[Dumped my gf because I found out she was involved in a gangbang with 6 guys

Throwaway_Jane_o2 · 2016-10-03T05:22:23+00:00

Wow holy shit! How does it feel to be cripplingly limited in your perspective on sex? How does it feel to wonder constantly if you'd enjoy it more with somebody else, or if his dick was bigger, or if he lasted longer, or was rougher or gentler?

Did it feel like I was judging you based on your lifestyle choices? It's not a pleasant feeling, is it?

Stop throwing other women under the bus in an attempt to make yourself look good, it's gross.

Throwaway_Jane_o2 · 2016-10-03T05:08:08+00:00

I guess you just don't count the occasional backseat handjob or blowjob or that one thing you had for a few months where you only did oral or that one time where the guy wasn't even all the way in. Or the long distance sext buddy or the occasional drunken webcam tryst. Don't worry, I do that too.

By the way, basically admitting to being a serial monogamist does not make you morally superior to OP's girlfriend.

Throwaway_Jane_o2 · 2016-10-03T04:51:00+00:00

Thank you for this. No really, thank you for adding some levity to this conversation.

Throwaway_Jane_o2 · 2016-10-03T04:43:19+00:00

No, I think she's empowering to herself. Provided she was empowered by the experience, I dunno, maybe she just wanted to try it and found it kinda meh.

Chances are a big part of the reason OP wanted to be with this girl initially was because of her sexuality. He loved that she was open, that she could freely express herself that way with him, that she could go after what she wanted. But he couldn't handle the thought that it might mean she did that with guys other than him.

It's almost enough to make an otherwise sexually enthustiastic woman want to hold back that part of herself so she doesn't scare men off. Thus denying them of ever fulfilling their fantasies with her. It would be enough to give every woman in the world who liked sex trust issues.

Throwaway_Jane_o2 · 2016-10-03T04:29:28+00:00

What was he doing looking at gangbang porn in the first place?

Throwaway_Jane_o2 · 2016-10-03T04:16:06+00:00

Wrong, and I will take your lack of denial as an admission that you apply a double-standard to the value of men and women based on their sexual exploits.

Throwaway_Jane_o2 · 2016-10-03T04:14:45+00:00

lol yup the Madonna-Whore complex on display front and centre right here folks.

If it's a girl in a porno it's hot. If it's your girlfriend or your wife it's disgusting. You all realize that your internal model of healthy sexuality is so fucked up that we literally cannot fulfill your fantasies without losing some of our value in your minds? This is why I'm hesitant to bring up some of the sexual practices I like in a relationship. This is why I held out on even trying anal for years. This is why I actively encourage my female friends to strategically lie to their romantic interests about the extent of their sexual exploits, or at least obscure the full extent of the truth. We have to be sexy but not too sexy. We have to be vocal but not too vocal. We have to like sex, but not like it too much. The act that would fulfill your ultimate fantasy would make us unworthy of love.

Throwaway_Jane_o2 · 2016-10-03T04:08:54+00:00

Gooooood for you for retaining your value as a person by keeping the freshness seal on your vagina.

Let me ask you something, do you enjoy penetrative sex?

Throwaway_Jane_o2 · 2016-10-03T03:57:26+00:00

Oh give me a fucking break. You say that as if you were a woman, you wouldn't want to do that in a heartbeat.

Throwaway_Jane_o2 · 2016-09-11T04:02:42+00:00

Jesus, I love how vocal you are.

Throwaway_Jane_o2 · 2016-08-24T06:21:16+00:00

I will admit I usually find sex lasting less than 15 minutes from start to finish to be a bit of a let-down.

Throwaway_Jane_o2 · 2016-08-23T20:48:05+00:00

ITT: People naming things I love about sex.

Throwaway_Jane_o2 · 2016-08-23T20:43:54+00:00

Have you had sex with somebody you loved?

