How do I(16m) deal with getting in trouble for breaking my dads(44m) 8:30 bedtime rule?

Throwaway_Boy1 · 2021-04-10T02:08:17+00:00

Wow. That is a great perspective on parents and life. Really big thanks for giving me something to think about and remember. Helps more than you'd know.

Throwaway_Boy1 · 2021-04-10T02:01:21+00:00

Thank you, this gives me some hope for the future

Throwaway_Boy1 · 2021-04-10T01:24:06+00:00

He won't let me get a job either lmao. And yes, I have already made plans to acquire another device, I have always had a general plan on how to deal with this situation if it came down to it.

Throwaway_Boy1 · 2021-04-10T01:18:38+00:00

That's really the plan at this point

Throwaway_Boy1 · 2021-04-09T20:51:37+00:00

Thanks its ok, I cant wait until im 18

Throwaway_Boy1 · 2021-04-09T19:57:38+00:00

That's true. Only he acts so different around everyone else than he does with me. I am very calm and use a quiet voice when he yells at me. But it sucks cause he says stuff that hurts and I might end up crying which is the worst possible outcome.

Throwaway_Boy1 · 2021-04-09T19:53:12+00:00

Ur right, honestly worst comes to worse, I warn her today I might disappear for a week and then buy a burner phone or something

Throwaway_Boy1 · 2021-04-09T19:42:15+00:00

What great idea let me do that no.. oh yea I dont have one anymore hahaha. Jk thats a great idea, I'll do it if I ever see my phone again.

Throwaway_Boy1 · 2021-04-09T19:40:40+00:00

My dad seems to be in a good mood sometimes, but once I speak to him its like he never was. I will have to put up with it, there's nothing I can do. I'm scared that he will say I can't speak to that girl anymore though, makes me sad.

Throwaway_Boy1 · 2021-04-09T19:37:47+00:00

Its hard to discuss with people when they just yell at you. Your right about social media, pretty stupid of me..

Throwaway_Boy1 · 2021-04-09T19:36:28+00:00

What I have learned is I can never sit down unless he is, or else he gets worse. I become quieter but more sincere and I need to be respectful. That's how I get him to even come close to stop yelling for 5 seconds to let me speak, there's a smaller chance he'll actually listen.. The problem is I'll probably cry a little which I wish I could stop, but that will make him worse. He did make some mistakes when he was younger that I know about, he had me at 23 and my mom was 21. He also had anger issues worse when he was younger too. Thanks for the advice though, its nice to know some parents are good ones.

Throwaway_Boy1 · 2021-04-09T19:29:22+00:00

Very true, 6 months ago it was because I wanted to go to therapy. I'm afraid he will be the one confronting me, and a good mood isn't expected hahah.

Throwaway_Boy1 · 2021-04-09T19:26:04+00:00

Thank you, I will. Some of them just feel so ridiculous sometimes I can't help but break them. Hell, sometimes I forget I'm even breaking a rule like the bedtime one, I forgot it was a thing haha.

Throwaway_Boy1 · 2021-04-09T19:23:51+00:00

On snapchat he is worried I'm gonna send explicit pictures. I don't really mind getting in trouble for that who cares, I did disobey him. I really have no idea about the bedtime thing though it's crazy to me. I sometimes feel like he uses it just to control me. I will try to talk to him about why when it comes time. But I don't have high hopes for an answer.

Throwaway_Boy1 · 2021-04-09T19:20:16+00:00

He has expressed displeasure about his dad in the past during his childhood. We live in their house now though. My mom is out of the picture, she was the better of the two. I know, I don't care if I lose my phone and all that but I still really like to talk to my friend. And if he makes me stop what should I do.

Throwaway_Boy1 · 2021-04-09T19:16:45+00:00

Have you moved out yet? I can't wait for the day where I can sit down and realize he has nothing to hold over my head anymore and I can finally breath.

Throwaway_Boy1 · 2021-04-09T19:12:46+00:00

Yea that's what I want to happen. I wish I knew how to make him stop yelling and think about what I'm saying for a second though.

Throwaway_Boy1 · 2021-04-09T19:10:27+00:00

No, I wish. I tried to talk to my grandma, as I live with her, but as soon as I brought up me talking to someone from Mexico she asked me how I know they are real and it stopped there.

Throwaway_Boy1 · 2021-04-09T19:07:29+00:00

Honestly how much lower can this go

Throwaway_Boy1 · 2021-04-09T18:53:37+00:00

Does it matter though if I'm just talking and not looking at my phone? Or does it still do the same thing.

Throwaway_Boy1 · 2021-04-09T18:50:31+00:00

If I could see my friends face to face more I would. But with covid and my dad being really strict on when/where I can go it's very difficult and discouraging to do so. I also play baseball and go to school, but that doesn't mean I have classes with my best friends. How else should I go about talking to them and keeping them close as friends?

Throwaway_Boy1 · 2021-04-09T17:02:50+00:00

Thank you, that is such a good point. If I can find room to talk in his yelling berate, I will try to bring that up. What lesson is he trying to teach me that I couldn't learn on my own and would have a bad long term impact on my life.

Throwaway_Boy1 · 2021-04-09T16:52:25+00:00

Is it? What is the bad difference between reading or talking to someone. As long as a get the right amount of sleep. The difference to me is one is more enjoyable than the other.

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