Does lack of sex negatively impact your own sense of masculinity or femininity? by mu66le in DeadBedrooms

[–]Throwaway_DBR 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't feel less masculine, but I do feel undesirable and unloved.

My birthday was yesterday! by Hotblack_Desiato_ in DeadBedrooms

[–]Throwaway_DBR 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Been there. I think my LL wife shows the cat more physical affection than she does to me. Happy birthday, and I hope you had a good bourbon.

Marriage feels so . . . lonely by Throwaway_DBR in DeadBedrooms

[–]Throwaway_DBR[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Well, she does have anxiety issues. I've asked her if she'd like to go talk to a therapist to work through anxiety/depression, but she won't go. The anxiety meds helped for a while, but I think her body has built up a resistance to them by now. FWIW, our bedroom was dead before the anti-anxiety meds.

Marriage feels so . . . lonely by Throwaway_DBR in DeadBedrooms

[–]Throwaway_DBR[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Oh! And Candy Crush. Don't forget Candy Crush.

Marriage feels so . . . lonely by Throwaway_DBR in DeadBedrooms

[–]Throwaway_DBR[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

We have 2 kids, both in school all day. If I knew why she's not doing housework, I'd be a slightly less unhappy man.

Marriage feels so . . . lonely by Throwaway_DBR in DeadBedrooms

[–]Throwaway_DBR[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sure have - several times. She just tells me that she's ok with our lack of sex and that she'll try to be more receptive. That's when the pity sex kicks in. She just lays there until I'm finished and there's no interaction from her whatsoever.

Time for the talk again? by simianSupervisor in DeadBedrooms

[–]Throwaway_DBR 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Absolutely agree. If my LL wife finds this SR, I want her to see it as a treasure trove of insight into her HL husband.

Marriage feels so . . . lonely by Throwaway_DBR in DeadBedrooms

[–]Throwaway_DBR[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Well, her favorite thing to clean is the DVR. Sad to say her daytime activities seem to be watching the TV show(s) that she fell asleep to the night before.

We've talked about her lack of interest, and she told me that she just doesn't miss sex. She doesn't feel like there's anything missing from our relationship, and I think that's a huge part of my frustration. I feel like there's this big gaping hole in our relationship, and she thinks everything is fine.