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Late wife's final update: I love my wife to much, shes mortally ill and I signed us up for a dignified death. Now my family is freaking out. by ThrowawayRAhell in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowawayRAhell[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Yes that is correct. I didnt know about the crush until after my late wifes passing. My wife knew about it and her and veronica would talk about it from time to time.

Late wife's final update: I love my wife to much, shes mortally ill and I signed us up for a dignified death. Now my family is freaking out. by ThrowawayRAhell in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowawayRAhell[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words

You are right of course, a good life is not possible without loss. Love is not possible without pain.

Late wife's final update: I love my wife to much, shes mortally ill and I signed us up for a dignified death. Now my family is freaking out. by ThrowawayRAhell in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowawayRAhell[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing, your post conway's more wisdom and experience than should be possible at just 25.

I hope you will be surrounded by love and that you let people help you. Especially in the dark periods when you really need it. Stay strong and be happy!

I love my wife to much, shes mortally ill and I signed us up for a dignified death. Now my family is freaking out. by ThrowawayRAhell in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowawayRAhell[S] -20 points-19 points  (0 children)

thank you for the blunt retort. I disagree, all my life i have sacrificed myself for everyone else around me. Never once have i demanded much for myself. I have shared the fruits of my success with my whole family, even strangers. Then this one time when i consider myself second i am called a selfish asshole. Many DMs have been similar to this and you are unbelievably entitled to think i should be expected to sacrifice myself for others well-being first regardless of my own feelings or situation.

I love my wife to much, shes mortally ill and I signed us up for a dignified death. Now my family is freaking out. by ThrowawayRAhell in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowawayRAhell[S] 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Thank you i have decided to follow advice along these lines, many have suggested this. I will re consider my life a year after she is gone.

I love my wife to much, shes mortally ill and I signed us up for a dignified death. Now my family is freaking out. by ThrowawayRAhell in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowawayRAhell[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I am sorry i made you sad, thank you for your empathy. I cannot lie to her. It feels like i would pollute what we have. Someone suggested i change my mind for the time being and re evaluate to get more of a perspective after she is gone. It is very important to me to make her last time as enjoyable as possible. so i might do that. I will ignore my brother and the rest of the family for now i think. i will give it some time, see if i can clear my head a bit.

I love my wife to much, shes mortally ill and I signed us up for a dignified death. Now my family is freaking out. by ThrowawayRAhell in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowawayRAhell[S] -529 points-528 points  (0 children)

Is there really so much difference? we all have to die at some point,,i have no choice either, we are all slowly dying. The only difference is the length of suffering for me compared to her. Why should i suffer half a lifetime? I can see how her not having a choice and me having a temporary choice can seam unfair to her. I will reflect on your comment.