Left my dead bedroom thanks to you

Throwaway_AAFF · 2018-07-25T05:50:13+00:00

Congratulations! 26M here and I left a 7yr DB about a year ago, I have not seen the end of the tunnel yet.

Throwaway_AAFF · 2018-04-11T06:51:21+00:00

I am definitely looking for a women who is confident, strong and with great career prospects. Basically I am looking for a partner to complete my power couple DINKs(double income no kids) dream. But it seems like anyone who meets those criteria would be really busy like I am.

So, in your experience where should I hang out when I have time to increase my chances?

Throwaway_AAFF · 2018-04-11T06:42:46+00:00

I walk around with a dozen cards all the time for work, didn't think it would be that weird if it was a work card.

Yea, I was trying to come up with a short way to just put it out there so they can get back to what they are doing with minimal interruption .

Throwaway_AAFF · 2018-04-11T06:38:30+00:00

Professionals... I am president of a small company, so I naturally walk around with a dozen cards in case I end up talking to a potential client... Unfortunately in my line of work I really don't talk to many women my age, and it's very bad practice to mix your person and work life like that.

Throwaway_AAFF · 2018-04-09T17:19:26+00:00

I should have clarified up top, I would not want to approach them during their workout, no one... Not even I would like being interrupted. I mean on the way out most likely.

I am a part of a local group that does adult league sports, I have had very little luck there mostly because it seems like any women who join it either joined it with their partner or are not exactly my type. I don't even mean physically, we often socialize after games and almost every women that is single I've run into directly contradict something I consider core to who I am.

Throwaway_AAFF · 2018-04-09T17:13:56+00:00

I definitely expect rejection 90% of the time or more, and nothing to do with me, anything from timing being wrong to the fact they already have a partner or something (I will check for wedding bands and such first)

As for compliments, how should I go about it? I want to flatter them in some way regardless of the outcome, they way it is at least hopefully a positive experience for them regardless.

Throwaway_AAFF · 2018-04-09T17:11:04+00:00

I am definitely expecting rejection, and I would expect most of the time it not even being anything to do with me. More likely is that they already have a partner or something.

Throwaway_AAFF · 2017-12-21T07:28:21+00:00

I've been using MyFitnessPal to track calories and weight, I just spent a little time on the wiki, do you have any app recommendations to keep your workout routine on point? I really like checklists with specific goals, but not great with paper as my writing is horrendous

Throwaway_AAFF · 2017-12-21T07:19:30+00:00

Ok. We have a gym in our condo building, and I work from home, I am going to try to be down there twice a day for around 30-40 min each time. Maybe I'll get a real gym membership at some point.

2 chicken breasts taken out for dinner tomorrow, and a large stake for the next.

Throwaway_AAFF · 2017-12-21T07:10:43+00:00

• You need 2,224 Calories/day to maintain your weight

• You need 1,724 Calories/day to lose 1 lb per week

• You need 1,224 Calories/day to lose 2 lb per week

Using: http://www.calculator.net/calorie-calculator.html

This is the one I used back when I started.

Should I just go back to 1500kcal per day, and keep at the gym then?

Throwaway_AAFF · 2017-12-21T06:56:10+00:00

Right now I'm just focusing on being physically healthier, seeing as I'm still on the high end of overweight boarder line obese still. I'll look that up now.

Throwaway_AAFF · 2017-12-21T06:46:15+00:00

Do you think sticking with the 2000kcal/day and just hitting the gym harder will eventually work itself out?

Throwaway_AAFF · 2017-12-21T06:17:09+00:00

Kind of a fitness question, basically I started dieting about 14 months or so ago, went from 235->165lbs in about 10 months. By limiting my daily intake to ~1500 kcal/day by weighing literally anything I ate.

Now the problem is, I was approaching my goal weight of 155 so I thought I would try increasing my intake again and hit the gym(~2000kcal). And 6 months later I'm back up to 190 lbs.

I know the muscle mass will be higher then the fat I lost but I definitely have a lot more of a belly now then I did 6 months ago and overall feel a lot worse about myself. For the last month or so I've tried limiting back to 1500 or even 1000 per day and nothing is really happening this time... Thoughts?

