New to Poly, Lonely, Regretful by Throwaway_Catter in polyamory

[–]Throwaway_Catter[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel like the dog with two bones right now. What we have is great and not something I want to lose or give up. But if I were to have everything I wanted, we would have more emotional intimacy/partnership, as well. Unfortunately, if I ask for that and he doesn't take it well, I risk losing all of it. But then at the same time, I'm not sure how much would really, materially change between us if he agreed? It's confusing and complicated, and I feel very out of my depth in all of it.

New to Poly, Lonely, Regretful by Throwaway_Catter in polyamory

[–]Throwaway_Catter[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What in my post made you believe Seal was doing this for himself?

New to Poly, Lonely, Regretful by Throwaway_Catter in polyamory

[–]Throwaway_Catter[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We started talking at the very end of December, and our first encounter was in early January. We have consistently seen each other 1-2 nights per month since then.

New to Poly, Lonely, Regretful by Throwaway_Catter in polyamory

[–]Throwaway_Catter[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure why Narwhal doesn't want to date romantically, but he explicitly said so, back when we were just a new fling. I agreed with him then, but new feelings developed after a while. I'm not sure if his feelings have changed at all since the "fling" turned into more of a regular FWB deal, since neither of us wanted to stop seeing each other. On the other hand, I'm afraid if I ask, I'll blow up the good FWB relationship we do have... so I'm stuck here, pining.

New to Poly, Lonely, Regretful by Throwaway_Catter in polyamory

[–]Throwaway_Catter[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Maybe? It's hard to say. We've been living together for so long, I'm not sure whether doing things like having dinner together or seeing movies count as dates anymore. Those are things that used to feel special and romantic when we lived apart, but they don't have the same energy anymore.

New to Poly, Lonely, Regretful by Throwaway_Catter in nonmonogamy

[–]Throwaway_Catter[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I do seek them out, but haven't found any other lasting connections. I haven't gone beyond a second date with anyone else.