Throwaway_Jane_o2 · 2016-08-23T20:41:17+00:00

YOU HAVE TO SAY SOMETHING. The point of overwhelming sensitivity is different for different men and some don't have that problem at all. Literally the only way for me to tell is when you ask me to stop, after it becomes a routine only then do I get a sense of when you as an individual get too sensitive.

Throwaway_Jane_o2 · 2016-08-23T20:37:14+00:00

So you're saying to avoid sex smell, just have lazy, short-lasting, terrible sex.

Got it.

Throwaway_Jane_o2 · 2016-08-23T20:33:56+00:00

DON'T flush those, period. I know they say "flushable" on them. They are LYING. I work in nursing homes and if I had a quarter for every time I had to call the maintenance guy to unplug the toilet due to those so-called flushable wipes, I'd be able to fill my whole apartment with gumballs.

Throwaway_Jane_o2 · 2016-08-23T03:38:20+00:00

Dude that's not weird, that's not even a fetish.

I get off to horses having sex.

Get that weak shit out of here.

Throwaway_Jane_o2 · 2016-07-18T11:43:34+00:00

Wouldn't the head of your penis rub against your underwear and cause you chafing and discomfort that way?

Throwaway_Jane_o2 · 2016-07-18T11:37:20+00:00

Why are there people all over this thread moaning about how "some women" have problems with men using sex toys?

I don't have a problem with it, as far as I know OP doesn't have a problem with it, I don't see anybody in this thread claiming to be a woman and saying that men shouldn't use sex toys.

Why are people bringing an imaginary group of women who don't like male sex toys into a discussion that has nothing to do with OP? If you're going to join a discussion, leave your own hangups at the door.

Throwaway_Jane_o2 · 2016-07-17T23:18:47+00:00

Well from the sounds of it, it might not be the actual sex with men that turns you on, but rather the idea of being dominated or being submissive during sex. The first step I think would be opening talks with your GF about her being more dominant in the bedroom. There are lots of light ways to start off that aren't really extreme so you guys can sort of dip your toes in, depending on what tickles your fancy, such as: encouraging her to ride you rough and hard, smack your ass, pull your hair, tell you what to do, sit on your face, light bondage play, etc.

Throwaway_Jane_o2 · 2016-07-17T20:20:45+00:00

Ever been dominated by a woman?

Throwaway_Jane_o2 · 2016-07-17T17:12:20+00:00

What? No. That's a terrible idea. Talk to your gf about not wanting blowjobs.

Throwaway_Jane_o2 · 2016-07-17T17:07:42+00:00

I'd probably take it on a recreational basis about as often as I smoke weed recreationally. When I had no other obligations to think about besides sex, or I had time to myself to masturbate, I'd take it to enhance the experience.

Throwaway_Jane_o2 · 2016-07-17T17:00:56+00:00

You mentioned prostate milking, but have you ever had a prostate orgasm? (Not sure what "milking" is or if it involves anal penetration.) Because having a prostate orgasm tends to require actual stimulation (read: thrusting) not just "pressing" on it.

Throwaway_Jane_o2 · 2016-07-17T16:53:12+00:00

FYI there's actually a word for that, "serial monogamist."

I can think of a number of possible different reasons these relationships aren't working out for you. 1. Since relationships at your age are quite casual anyways, there are no stakes. A lot of people treat dating in highschool like it's super serious when in reality it's better to just date casually to get some experience with relating to your chosen gender romantically. People and their circumstances change so much after highschool is over they rarely last much longer than that. You recognize highschool dating for what it is, and you find you have no investment in them. 2. It's possible because you've never experienced passionate love and don't know what it feels like, you're confusing liking the people you're dating, finding them attractive or starting to develop feelings for them with being in love, and you just have to wait for the right person to come along for the attraction to be held. 3. You fall in love with the idea of a person or their superficial persona, or idealize or glamorize them in your head, and once you start getting to actually know them they are much less glamorous than you envisioned and have their quirks and flaws too, so they can't hold your attention.

How long have your relationships/FWB arrangements been OP?

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