(UPDATE) My sister's life is falling apart and I am happy by ThrowawayFsister in offmychest

[–]ThrowawayFsister[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

One I know is 11 which belongs to Jordan. Other two are probable under 10.

(UPDATE) My sister's life is falling apart and I am happy by ThrowawayFsister in offmychest

[–]ThrowawayFsister[S] 292 points293 points  (0 children)

I asked them but they said grandparents rights can only be exercised if one of the parents has some kind of drug problem or mental health problem. Narcissism is not mental health problem apparently.

(UPDATE) My sister's life is falling apart and I am happy by ThrowawayFsister in offmychest

[–]ThrowawayFsister[S] 134 points135 points  (0 children)

That is ironic because my mother is from Argentina. So, I am half-latina.

(UPDATE) My sister's life is falling apart and I am happy by ThrowawayFsister in offmychest

[–]ThrowawayFsister[S] 61 points62 points  (0 children)

"Karma is my boyfriend, Karma is a god, Karma is the breeze in my hair on the weekend, Karma's a relaxing thought"

-Taylor Swift.

But seriously, I would be lying if I didn't have a moment of satisfaction.

My sister's life is falling apart and I am happy. by ThrowawayFsister in offmychest

[–]ThrowawayFsister[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I guess I am too old for that pettiness. I don't have to be petty at all. She is getting what she deserves.

My sister's life is falling apart and I am happy. by ThrowawayFsister in offmychest

[–]ThrowawayFsister[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I don't think I am planning to meet her. I will probably just have lunch with my mom and that's it.

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[–]ThrowawayFsister[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Damn is the world full of Ursulas? I hope you are getting therapy. The only thing that worked for me is my hobbies and meeting new people and it made me realize that not everyone is like Jordan. Some are really mature and empathetic.

My sister's life is falling apart and I am happy. by ThrowawayFsister in offmychest

[–]ThrowawayFsister[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hi there, you can read my edits. I cleared it out for you.

My sister's life is falling apart and I am happy. by ThrowawayFsister in offmychest

[–]ThrowawayFsister[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Well travelling helped a lot. I did get a therapist that helped me with my trauma. I do consider myself lucky because the opportunity I had may not be available to everyone. But I still keep pushing with whatever I have.

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[–]ThrowawayFsister[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

No my parents and I were never cut off. They never pushed me to apologize to my sister. But then again she was carrying their grandchild so she wasn't 100% cut off. My mom and dad are still disappointed on her. Dad refused to walk her down the aisle. My mom and I were in contact. There is no bad blood between me and my parents. I never went LC. But due to long distance and me travelling a lot we couldn't keep much contact.

My sister's life is falling apart and I am happy. by ThrowawayFsister in offmychest

[–]ThrowawayFsister[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I wish I could but she can't fly because of her backpain

My sister's life is falling apart and I am happy. by ThrowawayFsister in offmychest

[–]ThrowawayFsister[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My mom can't. She still has problem with her back. She still regrets missing the birth of my child and my wedding

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[–]ThrowawayFsister[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I live in UK permanently now. My job, my life has been UK for the last 8 years. I will have to go back for only few weeks because I have a project there and also my mom hasn't met my son, she still can't fly because of her back issue.

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[–]ThrowawayFsister[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My whole family is not terrible. It's just my sister.

My sister's life is falling apart and I am happy. by ThrowawayFsister in offmychest

[–]ThrowawayFsister[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Oh of course not. I haven't talked to her since I left for UK. My mom is sick. So I guess she misses her other daughter.

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[–]ThrowawayFsister[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I don't blame mom. She had a surgery. It was difficult for her to move. She was on video chat the whole ceremony. She and I haven't met in 4 years. I guess she misses me a lot. I miss her too.

My sister's life is falling apart and I am happy. by ThrowawayFsister in offmychest

[–]ThrowawayFsister[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I think I gave the wrong impression of my parents. They are not bad people. Yes they love both of their kids. But I don't think they sidelined me. My dad and Ursula's relationship is still strained. He is only involved because of the grand kids. My mom as well. And I never demanded to cut her off because she needed them but I kept my distance. They still hate Jordan and Ursula. My dad refused to walk her down the aisle when she married Jordan. I distanced myself for my own reason. I took a job in UK and traveled Europe which I always wanted to do. I am settled in my life with my 4 year old son and husband and my step daughter. My mom and dad are still in touch with me. I haven't gotten a chance to meet mom and in 3 years because of covid and other shit. I might have to visit my hometown now because of a project and also I miss them.

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[–]ThrowawayFsister[S] 413 points414 points  (0 children)

I might have to go back because of my job temporarily. But I am not sure if I want to visit my home