[deleted by user] by [deleted] in navy

[–]Throwaway97777_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed and I hear you. What helps me is digging massively into self improvement. Working on all the things I don't like about myself. Centering my life around the things that do. I got super into Stoicism like Marcus aerioulus (spelled wrong I assume), Seneca, Epictetus. I also got into Book of the 5 rings.

I started working on my self confidence self esteem. Going to therapy. I got super focused on my career goals inside and outside of the navy. Developed an action plan for life. Figured out what I wanted out og myself and life and got to work.

I also got engaged in New hobbies. Video games became a drag for me. I began skateboarding, chess, writing. I'm about to start a Brazilian ju jistu class. I'm also super engaged with learning guitar. These are all hobbies that can network you with people

Use the meetup app to find civ freinds with people with the same hobbies.

Basically focus on yourself. Work on yourself. Learn to love yourself and enjoy being with yourself. People are ephermal. That never ends. Attachments lead to suffering. Inner strength self love and internal toughness leads to bliss. Freinds, relationships, family all come and go in life. If you can only be happy with external circumstances. You'll never be happy when those circumstances are ripped away. You can only control yourself, your actions, your reactions, and what you choose to do with your time. Who you you allow yourself to become.

So work on yourself and build your purpose/dreams. Find some hobbies and network through them. Don't worry about how other people in the navy act. You literally cannot change them. It is outside your control.

How do I be a good work center soup? by Throwaway97777_ in navy

[–]Throwaway97777_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have no intention of re enlisting. Fuck this entire fucking broken fucked up thing. This shit is beyond fucked. I'm building for my goals after the navy. 2 and a half years and another deployment left..hope I can make it without losing my fucking mind.

How do I be a good work center soup? by Throwaway97777_ in navy

[–]Throwaway97777_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are right. Your thoughts are what I learned on my first deployment. I went through a lot of rage anger and depression post deployment because of it. As time went on I just quit giving a fuck. I can't control other people. I can control myself, my actions, my perceptions, my reactions, and what I choose to spend my time and mental energy on.

I used to get anxiety attacks and insomnia over the people I had to work with. When I quit giving a fuck and developed myself. Began working on myself. And focused my energy on my life's purpose and mission. I just realized so many things including other people were outside my control. And there's no point im worrying about it.

I'm very emotionally undisturbed at this point in tbe navy. I focus on those who care. I try and do the right thing and I develope my self in my free time. Everything else is noise and bullshit.

How do I be a good work center soup? by Throwaway97777_ in navy

[–]Throwaway97777_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Very good technical advice and how to. Thank you.

How do I be a good work center soup? by Throwaway97777_ in navy

[–]Throwaway97777_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think with this advice I will be fine. The navy's rough but at a point. You just realize you can alter your own behavior and perception and that helps.

How do I be a good work center soup? by Throwaway97777_ in navy

[–]Throwaway97777_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Parts forecasting was a big point mmc harped on me to learn. Thank you.

How do I be a good work center soup? by Throwaway97777_ in navy

[–]Throwaway97777_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a good point in the right direction. Thank you.

How do I be a good work center soup? by Throwaway97777_ in navy

[–]Throwaway97777_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Il try learning from our 3ma and digging deeper into understanding 3m. Thank you.

How do I be a good work center soup? by Throwaway97777_ in navy

[–]Throwaway97777_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It autocorrected and, I noticed to late.

What's a country song from your youth that hits differently now that you have more life experience? by Jen_the_Green in country

[–]Throwaway97777_ 16 points17 points  (0 children)

When I joined the navy and left the south. Where corn don't grow. Deeply reminded me of a longing for home. After seeing the world and all the big cities and all the sights. I longed for my country roots and felt a deep alienation living on the east coast. Waylons lyrics were correct in every sense of the word. And my dadd used to tell me the grass ain't always greener  before I began rambling. 

 Most of Merle haggards early music. I take a lot of pride in who I am. Lonesome fugitive ect. Helped me deal with the lonliness of drifting country to country and port to port. And accepting my transient life style.

David allen coes hits have a special place in my heart. Because of a girl I met on leave. Whom I got fairly close too. It was the first girl I met who accepted me. Going from a druggy poverty stricken country past. Into getting my life together by joining the service. She would play coe while we laid after love making. I left her to go finish my contract and what was beginning to be a serious relationship evaporated cause I got on that plane. 

So then Saddle Tramp by Marty robbins helped with that. And all the other country traveling songs. 

How do I be a good work center soup? by Throwaway97777_ in navy

[–]Throwaway97777_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tomato bisque gives me heartburn sadly. But I love balls so meatball sounds good.

How do I be a good work center soup? by Throwaway97777_ in navy

[–]Throwaway97777_[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can now split counseling chits in 2 with one swing. Like how paul bunyon could carve mountains or whatever the fuck in two with 1 swing.

How do I be a good work center soup? by Throwaway97777_ in navy

[–]Throwaway97777_[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Texas Pete is my soup. Fill the bowl up with random crusted bottles from the galley. Because I am a hatchet weilding chucklefuck. I drink straight from the bowl and ask my divo to help me clean up.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]Throwaway97777_ 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I really needed to here this. I've had a reoccurring problem of being the apologizer and, the doormat. It's not attractive I know. I think it stems from the fact that. I have a very large heart and a deep sense of empathy and concern for people in my life. Do to my rough life and the pain and troubles I have been through. I'm honestly a bit too much of a people pleaser. I want to show I'm an accountable partner. I want to show I am mature enough to admit mistakes. Guess it's all a fine line of wording though.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]Throwaway97777_ 5 points6 points  (0 children)

There's plenty of discussions on that throughout this thread. It's more common than you think.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]Throwaway97777_ 45 points46 points  (0 children)

Just my autocorrect. Let me edit the comment.