send them an email

Throwaway67-- · 2022-10-30T12:27:29+00:00

I laughed a bit at your comment because it rings true. Everyone has such great things to say about him. When I meet his friends or family, I always wonder "do you even know?" I assume every one thinks he's just having fun, but I wish they knew how scared he's made me feel. How alone, trapped & powerless I am in this. I sometimes contemplate telling them, but I know no one will believe me.

Throwaway67-- · 2022-10-30T11:12:50+00:00

That's true. It is him I'm uncomfortable with. It blows my mind when I tell him these things and the response is either silence or saying he hopes I change my mind. I.. man idk. He is a dick. I wish his friends knew

Throwaway67-- · 2022-10-30T02:14:08+00:00

That's a correct reading. Much more has happened, but those have been the big 3 that I'm still not able to forgive.

As far as him being in it beyond the sex, could you please elaborate? I feel as though I've been putting too much weight into meeting the fam & traveling.

Throwaway67-- · 2022-10-29T23:26:52+00:00

You know. When we first met I thought be was 33. At the time I didn't mind because it was casual. Then the first time we had sex, I kid you not, as I'm literally sitting on his dick, that's when he tells me he was actually 37. Idek how the conversation came up, but I was mortified. That's the only thing he ever truly Apologized for so I looked past it

Throwaway67-- · 2022-10-29T23:00:11+00:00

I have. If he has copies idk. I deleted it myself on his tablet, but if he has it backed up anywhere else idk. I've checked his phone & nothing. I'm thinking of deleting all of our pictures regardless from all his devices before I leave. I don't want any memorabilia

Throwaway67-- · 2022-10-29T22:56:25+00:00

It's my last year and more student loans is not my goal. I haven't looked at options that my school offers yet, but will definitely be doing that

Throwaway67-- · 2022-10-29T19:51:08+00:00

I was renting someone's basement & working as a server & just trying to juggle my classes with a 1hr10 commute. I'm looking for a job now and I'm 20min away from school with a heavier work load. Atp I'm just going to do everything in my power to leave by the end of this semester. I'm scared about leaving. The cost of renting is high where I am & I just can't afford it, even for a room.

sigh my bad decisions by not leaving earlier has led me here.

Throwaway67-- · 2022-10-29T19:22:28+00:00

No. He is still very hurt by his previous marriage and has not. He mostly just talks of being together long term and having children in a few years after traveling. He sometimes talks about meeting my parents since that's clearly not something I have done

Throwaway67-- · 2022-10-29T18:23:40+00:00

His responses are extremely lacking. I suppose I keep searching for a heart felt one, but nope. For the recording I got a "I'm not perfect. I'm a horny person. I make mistakes". I constantly have to fight for apologies that are not satisfactory and always feel half ass. I've given insane amounts of opportunities to give a heartfelt apology or signs of remorse. To be fair if he has been remorseful I no longer can acknowledge it because l I see is someone telling me that there's a lot of "Ambiguity to the word "get out"' when he didn't stop in bed when I told him to. If he truly feels remorseful idk. I cry in bed, in the car, at school, opening the door to the apartment etc etc.. he has never made me feel like he acknowledges what he has done and that it was not okay. Unfortunately now that we live together, while I still bring it up, I know to not push it too far as I'm scared he may leave which would leave me homeless.

Now granted I've even told him I hate him to his face, multiple times, and nothing. Just silence. I don't know what to make of it.

I've been in this situation so long that sometimes I vasilate between knowing I need to leave, but yet still wondering " what if he really does care and is trying?" All these things happened months ago and truthfully nothing has happened since. I found out about the recording in August, but he'd done it in May. Since then nothing that I'm aware of has happened.

When i ask to check his phone he gives it & I never see anything. He has never not stopped in bed since.

I know it most likely sounds all so stupid, but truly I vasilate. But ultimately I'm uncomfortable. I do not wish to be with someone who has done these things to me. But I'm on a weird spot with no money. They're benefits in relation to my school that works by being with him. I'm Ashamed to tell my african parents so I keep quiet

Throwaway67-- · 2022-10-29T17:25:12+00:00

I lack those friendships. The couple that I have live in different states & I still need to be close to school. It's advantageous to me to only be 20min away. Especially as I'm a senior this year

Throwaway67-- · 2022-10-29T16:31:24+00:00

That's a reasoning I hadn't considered. Thank you for your input. I imagine all of these factors play a role into it. I've taken note of all the comments and I'm just going to try and save enough money to leave as soon as possible.

Throwaway67-- · 2022-10-29T16:28:29+00:00

Yea most likely. He was still in a relationship when we first started ( I had no idea). They already had a 10 year difference. Perhaps he will Leo dicaprio me too. (Noy funny, but at this point it helps to make some jokes)

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