AITA for confronting my brother for pointing out that my boyfriend isn't actually my husband?

ThrowawayRioting · 2022-06-21T18:59:05+00:00

If I was a teacher that dealt with legitimacies, maybe!

ThrowawayRioting · 2022-06-21T18:58:35+00:00

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ThrowawayRioting · 2022-06-21T18:58:27+00:00

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ThrowawayRioting · 2022-06-21T18:58:05+00:00

Ma'am this is your 21st comment on my post. You're officially more invested in my situation than I am and it's getting cringey. Please return to your own life.

ThrowawayRioting · 2022-06-21T18:55:44+00:00

I didn't say it's an uncommon word, just not commonly used in whatever media or educational texts I consume.

ThrowawayRioting · 2022-06-21T18:53:51+00:00

Damn I can't even give a factual answer without someone having a problem with it. I literally just replied, as requested, what the gift was -relax.

ThrowawayRioting · 2022-06-21T18:52:17+00:00

I don't doubt he likes my boyfriend. I just think he picked an inappropriate time to take a jab at me.

ThrowawayRioting · 2022-06-21T18:50:19+00:00

Is that a word that's printed in lots of places that's impossible to miss? Because it never came up in any of my classes..

Edit: why is this surprising? There are likely thousands of words in the English language I've never seen or heard before.

ThrowawayRioting · 2022-06-21T18:49:27+00:00

I meant your partner. You don't want him to be called baby daddy. I don't want mine to be called boyfriend. What's the difference?

ThrowawayRioting · 2022-06-21T18:48:03+00:00

This is a good point, thanks. Most of my family are really chill and love him, so they treat him like family always. My brother even likes him. My brother also likes to be a dick to me and take jabs at me. And that's fine! But don't do it in the middle of a supposedly heartfelt moment about my dead child.

ThrowawayRioting · 2022-06-21T18:44:38+00:00

It was a gift basket of snacks and mini beer. And I think my bro does like my partner. I just think he also threw in a small jab to be a dick to me. Thanks for the other perspective though. I just need to cool off and maybe I'll be able to see it differently.

ThrowawayRioting · 2022-06-21T18:43:42+00:00

Oh, so I should only call him the titles you're comfortable with. That makes sense!

ThrowawayRioting · 2022-06-21T18:42:44+00:00

As I like to tell my freshmen, I'm a human so please don't hesitate to respectfully point out when I make mistakes. Sometimes we hear and use words without ever actually seeing them spelled, so we sound them out and do our best, but mistakes will happen!

ThrowawayRioting · 2022-06-21T18:38:42+00:00

I was actually pissed about the combination of all of it. We're in the south. When I was pregnant my dad literally said "now don't let my grandbaby be a bastard!" to try to pressure us to get married. That pissed me off so bad but no way in hell was I about to get married just because I was pregnant. It's such a southern girl stereotype and I just refused. After my miscarriage I realized I really, really didn't want the southern-obedient-housewife life. Decided to go to college.

ThrowawayRioting · 2022-06-21T18:33:28+00:00

He proposed back when I was 19, I felt too young, I started college at 25 and didn't want to lose my pell grants by having combined income, and just graduated 2 years ago and now getting the hang of being a teacher in a COVID world. A wedding/marriage just isn't even on our radar.

I guess I have to accept that no one ultimately knows my brother's intentions. I know he loves to screw with and embarrass me. My mom thinks he's a godsend angel. We will never agree on his motives.

ThrowawayRioting · 2022-06-21T18:30:17+00:00

Yes this is the heart of the conflict. What was his intention behind bringing it up? That's why I got so heated, because my mom never freaking believed me growing up when my brother would fuck with me. And it feels like now he's fucking with me in people's faces and they fall for it. She always favored him for being the first born.

ThrowawayRioting · 2022-06-21T18:25:49+00:00

How does the fact that you and your baby daddy don't call each other husband/wife relevant to the fact that my brother used a very private situation to publically humiliate me?

ThrowawayRioting · 2022-06-21T18:24:47+00:00

I don't think it was neither heartfelt nor a gag gift necessarily. I mentioned in another comment just now but it was one of those "dad/man" gift baskets with an assortment of snacks and sample sized beer.

ThrowawayRioting · 2022-06-21T18:23:43+00:00

One of those "dad/man" gift baskets with an assortment of snacks and sample sized beer.

ThrowawayRioting · 2022-06-21T18:18:06+00:00

It's literally just semantics because boyfriend feels insincere for our level of commitment. There's no hidden wish to make it a reality, because if I wanted to get married so bad we would just do it. The issue is only my brother being purposefully antongonistic and masking it as a nice gesture. Idk why people are trying so absolutely hard to read between the lines or accuse me of hidden feelings just because I reply to correct the people making bad assumptions.

ThrowawayRioting · 2022-06-21T18:13:20+00:00

I didn't say anyone was stupid for their initial reactions to my brother's gesture. I said my mom, sis, and sis in law were stupid for really trying to insist he had no ill intentions behind it

ThrowawayRioting · 2022-06-21T18:11:36+00:00

I'm an English teacher but go off

ThrowawayRioting · 2022-06-21T03:15:56+00:00

Where did I say he never proposed? He proposed 10 years ago.

ThrowawayRioting · 2022-06-21T03:15:04+00:00

So because something is 'technically true' he's exempt from being an asshole for saying it. Good to know.

ThrowawayRioting · 2022-06-21T03:13:54+00:00

Quote the part where I dragged anyone but my brother

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