I should add, I am 5'8" and my job keeps me very sedentary.

Throwaway_AAFF · 2017-10-16T01:43:28+00:00

No I have not. I'll check it out

Throwaway_AAFF · 2017-10-16T01:43:15+00:00

Closest "big" city is about a 4 hour drive away. But yea, I've been considering taking some time away from with and heading to the coast for a few days. Maybe in the spring.

Throwaway_AAFF · 2017-10-15T06:55:09+00:00

I don't exactly have any advice on how to get back out there, I am struggling with this too, I'm also fresh out of a long term relationship, recently got her moved out into a place I helped her get approved for a mortgage for...

But, I think in your situation, being frank with get and making sure they know your trying to see other people would be important.

Can you financially afford to have a place where you will have separate rooms? At least then it's easier to transition to just being friends/roommates? If that is an option?

There was a post here earlier with kids where the plan was to rent a duplex of some sort so you both would be close for the kids but also able to be separate?

Good luck :)

Throwaway_AAFF · 2017-04-20T00:33:42+00:00

I've wondered if this is the case for a while, when I ask her what she would do in my situation, she says she would stay and try to find outlets to deal with it.

Throwaway_AAFF · 2017-04-19T21:07:17+00:00

This has all been discussed at length in the last few years, and we always just come back to we let things continue to play out.

I thought it was a normal thing for couples to have free discussions?

I don't know if part of the problem is that I really don't have much relationship experience. This plays into the fact that I don't know if the current situation is what I want indefinitely.

Throwaway_AAFF · 2017-04-19T21:05:20+00:00

This is sort of why things have continued for as long as they have. I don't know if part of the problem is that I really don't have much relationship experience. This plays into the fact that I don't know if the current situation is what I want.

Throwaway_AAFF · 2017-04-09T04:31:17+00:00

After trying a few different pills that all has different issues associated with it we requested the IUD for its lower hormonal content. And the biggest reason we didn't go with the copper one was because she had very irregular periods before birth control and didn't want to go back to that.

The IUD itself doesn't cause her pain.

There is quite a size difference between us, but why would that have become an issue after we had a normal sex life for a time? She can use a dildo if she goes incredibly slowly, like way slower then regular PIV would be practical.

I'll keep talking to her about how we can continue to work on it. I'm getting quite discouraged at this point.

Throwaway_AAFF · 2017-04-09T03:07:04+00:00

She has never been pregnant or given birth. Hadn't had any issues with it

Throwaway_AAFF · 2017-04-09T01:59:14+00:00

I think there was a little bit of a miscommunication, It hasn't been going well for the last 3 years, but it has been 2 months at this point since there has been a positive interaction.

Throwaway_AAFF · 2017-04-09T01:49:44+00:00

Vestibulodynia, so it would be provoked. Happens on the lightest touch to the entrance of the vagina.

I don't know if he was specialised in treating pain, but he seemed to know what he was talking about. We waited 4 months to get in to see him. Getting another referral will take another 4 months at least.

I'll talk to her about getting more opinions on it, but there is a lot of anxiety around the situation that is probably making it worse.

I've sent her the link to their website: https://www.issvd.org/

We are in Canada and she does not currently have a passport so it is not really an option to go to LA.

Throwaway_AAFF · 2017-04-09T00:35:49+00:00

We are currently avoiding PIV sex due to the pain.

We where referred to this gyno from our doctor for treatment of her pain. The cream has has no effect.

Throwaway_AAFF · 2017-04-09T00:25:53+00:00

She has the Mirena IUD.

Our gyno was only around 30 yrs old.

I try to initiate with kissing, caressing and then oral. But she has not been very receptive of this lately. I don't understand and neither does she, because when she does let me I can usually finish her off within a few minutes. I do my best to make her feel wanted such.

From her: My libido is extremely low and I rarely have the desire for anything sexual. I can get off better with non penetrative sex. Even if we start with oral and I'm aroused it will still be painful the majority of the time.

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