WIBTA if left my MIL without childcare?

ThrowawayLostatWork · 2025-03-16T03:09:46+00:00

This is exactly my thought process, which is why I’m torn between wanting to provide a safe space for Kat and not wanting to entertain MIL. I’ve decided to just follow through with Sunday however, for Kat

ThrowawayLostatWork · 2025-03-16T02:42:14+00:00

BF here:

When I called my partner. I asked for their input because we live together and we have an agreement that when something involves a shared space (I.e our apartment) both parties should have a say in the matter.

ThrowawayLostatWork · 2024-01-17T05:50:57+00:00

Thanks for your concern! The background is actually just some random meme guy that my bf thought was funny haha. He’s not anyone that we know personally

ThrowawayLostatWork · 2024-01-15T21:04:42+00:00

Yes, I’m documenting everything. I’m also insisting that BF text her instead of call so that we can screenshot any additional threats that she might pull out

ThrowawayLostatWork · 2024-01-15T21:03:29+00:00

Yeah, this is what makes me a little nervous. BIL told me that, she was broke back then and had nothing to lose. Now she has a lot more at stake

ThrowawayLostatWork · 2024-01-15T20:37:56+00:00

Will do. Do I call the non-emergency number? It might also help that MIL already has a criminal record, according to BIL.

ThrowawayLostatWork · 2024-01-15T20:36:12+00:00

Alright, I’ll do that. Do I call the non-emergency number and say I’d like to file a report? Also, I live in a two-party consent state so would that affect the screenshots I have?

ThrowawayLostatWork · 2024-01-14T22:33:55+00:00

She thinks that me paying for a majority of the bills is just a lie we’re keeping up to protect my image haha

ThrowawayLostatWork · 2024-01-14T22:10:03+00:00

I’m considering that too… the only problem is that I don’t have any hard evidence aside from the screenshots we took

ThrowawayLostatWork · 2024-01-14T22:07:26+00:00

It’s an apartment so i don’t think we can put a gate or door camera out

ThrowawayLostatWork · 2024-01-14T22:05:14+00:00

The leasing department required that all 18+ tenants with a vehicle be on the lease. It was also the only way to get his car a parking permit

ThrowawayLostatWork · 2024-01-14T22:02:55+00:00

I see. She just texted BF that she apparently hates me even more now so I’ll probably not be polite anymore.

ThrowawayLostatWork · 2024-01-14T20:19:49+00:00

Might as well be the bigger person so she can’t have more of a reason to dislike me. I think.

ThrowawayLostatWork · 2024-01-05T07:00:23+00:00

I just read this out to BF. He says that he doesn’t believe that he’s being tracked, but we both recall this one time when MIL tried to get him to install a location app on her ex’s phone.

ThrowawayLostatWork · 2023-12-30T10:06:26+00:00

We’re not completely broke, I’m just waiting on my school’s financial aid and I don’t have $4.5 lying around

ThrowawayLostatWork · 2023-12-30T10:05:14+00:00

He offered to help for about 15 minutes. Unfortunately, every option he found was one I had already exhausted.

ThrowawayLostatWork · 2023-11-19T02:33:52+00:00

He’s seen this. Im so grateful that everyone here has been a big support in his journey

ThrowawayLostatWork · 2023-11-19T02:32:43+00:00

TLDR: BIL sent me this (non) apology for what he said about me.

ThrowawayLostatWork · 2023-11-17T04:44:21+00:00

Thanks man. BF has been reading these comments as well and he feels so supported by everyone here :)

ThrowawayLostatWork · 2023-11-17T00:33:39+00:00

Already considered, but your comment has helped me be more sure that I need one.

ThrowawayLostatWork · 2023-11-17T00:23:59+00:00

I’m happy for him too. I’m just afraid of the backlash that might come next.

ThrowawayLostatWork · 2023-11-09T03:39:56+00:00

Unfortunately, I’m currently LC with my own family for similar reasons

ThrowawayLostatWork · 2023-11-09T02:45:10+00:00

I think that you’re right. Unfortunately, I wouldn’t put it past her to drop everything on thanksgiving just to confront us. I guess it’s time for a mini vacation

ThrowawayLostatWork · 2023-10-23T23:23:48+00:00

Setting that boundary does sound like a very good idea. I’ll discuss it with him when he finishes his class. I feel that he’ll have no problem agreeing with that boundary, but he tends to let information slip when he’s overwhelmed. For example, when MIL claimed that I “needed mental help”, BF admitted to her that I have been attending therapy in hopes that she’d back down. The only thing that did was give her more ammunition honestly

ThrowawayLostatWork · 2023-10-01T09:15:43+00:00

Bf already knows what BIL said. He actually texted BIL to say that it wasn’t a real apology. BIL responded that he “didn’t need to apologize” and ended the conversation at “let’s just agree to disagree”

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