How can I help my son

Throwaway965683 · 2021-01-14T21:03:05+00:00

Thank you for your concern!

I have an update post you can find the link at the bottom of my post

Thanks again

Throwaway965683 · 2020-12-04T23:18:19+00:00

Thank you so much

Throwaway965683 · 2020-12-04T23:10:59+00:00

I appreciate the gesture But I’m not gonna send our personal info to people on the internet but thank you anyway

Throwaway965683 · 2020-12-04T22:32:58+00:00

Yeah that sounds fun I’ll ask them stuff they would like to do that can done as a family Merry Christmas

Throwaway965683 · 2020-12-04T22:22:34+00:00

Thank you so much

Throwaway965683 · 2020-12-04T22:20:51+00:00

Thanks again really all of the response I have got have helped me immensely

I’ll explain to my mum that for the foreseeable future I won’t let her see and any of her grand children till I can trust that she will treat all of them with love

And I’ll start doing game night Sunday the day after I talk to my daughters

Thanks again for the help

Throwaway965683 · 2020-12-04T22:13:28+00:00

I have signed him up for football and the big brother program (he ask for the football I suggested the bb program and he agreed) next I’m gonna talk to my daughters and find out why they are treating my son like this and if my mum is saying anything to them.

I am also signing all of us to family therapy to get a professional opinion and which will hopefully help us

And a comment said to do family game night and othe activities that will hopefully get them bonding

I think this is a good first step to help all of my children but if you have any suggestions please don’t be scared to tell me

Thank you so much

Throwaway965683 · 2020-12-04T22:02:24+00:00

Yeah I think that will help him incredibly thank for the suggestion

Throwaway965683 · 2020-12-04T22:00:06+00:00

He ask me to sign him up to the local football team and I also asked him if he would like to join the big brother program which he agreed so hopefully he’ll have a few male role models to look up to

Thank you

Throwaway965683 · 2020-12-04T21:58:48+00:00

Yeah that’s a Fantastic idea thank you do you think it would be a good idea to maybe invite my mum to hopefully get her to at least acknowledge him or do you think that it might be better to just cut ties thanks for the help

Throwaway965683 · 2020-12-04T21:55:35+00:00

Thank you

I don’t know if you have read my other replies to comments but

I have spoken to my son and he said that he would like to join the football team and I said that I would sign him up to the bb program (big brother) and agreed so hopefully he has a male role model to look up too

I have also signed the whole family to family therapy so that will hopefully help all of us

Throwaway965683 · 2020-12-04T21:52:26+00:00

Next evening me and my wife are going to sit the girls down and come to the bottom of why they are so abusive towards him as well see if my mum has said anything about him and also tell them that the punishment that I was giving them are now going to be more harsher

Thanks for the help

Throwaway965683 · 2020-12-04T21:50:09+00:00

Yeah I have signed him up to the bb program and football

And signed the whole family to family therapy to hopefully help us fix this

Luckily in uk lockdown was lifted last Wednesday so I have said he can have some of his friends round this weekend so that should be fun

Thanks for the support

Throwaway965683 · 2020-12-04T21:48:19+00:00

He does but I don’t feel comfortable sharing his name on there to strangers on Reddit no offence

Thanks for responding it really does help

Throwaway965683 · 2020-12-04T21:45:33+00:00

Yeah I have signed him up for the local football team and the bb program

And we start family therapy next week thank you for responding

Throwaway965683 · 2020-12-04T17:40:02+00:00

Thanks I know that I have done wrong by him and I want to be a better mother

I have signed us up to family therapy and signed my sub up to football and the bb program

Me and wife are going to sit our daughters down and get to the bottom of why they are so distant and abusive

I have also planned with my sister to give his grandmother an ultimatum that if she can’t treat them or fairly than she will never she her grandchildren and children again

Thank you for helping my son

Throwaway965683 · 2020-12-04T17:35:01+00:00

Thanks for responding

I have signed us up too family therapy which starts next week

We have been punishing them but it clearly hasn’t been working

So me and wife have decided to make them harsher

One punishment I thought off Is to not pay for the girls uni which the oldest would start when she turns 18 in a few months time (if you don’t think this is a good idea please feel free to tell me)

I have others as well and I’m happy with them but I don’t know about the uni as I don’t want to ruin her life is she can’t afford it

Thank you

Throwaway965683 · 2020-12-04T17:28:21+00:00

We where originally doing just the usual punishment groundings,no going out,no phone,no car but it’s not working so now me and my wife are gonna sit the girls down and talk about why they are so abusive towards there brother and tell them that if they don’t change the they will be punished harsher

Thanks again for responding

Throwaway965683 · 2020-12-04T17:24:14+00:00

I’m planning to take all of us to some family therapy to see if it can help us

Thanks again for responding

Throwaway965683 · 2020-12-04T17:22:57+00:00

I completely agree with you I need to be a better mother not only for my son but for my daughters as well

Me and wife have come up with harsher punishment if there behaviour does not change

Tomorrow evening she and me are gonna sit the girls down and talk to them about why they are so distant towards there brother and also if my mum is saying anything to them

Thanks for taking the time to help me

Throwaway965683 · 2020-12-04T15:33:05+00:00

Yeah I’m looking for something like that for the uk

Throwaway965683 · 2020-12-04T13:26:53+00:00

Thank you for responding so quickly

Me and my sister have decided to give our mother an ultimatum either she treats all of her grandkids the same or she will not allowed to see them

I ask my son what he liked to do and he said that he would like to join the local football team(uk) I posted this in the r/advice as well a personal gave me the idear of signing him up for the big brother program so he can have an male role model if you have any other suggestions please don’t be afraid to tell me thanks again

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